I had a miscarriage at the end of april, and i am now pregnant again as of approx July 1st. i am finding it so hard to go everyday without worrying if it is going to happen again. I have a very happy and healthy 21 month old. How did everyone on here deal with being pregnant after a miscarriage? Also at the last doctors visit he tried to find a heartbeat but couldn't, but he said that its nothing to worry about,but how can i not worry? I am only 18, plz don't criticize for my age, and having another child right now is the right thing for us to do and what we want. So if anyone could please tell me how they got through a situation similar as mine or just want to share anything in general it would be so greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance. ↓
Freeflying angel. Congrats on your pregnancy. Also sorry to hear of your former miscarriage.:( My doc told me that once you conceive again after a miscarriage. THe chances of something going wrong the second time are 50% less likely to happen again. The fact that you are passed 12 weeks gives you only a 2% chance of a loss at this point. IF you are truly stressed have another ultrasound. You could also order a doppler from babybeats dot com. That is what I did. I just suffered a mc. my lmp was july 19th. I had to have a D&C 2 weeks ago. My babies heart never started beating. This was my 4th loss. I have had 2 missed miscarriages and one mc and one ectopic. But I also have a 22 month old (close in age to your lo) I think you are clear sailing. Enjoy your pregnancy as much as you can. This is a different baby and a differnet pregnancy altogether. Your baby deserves a stress free pregnancy. I have a good feeling everything will be just fine for you.All the best to you. ↑
Kristin is right on about everything she said, so ditto there. My question is why in the world would a doctor not be able to get the heartbeat and just leave it at that??????? Mine and most I would think would either try longer or order an ultrasound! I'd call and demand something like that seriously. I understand your worry though and it would drive me nuts. I had several early losses before giving birth to my daughter in July. I was awreck the whole pregnancy, lol... ↑
I got through my pregnancy by the skin of my teeth! I have had two miscarriages and four term births. One at 6weeks and one at 14w4d between my 2nd and 3rd pregnancy and between my 3rd and 4th pregnancy. A doppler is the only thing that saved my sanity and stopped me getting black listed from the hospital! As for the doctor, honestly? I would be getting a second opinion and a scan to make sure all is well. It isn't normal not to find a heartbeat after about 10 weeks but it isn't uncommon as the baby can move around a lot. With your history of a previous m/c your doctor should be checking you a little more carefully this time around. I know Stef quite well (we both post on the Clean Slate) and a nervous wreck doesn't begin to cover what she was like when she was pregnant and with good reason but seriously! She worried over stuff most people wouldn't think of! A lot depends on your support around you too and having a good doctor who will try and set your fears aside is almost a necessity in a pregnancy after miscarriage. Good luck hon. I hope all goes well and you have a healthy baby in a few months. ↑
thank-you all so much for what you have had to say. I have a doctors appointment tomorrow and would be glad to update everyone if you are interested. I haven't had an ultrasound yet, it is to be booked for around November 17th. Also i am hoping to clear with the doctor of me getting a job to possible help take my mind off of thinking of the worst. i would only be working till christmas but its better than nothing. Kristin your "statistics" are quite comforting and eases my mind a bit, Thank-you. Stef, I dont know why he would just leave not finding the heartbeat but he did say its nothing to worry about and that some babies could be heard that early and some cant. I am going to ask him to check again tomorrow, there should for sure be a heartbeat now. i'm crossing my fingers. I live in a small town and know approx. 3 ppl and my family isnt near me and they are having some problems of their own, so essentially i dont have much of a support system, usually i don't mind it, but there are those days where i just need to talk.. Thats all i can think of to say, so i will check in tomorrow or friday and see if anyone wants an update... Thank-you all once again. :) ↑
Freeflyingangel, definitely check in be it good news or bad. We want only good though so no pressure! LOL! Ask for an earlier scan if he doesn't fine the heartbeat again tomorrow. In fact if he doesn't find it tomorrow push for one immediately. The 17th is 3 odd weeks away which is fine if your appointment has gone well. As for the job if you are well and you can balance your other wee one then go for it. Just expect to get tired easily if you are on your feet all the time even at this stage. I expect to hear good news later or tomorrow!!!! ↑
Yes, please update us and like Tory said, demand an u/s or something if he can't find a h/b. If he is using a doppler he should find one at this point because if you found out you were pregnant on july1, then you'd be well past 3 mos and a doppler can pick up heartbeat as early as 8 weeks, but most docs wait till 12 weeks. Good luck and I know everything will be fine:) ↑
hi, im new on here so i dont rly know wot to write but i feel i need to write this to get it out of my system!
i got pregnant in feb 08 and me and my bf were over the moon, i had loads of scans, duno why, but they were all great! when i was 15 weeks pregnant i had a bit of brwon bleeding bt was oviusly scared so i went to st micheals hospital. i had a scan there and they said everything was fine :D but then the next day i had more bleeding and this time it was red, so i went back to the hospita, had another scan but this time they had a worried face but only said to me and my bf that the fluid was low, which we were concerned about but they said it wasnt major, i also found out that day that i had to have anti d throughout my pregnancy as my blood group is a-. anyway the following week i went to frenchay hospital and had a really detailed scan and the doc (or whoever it is tht scans :s) was worried that my little boys head was far too big in comparrison to his body. i then had an amnistatisis on the same day, which really hurt! i had to wait about a week to find out the result. the phone call came on monday the 9th of june, it was bad news "im really sorry but your unborn baby has triploidy" i oviusly didnt know wot that ment but burst into tears and was on my own as my bf was at college.
i had to go into hospital the following thursday (12th) and take a pill that would soften my cervix. 2days later me and my bf were off to the hospital where i spent 10 hours in labour giving birht to our baby boy who was born at 00.26 on sunday the 25th june! i was only 17 wks 4 days but you could tell it was a baby but he was red! i got to hold him a took pictures!
we burried our son on the 23rd on june 2008 and he is greatly missed! he would be due in just under 3 weeks.
i would like to add that giving birth to my son was not my choice it was the docs but they said if i had gone to full term he would have been stillborn anyway or would have died within a few minutes of being alive as triploidy is not compatible with life!
sorry about the massive load of wrting but i just needed to get that off my chest!
Well, first off i want to say thank-you for your support. :) So the doctors today was a very GOOD today1 The doctor found the heartbeat and said it was about 150 i believe and that i am at 16 &1/2 weeks. We talked about the job and he said it was fine and that i may get tired, but to bassically listen to myself and if my body says stop, not to push it. The ultra-sound is booked for Nov.17th and the next doctors on the 25th of november. So all in all it was a good day.. Also my fiancee was with me today and he said when i heard the heartbeat he could see the relief and joy on my face...:) But being that it is 3 am right now and i cant sleep and been up since midnight(heartburn).. tomorrow not going to be so good... lol Thanks again... hopefully we keep this as an ongoing thing... It would be nice..:) ttyl ↑
Freeflyingangel, congratulations on the baby and the good appointment. Your elaise it may be a girl with that heartbeat? Riplm, I am so so sorry to hear of your loss with your little one. I would imagine it was a terrible shock and an awful decision to have to make. I had a similar one with my second miscarriage but my decision was also based on the fact my baby had already died. It is an awful thing to go through and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. ↑
so to update...i had an ultrasound today and i saw the heartbeat and evrything else was normal.. if you want to see ultrasound pics go here facebook.com/album.php?aid=179722&am-p;l=068a7&id=837460220Advertise
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Hello again. I can't get the link to work hon but if you are on FB and fancy it, look me up under Victoria Carpenter. I will be under the Northern Ireland Network. Picture of me with dark hair and kind of landscape painting behind me if that helps. ↑
