Hi girls, this is the first time I am posting in the age forum. I am 33 (34 in April) and have been trying very hard to conceive baby #1 for the past 6 months with no luck! (had some thyroid problems to correct that are now stablized). Anyway, last night my husband and I were talking and we started thinking we might like to wait a little longer (possibly another year) to start ttc again. We are enjoying our lives so much and we figured since we are planning on me not working that i could not work without the baby for a year and really travel and do things. We're not newly weds...we've been together for 10 years. We just get along so well and have so much fun, sometimes it's hard to imagine adding or changing anything! What do you girls think? Smart? or selfish? ↓
Hey there! im almost 32 and almost 16wks preg with my first. Before this, i had travelled a lot with my hubby, and enjoyed a good many years just enjoying each others company and had a lot of fun... it did take me 2 years ttc before now tho (had 2 m/c along the way), so glad i started when i did...as i didnt want to be much old than i am, especially as i want to have 3 children all up! Its all personal choice, and its not selfish at all to not want them yet...the things id worry about is the risks increase for problems as you get older, m/c's and infertility are more common, and of course, just being an older mum can be hard - maybe not for first 10 or so years, but when theyre teens and your already over 50 it might get draining.. . My parents are now mid 60's and living it up travelling the world and retired and enjoying their lives so much now that all the kids are grown up and older....thats another option, have them now and save some of your time together til later in life ..otherwise you will be sacrificing that later time as you wil be busy with kids. :) Totally individual choice tho. Good luck and hope all works out for you! ↑
It is very nice to have a life before a child and like you say enjoy your life together, being that bit older means you are probaly more mature and financial stable, however age is against us ladies and we all know how the conception rate decreases after 30 but thats not to say you wont concieve no problem. Just think how much you want this child? every year does make a difference at this age... and therefore may take longer. I mean the baby takes 9 months to get here so why not go for it even if you fall pregnant now you still have time fo you and your partner before it comes. Good Luck xxx ↑
At our age it's a bit of a tossup, really. I'm 35, and I'm damn glad I waited to have kids. I've gone to grad school, traveled to over a dozen countries and lived in three besides my own. I've done enough in my life so far that I'm 100% ready to devote the rest of it to my children and *always* put them before me. That said, it took us 19 cycles, 5 IUIs and injectables to get pregnant. Is it my age? I doubt it, since my identical twin sister got pregnant within a couple months of quitting birth control. But we do need to keep in mind that it may not happen as quickly as we expect. I don't think you're selfish at all to wait, and in fact it sounds like it's the right thing for you at this point. But I wouldn't wait much longer than that. You never know what challenges you could be faced with. Good luck! ↑
You are not selfish at all honey. I just turned 34 and I have a one year old. I had a stillbirth before her. I loved my life in my 20's and loved it just being me and my husband. I totally understand where you are coming from. BUT I have to say that having my baby girls is the best thing I have ever done. I always thought I didn't want children at all and then I decided to try once and got pregnant right away. When our Sophie was stillborn at 7months and I held her in my arms I knew I had to have another baby and prayed for my baby girl. Then Sadie came along. She is the light of our lives. Do howere be sure you are ready. It is a big change and you just don't drop everything and take off like you used to. I myself miss going to the bookstore an sitting with a cup of coffee for hours. :), but you can't do that with a baby. LOL As for knowing when you are ready. I don't think you are ever ready for a baby. You just have to hold your breath and jump in. :) It is wonderful and you will be glad you did. ↑
