my son is 8.5,i tried for 7 years to get him and he is my life, my pregnancy was horrendous and i said never again, finally after three years of post natal depression and now just getting over clinical depression, i want another child my husband is all for it providing we can get his vasectomy reversed, but when i told my mum my thoughts, she looked at me as though i had horns sticking out of my head, am i mad? also ive already passed the big 40 ↓
How did ur last pregnancy go? I am 40 and 24 weeks preg. My husband had a reversal last year so we could have a child together. He has 2 and I have 1 from a previous. My dd is 21 and in the military. His are younger....and his vasectomy was over 10 yrs old. We are exactly the same age. I dont think ur too old.... If it helps...my current pg totally sucks. I have horrible carpal tunnel since 16 weeks...gestational diabetes...borderline hi blood pressure....swollen ankles...and my back kills me...I have to wear a brace when im at work. (I am a nurse whose on her feet most of the time). Plus i get heart palpitations and panic attacks..... Can't wait for this to be over and i feel human again. I am excited about the baby overall....it's been so long. Just get me thru to the part where he is OUT. You guys should have no trouble.....good luck! ↑
Hi docbytch, congrats on ur pg, my last pregnancy was hell, constant heartburn from 8 weeks pg, so much so that for the entire pg i never had one full night sleep, my pelvis split at 5 mths and by six mths i was on the strongest painkiller available every 4 hours 24/7, all this did was make me constipated. This just added to the pelvic pain so all in all it was pretty rubbish.Now im getting over the depression i think i would cope with it better. Im really nervous about the whole thing but excited at the same time.So your nearly halfway through keep going , and thanks for your support ↑
what do you mean by your pelvis split? Literally? Yikes. I am curious if you live in Canada or the UK? It may be your reluctance to actively pursue another child stems from less acceptance of older moms or parents in those countries? ↑
yes i live in the uk, does that make a difference,what i meant by split pelvis was i was told by the midwife that as my pelvis softened to ready itself for the birth it split at the front.I think youmight be right , i sometimes think people look at me now as im only one of a few older mums that go to the school, also im really scared that it will all happen again.Tomorrow we've got an appointment with the doctor to enquire about vasectomy reversal , so watch this space, i know it may not happen but i can only try ↑
Well Loobie if this helps, it has always been my philosophy to thumb my nose up at the notion of "convention." Do not worry about your mom either....I know if you actually were to become pregnant she would likely be more than thrilled! I don't blame you for wanting another child... Heck I thought I would NEVER have another one...but then I never expected to marry either. Did you ever find out why it took over 7 yrs for you to conceive your son? ↑
The reason it took me 7 yrs to get pregnant was i have a twisted pelvis and my husband has a low sperm count, my ovaries and womb are not in the right place , my doctor says im one in a million!, today we went to see about getting a vasectomy reversal and were told that iunder no circumstances do the nhs fund reversals, but there quite happy to refer us to a private clinic. So im going to look into the cost of funding it ourselves ↑
I think it's one of those questions nobody knows the answer to - would your pregnancy be similar to the previous one, or different. I had two close pregnancies (births at 39 1/2 and 41) and the second one was a bit harder, but maybe it was because they were closely spaced. I'm Canadian, I had no experience that my age would be frowned upon. Lots of older moms! Prepare for your preg the best way you can, be at the height of your health, that helps tremendously with pg and post-pg. ↑
Insurance companies in the US are the same way. We had to pay out-of-pocket $6500. I know it's fewer British Pounds at current exchange rates...but I Dunno the price of healthcare in the UK realtively speaking/ We had to save for quite a while before we could do it. Twisted pelvis? Wow. Do you know if your condition has a name? With your uterus and ovaries being in odd positions you did very well having a baby. Keep your chin up!! ↑
weve just got to try and save now, in the uk healthcare unfortunately is worked by what we call the postcode lottery, certain parts of the country will fund the operation and guess what oxfordshire where i live doesnt, we could try another county but you have to prove that youve lived there for a minimum of twelve months, but im not going to let it get me down, as far as i know my pelvis condition during my pregnancy was called symphisis pubis dysfunction (i think thats how you spell it) but as for it being twisted i was born with it, I have had it for such a long time now its just become part of me , when it gets too painful i take painkillers but i try not to rely on them too much. Deep down i dont think i will ever have another baby but i aim to stay positive and not give up hope ↑
