Question: Ok so my aunt wants to throw me a baby shower way to early and she wants it to be on the same day as my bday party. I am afraid to communicate with her about how i feel because she is kind of a control freak would it be wrong to have two baby showers one by her for my family and just throw one myself for my friends??? ?
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Answer: Nothing wrong with that at all. I had two showers also with my first. It is just better to separate friends and family sometimes. It is sometimes a more comfortable situation for your friends if it is just you and them. How far along are you? I will be 30 weeks on thursday, and my shower this time will be at 35 weeks 2 days. Do you even have a registry ready? =
Answer: Hey, forgot to say, if you really don't want the shower combined with your bday (which I completely understand), then you have to tell her. Tell her that you envisioned a real shower, with a theme, and decorations. You know something that screams BABY SHOWER! Besides if it is combined with your birthday, won't there be men and a bunch of kids there? I wouldn't want that. Your baby shower should be strictly about you and the baby to come. It should not be done at someone elses conveinience. Don't be shy about this. You are going to want the games with the girls and the cake and the guest book with all the sweet messages, not to mention all the baby talk and sharing of stories. If you have a hard time talking to your aunt about it, then have your mom intervene as well. Things should be done the way you want, not the way your aunt thinks it should be. =
Answer: I"m almost 20 weeks.. and thanx for the advice i guess i need to learn how to be more assertive!
I know the baby shower will be a ways away but it's still something to think about! =
Answer: Hey, also, you shouldn't have to throw a shower for yourself. Talk to your closest girlfriend and just ask if she was thinking of doing one for you. If it would be a financial strain on one then ask two. There is nothing wrong with inquiring about it. =
Answer: I thought you only had showers and registries with the first baby? =
Answer: If you have a baby of the opposite sex it is perfectly acceptable. Also, sometimes friends and family want to do it for you. There is also a new trend where mothers have shower with only wrapped cards with donations to childrens charities. You still get the cake, games, cards and photos for the album, but it is a charity event. =
Answer: thanx for your help and yes i kno mothers shouldnt throw there own baby showers but i just want everything to be perfect...would it be weird if i helped plan it? =
Answer: It also is a good idea sometimes if it is a second baby (or even a first) to have a diaper shower. All the guests bring a pack of diapers instead of the traditional gifts of clothes and other baby things. I had a diaper shower with my first (we had two other showers, and had already recieved most of the big things we needed). DS is now nearly 8 months old, and I still have yet to buy any diapers. I think I have about 10-15 packages left! Believe me, it helps out a lot!! :) And most people are going to probably get you something, even if it is a second baby. Might as well be something useful? Right? =
