Hi Everyone. For those of you who have been following my post threatened miscarriage. Yesterday I found out I lost my baby =( Just to refresh: I got positive preg. test a few weeks ago. On Wednesday I went to doctor and by LMP I was 7wk6d. The baby measured 5wk6d. The size was ideal for my dates & my late ovulation(long cycler here!). I went to doc on Wed. b/c I was spotting brown. Not much but scanty. No cramps and my symptoms very strong. They saw fetal pole but no heartbeat, however they were pleased with the size and said come back in two weeks. Then my HCG levels came in. On 6/13 it was 2311.8 (low for a 5wk 1d measurment maybe but still in range). On 6/18(day of spotting) it was 2200something. Went down. OUtlook not good? Yesterday I coudn't sit knowing the levels, so I went to the OB I never seen before but had scheduled for my first Prenatal Appt. in July... She didn't like the stats I gave her, but was optimistic. She took blood, examined me. Said the spotting wasn't much her concern, as was the level stats. So then she told her tech to give me sonogram. ONLY SACK. No more yolk or fetal pole and the sack was changing shape and small. =( I am sad.. one day see my dot on screen, feel my body nourishing a baby even if so tiny.. next two day.. nothing.. GONE. I was told the preg prob wasn't viable from the get based on levels but even so, she advised how it was great I got pregnant on my second try and it wasn't meant this one.. my body sees that and it let it go before major development. I know =( ... My question is 1)then why did a embryo even devleop? If it did then doesn't that mean things are going good? 2)alhto she explained it some, I was in a zone so I want to ask you guys.. in two days.. is it just expelled from the sack? absorbed? came out with spotting? and 3)I am schedule to get D&C Wed night but I may push it to Friday b/c the wkend I rest. She said the ges sac may come out but she wants to clean me out and so I can start fresh and I am fine with this but scared of the process a lil. Also, would it start to come out on its own? Thank you ladies for reading and thank you ladies for your answers to my 3 concerns. (p.s: I am RH negative I think they may give me a shot and also- I believe she said she will be sending somethings to the lab so 4)what can they discover?) Thanks again ladies and my thoughts are out to all of you in here as well =( ? (I posted this in another forum but put it here for those of you who have been following and concerned- THANK YOU! for those that can offer insight.. I appreciate it) I plan to be back after a cycle or two but I may not write until I am in the clear- however I will be back!
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Lady, I'm so sorry for your loss. They checked my Rh when I started spotting and were very concerned about it. If it was negative, I think they might have given me shots from the beginning. So please do ask about that in case they can give you shots from the beginning next time. I hope your next time comes really soon. I'll be watching for you. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I'm glad you found a good OB. ↑
Thank you FinallyPreggers. For the next few days I will prob be on for input. The shot they give at 28 and 32 weeks (approx.) but w/miscarriage I believe the shot is needed. I shall find out next week. I am just having wacky hope they HCG comes back super high and the ultrasound before the procedure will show the fetus again lol. I know I am just having wacky hope. But with all seriousness what will this be called since the fetus was seen days prior. (I will ask more ques. of course when I go back, it was just that yesterday I was too in a "zone" to generate questions while so numb inside) ↑
I am so sorry!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know that doesn't help much when you are hurting but know ou have support here!!!!!!!!!!!! ok as for your questions I had 2 m/c in 2007 at 6 weeks and at 9 weeks...your body knows if the babies cells are not lining up right and it is natures selection and it naturally rids a pregnancy that isn't healthy ...there are # of reacons for this but from what I understand d-n-a not lining up is a common factor. When the send it for test that can determne if that is the case or if it was do to something in your body that might need some adjusting like hormones etc. so the test is a good thing because if it was something like that the doc can help get you better b4 the next pg. And the good thing about the d-n-c is that you get pregnant quicker after having one. It is great that it only took 2 tries. I also get pregnant real easy( 1-2 tries) but then had 2 m/c...I know me and this man can have babies since I have 2 kids but for some unknown reason I had them....My doc put me on progestrine with this pg because it helps women who are at rsk for m/c sustain the pregnancy(as much as nature allows) ask your doc about using this on your next pg. I will pray for u and dh for peace and understanding and that you are soon blessed with another!! i am hear if you want to talk vent scream etc..... Please just let me know ↑
breezieb- thank you so much. it is very endearing to have this support and i appreciate u much. i am sorry for your losses in the past but your story gives hope and i am excited for you w/ur current preg. best wishes! i hope to be able to offer woman hope real soon. in fact after 3rd month i plan to sit and do just that b/c it means so much to get it! ...right now i am in the phase where i am talking with my mom back and forth with questions/pointing things out back and forth all morning. also i am faced w/retelling the story to the people i chose to tell i was pregnant =( ...Physically i have a lil period cramps like it may come but it don't. i do plan to take it easy and i imagine a d&c next week would b suffice. there is jus a sac now so i wonder does it stay put until hcg goes low before it tries to come out? i am hoping it holds off until d&c. speaking of can u share your exper w/d&c? as for trying thereafter, was advised to wait 2 cycles to try thereafter. one thing at a time right =/ (thanks again breezie and i hope you are enjoying your wkend) ↑
LadyBoleyn1, I am very sorry. I've been there. I've lost 3 pregnancies. I just wanted to answer one of your questions. When I had my m/c, I expelled everything on my own. My body just flushed it all out, and I never had to have a D&C. However, I don't think that's the case with every woman. If they say you need a D&C, you should probably get one b/c you don't want to risk infection. Plus, you make sure everything is all ready for your next attempt. It will happen. Stay positive! ↑
So sorry for you're loss. Like finally said they really should have given yu a rhogam shot when you 1st started spotting. Im Rh neg as well and have had 3 miscarriages. I had to have a rhogam shot with even the tiniest hint of spotting. Dont worry about the d&c.. It doesnt do any damage as long as its performed correctly. ↑
Thanks for your input. I will talk with the OB as soon as I see her. before I was running in and out of Gy's so fast in panic etc cause I didn't have an OB yet. But I found a great OB who took careful attention to the fact I am negative and dh positive so I am expecting our next visit (altho its the d&c) to discuss this. I am afraid now the fact I didn't. I think they have a test to check the antibodies though, don't they. O god I hope this isn't something I have to worry about now =/ ... But this is my first pregnancy that I am aware of so hopefully its not to late to get the shot and make things right.... I don't believe this happened ↑
u kno wats most odd is how the fetus is there one day and now no yolk or pole in ges sac. i asked where it goes she advised absorbed or expelled in the discharge. i was too in upset to think of more ques bc now i have so many. ↑
lady - as for my D-N-C's( I have had 2) they said to wait 1 month but I seen sites that said 2 and 3. i opted for three and went on baby asprin, zinc, folic acid, prenateals etc. i stopped the pill in april and had my first cycle on May 17th and got pregnant very first try. I had my doc do hcg and progestrine checks right away!! I am really hoping the progestrine helps...I really have so much confidence being on it!!! maybe you can set that up with your doc. But yeah my previous doc said just one cycle was enough. I guess it depends on your comfort level. He also said since the clear everything out it is easier to get pregnant after d-n-c but because they clean everything out is why you need that month to build up linning again. The d-n-c it self was never painful for me (u don't feel it while they do it cause u r asleep) but afterwards I had light cramps for 1-2 days and had minimal bleeding defently smaller than AF worth. are you gonna see how you feel in regards to trying again or set a timeframe now? Also there is this really cool poem called transformation when I am having a hard time I read it and It helps! It is by Martha Beck if you google it should come up. ↑
I just seen about the rh- my SIL is also rh- and the doc gave her rohgam shot to after her misscarrage and I was with her when he explained that with any type of bleeding it needs to be folowed up with rohgam shot because if not then when your body goes to make antibodies it will make specific to attack the foreign blood in your body( I didn't explain it wel but it is along those lines) Have you ever been given a rohgam shot b4? ↑
Breezie I am going to look up that poem. I like the title. Thank you so much! As for the shot, I never had it before but I will def make sure I get it when this is all said and done. You said "after" the miscarriage so I imagine you mean when she was through with bleeding and/or d&c? Today I started light cramping and the brown is much heavier. Feels like an af is going to start. ↑
as for trying again dh wants to as soon as possible. ideally i wanted to work out a little so perhaps i will see how i feel once i get the first af after dnc and then perhaps the cycle right after or at the latest.. after the second cycle. i doubt i can wait so i will prob def try the cycle right after the first. does that make sense? (lol- cycle after the cycle after the cycle). ↑
breezie- i am a litle bit scared now. should i be getting the proced in hospital with monitors etc.? right now i feel the bleeding is going to start. (ps thanks so much i really need someone who can relate to talk to.. so even this posting here and there really really helps =) ..... ↑
i have a feeling i am going to miscarry naturally. i think i already sort of did only the sac is left. i am like in the stage right before af blood comes on down so if it does come out.. what can i expect and then perhaps i will not need this procedure that i am now scared of =( (breezie thanks again in advance and i hope ur enjoying your saturday. my mom was kind to take me food shopping and she did my dishes and vacuumed for me. dh is at work) ↑
lady- i understand your need for support I wish I new of this site when I m/c. As far as the location I think it is fine I am sure she has done it that way a million times and also my cuz was fine like that and you have to imagine girls who get abortions(same exact procedure) they do it safely in a clinic and from what i understand they are only given a valium to take to ease erves and the rest is fine because the numb you down there so you don't feel it. Maybe a little pressure. also it is a quick procedur...i actually wish I was only sedated instead of asleep because it is easier to shake the sedation when done. and like I said either way it wont hurt and it is done safly in regalur clinics all the time. I understand your fear though because even though 1 had the first one I was still nervous for the second one even though I KNEW it was painless. It is just intimidating not to mention your emotions are a rollercoaster from falling hormones and feeling the loss of your baby. with my SIL she went in for spotting and seen a blighted ovum and gave her the shot but she had a baby before and they gave her a shot after having the baby. From what I understand they have to give it whenever you bleed I don't know why exactly. I am going to ask her though maybe she can help me understand it a little better. I have to go to the store I will finish when I come back lol..sorry so long :) ↑
no no as u see i like long, lol. your so genuinly nice, and i feel like i am talking to a long time friend. it means so much and i have to tell you when i get preg successfully i will be doing the same for those who need me. it is such a wonderful think. bless you :) and btw your reassurance about the d&c and reminding me of ppl getting proced in clinics has helped so much actually. it really has! as for me i am going to take a break for a bit. going to try to actually watch and pay attention to tv or read something. i will be back later. i am feeling more like af cramps are underway. (btw all this talk about me, how are you feeling these days) ↑
i am feeling pretty good thanks. I am glad you are feeling better about it!!! I know what ya mean about long time friend thing, I don't even know you but I catch myself thinking about you - wow that sounded creepy....lol ...I mean how you are doing. I just really want things to workout for u. i think that is probably a good idea to get some time at the tv or anything really to distract u for a while. i know it can be consuming! dh and the kids are on there way home from daddy day so i am about to start dinner and stuff. It was nice having the house to myself today!!!! Did you read the transformation thing? how old are u? I am 27 and dh is 23 i am a cradle robber...lol ↑
Good Morning Breezie. House to self is def a nice thing! I had that all day yesterday with the exception of my mom who drives in to work on the wkends (works near my apt) and was kind enough to do my dishes etc. etc. When dh got home he acts like things are all ok and cheery and that we t"ry again" and "you'll be feeling sick again soon"(cause I was sad the nausea is not as much now). I lit a candle on behalf of our angel who went back for "a while".. and he tells me to stop. He don't get how one day you feel your body nourishing something, the next day you don't. I guess its just finally hitting home. I feel empty but I also feel this grieving shall pass-which is good thing. I just keep racking my mind if I did something wrong. I can't get over the fact that my pregnancy progressed to the point of forming a fetal pole. So I keep wondering if it "was when I took the bumpy busride to the inlaws" or when I "got stressed out at work and my stomach tightened". I know its not my fault but at the same time, I don't know. Today I plan to stay in again and watch some tv and pay some bills. I am gonna cook dinner tonightt oo! As for the bleeding yesterday it was reddish brown and I cramped thinking I would have a big mess and now its scanty again. I suppose it will be an on/off thing. I am going to push the d&c from Wed to Friday but even if I bleed more this week I am still gonna get it, for a fresh start. I am happy the cramps didn't get worse and I think next week I will feel better when the doc assures me it wasn't my fault. So thats where I stand now. I have the AC on full blast and it kinda feels nice just laying around, lol. I hope you enjoy your Sunday. What are your plans. O by the way you had me laughing out loud with the cradle robbing thing. I am 27 also! Just turned 27 in May. Dh is 26 going on 27 this August so he isn't older either, per se. How old are your children? ↑
HI, I read your post and the same thing happened to me a year and a half agao. I was 61/2 weeks and i had brown bleeding. I went in and had a scan and they said it had not grown past the fetal pole stage. They also said that my sack was distorted. They told me i would misscarry and i did that night. Just so you know if you do expell it before your d&C it might not all come out and you might need a D&C anyways I did. Some times the baby doesnt develope right and that is why these things happen I was pissed at God for a very long time and then i realised that maybe he was doing me a favor by not giving me a child that would not have been healthy and had problems. I know its hard it took me a LONG time to get over it but your next baby will be fine. Stay positive and take good care of your self. ↑
I'm sorry for your past loss Oct but you are right. When I hear that.. it helps.. at least for a lil while. To know that our body was healthy in the sense to recog. there will b a future prob and therefore does what it does. May I ask how your d&c exper. was, if you chose that method. Right now it feels like my period but not full fledge red yet. ↑
sorry oct i read that u did get a d&c. im a lil nervous on getting mine. although it makes me feel better realizing things, as the minutes go by i start to think about it again and then i think of moments.. now i think about how during the heatwave i was very stressed with work mentally and i had to walk alot and the stress gave me headache and shoulderaches and i keep thinking of how i shouldve been more relaxed. or maybe it was the 3 hour bumpy busride to the inlaws. i cant keep myself from thinking and thinking how it "could've been me".... ↑
sorry one more thing for whomever can answer. i was told with the d&c they shall send some extractions to the lab. for those of you who've had the d&c what were some of the answers from lab? thanks again. now i have to walk away from the laptop and get my mind in elsewhere land. enjoy your sunday ladies, talk to you later. ↑
Relax and dont blame yourself. Nothin you did caused the miscarriage. Especially since you weren't very far along. The fetus was probably not healthy enough to survive. Thats why most early miscarriages happen. Was a hearbeat detected? A bumpy bus ride definately didnt cause it. I rode 4wheelers over rough terrain until i was 7 months. I only stopped bc i was to big to turn the handlebars. (found this online)
"While some studies suggest that stress may play a role in pregnancy loss, it hasn't been shown to cause miscarriages on its own." ↑
I have had 2 m/c since Januay and I understand your concern this is my suggestion take bab y asprin every day just one even through pregnancy, take prenatal vitamins from now until pregnancy ends, and b6 200mg to add to your prenatal vitamins this will help increase your progesterone if that was your problem and have your spose/boyfriend take a daily vitamin too and you will have a much higher chance of a baby being healthy and if there is any chance you have pcos see an endocrinologist good luck! ↑
I was scared to do the D&C but it was a fast proceedure. It didnt hurt but you get very emotional after its finished becasue your hormon levels drop rapidly. Mine might have been fast because i already expelled most of it on my own and they were just getting what was left over. ↑
GoodMorning. When I got the first ultrasound after spotting no heartbeat detected yet. Baby had measured 5wk6d so they told me come back for a 2nd to get heartbeat. In the interum I found out levels had dropped by 100 points from 5 days prior so I went to an OB(who I woulda had my first official prenatl with) and when she did the scan she saw no more fetal pole/yolk and the ges sack was changing shape. good thing i went b/c yesterday(sunday) it started heavy flow. its weird how this mimics a period b/c on sat. the brown blood was more(like b4 a per) and then it progressed to red and then sunday very heavy flow. Ive had heavy flows before so this isnt too far off, maybe a tad bit heavier but feels just like a period with the exception of feeling a lil saw in uterus area. But even my legs hurt and cramps the same. Mentally I am a lil better but in the morning I wake up feeling empty. The thoughts of "what if" are still there but a lil less. I am glad that its coming out and hoping this will make the D&C that I think I still prob will get, to be easier and quicker now? I may push it till Froday instead of Wednesday so I can let more come out naturally. Thats where I stand now =( ↑
(I relized my spelling was off "saw" instead of "sore"- sorry I am a lil out of it mentally..lol) Also ladies thank you for sharing and thanks for your support. Breezie you out there? I took off of work this week. I cant imagine going seeing it as I even feel uncomfy shifting in my own seat right now b/c I feel the flow. I've had a lot of days off but because this is a medical situation with docs letters to support it, I hope they can't give me an issue. ↑
Its still hard, but it is a good thing a heartbeat wasn't detected. That means the fetus probably never had a chance due to it not being healthy enough, and nothing you did contributed to the miscarriage. ↑
