Question: Hello everyone!
I no i posted a lot of different comments here but i just trying to get as much answers as i can..and some of you seen cinfused about wat i wrote in my comments. so i am here now to set ya all straight..i am 16 i live in ireland i found out i was pregnant on the 1st of april. i told my boyfriend age 19.. he is happy about it...but he does not talk about it much. but he always cheaking if im ok..we both did not tell our parents but we will soon.. our baby will have a good life.. so people stop hateing !!! bye bye Bambi (SABRINA) ?
For those who are not yet a member, Register and become a part of our close-knit forum community.
Answer: OKAY ALREADY GEEEZE!!!! Great, your baby will have a great life and so will the puppy my 3 year old dd will be sole custody of! People were giving you advice not "hating" (correct spelling by the way) you. You want answers. GO TELL YOUR PARENTS AND ASK THEM, you won't be doing much without a lot of support and help (financial and emotional) from them. Good luck =
Answer: I think you should make it very clear to everyone... Where you trying to conceive or not? =
Answer: So, unplanned in your situation equals totally unprepared. TELL YOUR PARENTS NOW! What are you waiting for!!?!?! =
Answer: It's really hard to tell your parents and I understand why you're waiting. I didn't start telling people I was pregnant until I was almost out of the second trimester and starting to show. It's a really scary thing to do, but it's best to get it over with. =
Answer: Bambi as you know your parents wont be happy. Try not to share your joy with them until they are beginning to come around. They are going to probably be angry. They will also be very confused when they find out and for while(the same as you were). Like many people know I was a teen mom and I am now an adult so I really know. But the sooner you tell them the more time they have to adjust and accept your pregnancy. Most likely they won't except it until the 3rd trimester or possably until the baby is born. You may not understand why they aren't happy and may want them to be dont push them eventually they will find joy in their grandchild. We all want the best for our children and we as parents try to plan the most productive happy life for them and I truely believe that for parents finding out that their teen is pregnant is extremely hard to know that their child is going to endure extreme heart ache and stress way before they have to. Don't get mad at their reaction they just didn't plan this for your life, but stay in school and be as responsible as possible and began by getting prenatal care. I wish the best of luck for you and your family. I hope that your baby is healthy. Just bite the bullet and tell them. It will seem more grown up of you to tell them rather than hearing it from another source. =
Answer: hi this is my first time on this site and so far i'm enjoying reading the views and opinions of everyone so far.... my answer to you Bambi123 is to tell your parents as soon as possible. i have friends who got preggo at the age you are now and yes their parents basically went psycho but what do you expect,..... to them you are still their baby girl and they will feel terrible at first... so i really agree with mama4andmore on telling them. you also need to look at the health of you and your baby because the longer you take to tell them the more you are putting the both of you in prenatal danger risks honey you need to tell them. and one thing you dont need right now is to stress out yourself even more than you probaly already are, that is bad for you both... but i would like to tell you that after this baby is born you should protect yyourself from then on because its hard already to have a baby so young and it would be even tougher to find out you are having another one right after. TELL YOUR PARENTS NOW AND TAKE CARE OF YOU AND YOUR BABY OK PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! =
Answer: Hello (mama4andmore)
i love my parents and my parents love my boyfriend
but im so scared to tel them :( they dont even know that i had sex now im pregnant they will kil me.. i no its a big thing but i want them 2 be happy.. i will take care of my self and my baby. when he/she is born.. thank you so much 4 ur comment u are really nice xxxx :) =
Answer: Bambi don't expect them to be happy right away especially when you tell them. But look to the future and they will find happiness and joy in their grandchild. I was 14 when i got pregnant with my 1st. My parents knew I wasn't a virgin, but they didn't know I still had sex either. You are probably scared of disappointing them, but we ALL make mistakes. Remember GOD has bigger plans for our lives than our parents and even our selfs.Take care and be sure to get some prenatal vitamins. =
Answer: Hello :D Zabbee12
Thank you very much for you coment
:):) =
Answer: hello mama4andmore
im going to the doctors tomorrow for the firsh time xxxxx =
Answer: That is great that you are able to get to a doctors. I hope things are going ok. I was just thinking about you and wondering if you have told your parents yet or if you have came up with any plan. =
Answer: stop picking on the girl i'm 16 and pregnat and i see abosoulutly nothing wrong with it. =
Answer: whos picking on her!! idont see know one picking on her! =
Answer: infact no one has really given her shit! =
Answer: Something is wrong with a pregnant 16 year old. =
Answer: It is called "Age of Consensual Sex," and in most states that is 18...there is a reason for this law... =
Answer: in irland where she lives the consent age of sex is 16 not 18. =
Answer: Actually the legal age of consent in most states is NOT 18. I would say the average is 16, in a few states it's as young as 14, in some there are different ages for boys and girls, and for pretty much all for statutory rape to apply the offender must be a certain number of years older than the minor. =
Answer: in the uk the consent age is 16 and the satuary rape thing only acounts if the man has sex with someone under the age of 16 i dont think it matters how many years older the guy is here. hmm strange how the laws are all different in other countrys tho =
Answer: BUT also here if you are under 18 even if the age of consent is 16 if you're with someone 3 years or more older than you, he can be charged with statutory rape. >_>; =
Answer: wow thats so different here! so me andmy boyfriend first had sex together when i was 16 and he is 5years older than me so if i was in your country could he of got done with statuary rape or would i have to be under the age of 16? =
Answer: In California it's 18 with the three years apart rule. Whew, my fiance is turning 19 tomorrow :P My dad tried to get him arrested for statutory rape but after I told them we were only a year and a half a part they were like "Sorry to bother you! Your dad is a jerk!" Haha. =
Answer: im sorry...but where are you in ireland...because i just dont think your from the u.k.....i could be wrong but earlier on i could have sworn that you said you were from america.... =
Answer: no i think she,s always saidshe,s from uk. if you want to have a go at someone for lying then do it 2 summersun she has 2 storys!! one miniute she got told from her doc she was not pregnant and then all of a suddon she is pregnant! =
Answer: no angel i was talking about you this time...and i'm not having a go for lyin..i just can't remember. =
Answer: ha well you totally have the wrong end of the stick because no i dont come from irland i come from southwest uk.........i dont know where you got "i come fromamerica from" you must have read some posts wrong i think =
Answer: your right. I went back and re read..and i noticed you were talking about her..I thought i got it wrong. And no i wasn't having a go..just generally confused...also..are you married? =
Answer: nope im not marriedand i dont plan to for a while...........i know its a big thing to be married before u ttc for some of you amiricans but it really doesnt make a differnce here in england unless your religious and im not...............my partner was going 2 propose on feb 29th cos he thinks he,s the girl in our relationship lol but something happened which ment he couldnt do it but who knows if he,s going to do it soon or not.................we stil dont plan on getting married untill im atleast 25 and by then he,l be 30 =
Answer: angel: i don't think you need to be that defensive. she wasn't saying you were lying. she said she thought you had said you were from the us. and what in the world are you talking about? "my partner was going to propose on feb 29th cuz he thinks he's the girl..." wtf does that mean? most men do the proposing... =
Answer: ok well i dont how it works for you guys where you come from but in the uk feb 29th only happens every 4years cos its a leap year which im sure u allready know..........well here its a holiday day and its also a day where the female is aloud to proprose to the girl...........feb 29th islike the day where most people in the uk get engaged but its a day where the girls do ot..............i mean obviously we can proprose anyday but its justaday for females to proprose in the uk..........people do itover the radio and everthing...........im not sure if it makes sence 2 u.............and i didnt mean to sound defensive i was justletting her know =
Answer: First, i was just asking if you were from the us....and yes i'm from america...but i live in the u.k and i'm sorry but i've never heard that feb 29th crap and i've beenhere for lik two years.....and my husband has lived here for ages...and hes never heard of it..Also feb 29th is NOT a holiday.....where are you in the u.k? =
Answer: i did not tell my parents yet
i am 16
my boyfriend is 19
xxxxxx
THANKS EVERYONE FOR ALL COMMENTS xxxxxxxxxx =
Answer: its not like a holiday its just itsjust a special day as the 29th only comes around every 4 years! and trust its an official day for females to proprose to there partners i live in the southwest but seriously they hold an hour on most radio shows for the women to proprose they even have it on tv adverts !! jeesh look it up or summit i cant beleive you,ve never heard of it!! or your husband!! its crazy! =
Answer: bambi you should tell your parents asap!! before you start showing or having morning symtoms ect and guess themselves =
Answer: well we are in scotland..but i dunno....we have never heard of it..we know abotu the leap year...but never heard of the holiday. =
Answer: im not sure then pb i live in southwet england but its a big thing here for the female to propose on th e29th?? =
Answer: Bambi123 you need to hurry and tell them before they figure it out on their own. you will start to show very soon. just take a deep breath and tell them..... i know its hard trust me i know but time is running out, really girl. tell them. =
Answer: i'm in the UK as well and it is a big deal for the girl to propose to the man on the 29th Feb. they do it over the radio and even on the morning shows (GMtv) etc. it's a pretty big deal. i even proposed (jokinly) to my partner but he just frowned at me lol. =
Answer: thanks tracyc i new i wasnt going crazy lol.........my partner was going toproprose to me on the 29th because he thinks he,s the girl in our relation ship as i make himhelp with housework and cooks the dinner lol =
Answer: i will not tell them till i start to show
xx =
Answer: They'll be even more pissed if you wait that long... =
Answer: It is time to grow up Bambi!!! Tell you parents as they are the ones that are going to do all the work, don't you think it would be the fair and mature thing to do...? They might not even be into the idea of being parents all over again for the next 18 years. =
Answer: (roll eyes at bambi) its all going to end in tears! the longer you leave it the worse its going to be! i wish i could just ring your parents up and tell them lol =
Answer: maybe its just not in scotland..or maybe only in tha part of the u.k ....i'm not saying your lyin. lol i'm just so confused cause we have never heard it before... =
Answer: hmmm maybe i thought it was an all over the world thing as everyone has a feb 29th every 4years? hmm i dont know =
Answer: yes it's all over the world, but no one that i've ever heard of celebrates it in any way. =
