My boyfriend and I have been engaged for several months now. He has a little 2 yr old brother, and we both want one of our own very bad. I'm on the pill, however, and I don't know what to do. Should I quit taking the pill and not tell anybody? Or should I continue on the pill, and just wait to see if I get pregnant? I'm not even sure if I want to do either. I'm still in high school, and I plan on graduating, child or not. What should I do? My fiancée said he wants a kid so bad he can almost taste it, but, when I told him this time I might be pregnant, he freaked out. He was excited to hear, but was also scared. He was relieved, yet sad when he found out I wasn't. What should I do? Please help me! ↓
i would say wait until graduation. i know you hear this all the time, but it's true that people change so much. you don't want to get pregnant now and possibly not stay with this boy and be miserable. and pregnancy isn't all it's cracked up to be lol. and i was trying! but that's beside the point. a 2 year old brother is NOTHING like having your own child. when the baby is upset or hungry, you can't just say "mom the kid's crying". it's your responsibility alone to take care of it. well yours and his. you know what i mean. live a little and enjoy youth. then once you have both grown a little, and you'll notice the changes, then you can decide. ↑
I think you should wait. I did and I am happy that I waited until after high school. I got to take some classes in college and it HELPED me a LOT! Really take it from people who have been in your situation just wait it out, it's only two years or sooner and see how quickly things change for you and your views. ↑
Wait. Its one thing to want one, its another thing to have one. Your fiance "freaking out" is a sign that you two just aren't ready. Even if you'd make good parents, even if you COULD somehow manage to make it work... not just isn't the time. Get a taste of college. Gain independence. Set goals and find a way to achieve those goals. THEN allow a child to fit into the path you have set for yourself... but not know. College is an amazing experience if you let it be and it'd be a shame if you stopped yourself short of getting to really experience it. ↑
also, saph, i have to say, i've traveled overseas and i loved it! and now that i'm pregnant, even though my husband's an australian citizen and we have to go back there, i know it will be hard to do so with a child. just really enjoy life. travel and all that good stuff. you'll be glad you waited a little and you'll know a lot more than you think you do now. don't tell my mom, but she was totally right and i know SO much more now then when i was clucking at 19. (i'm 28 now. yeah i know i'm old. =P ) ↑
