Here's to all us May mommies who finally had our babies! Congrats to Red, Victoria made her May debut with one day to spare (: How is everyone doing? I am on a mission to lose my last 8 pounds and it's killing me! With my previous 4 pregnancies, I bounced right back. I'm 28, can usually eat whatever I want and maintain my 105 pound frame, but I am struggling so hard this time ladies! And I'm getting married in 12 days so I'd really like to be able to fit my clothes and be able to breathe at the same time (: ↓
Hey, RMC! There is another May mommies thread down below, but we can use this one! Things are going pretty well with Gavin. But silly me, I thought newborns were supposed to sleep! He's not fussy, he just refuses to sleep. And if he isn't sleeping that means mommy isn't sleeping! ↑
Name: CgGirl | Date: Jun 2nd, 2008 4:11 PM
I feel for you Chatty Kathy! Mine does cluster feeding (i.e. sometimes 3 hours in a row) and then will sleep for 5 hours straight. However, there is no way of knowing if that 5 hour stretch will be during the night of course! :-)) RMC: Wow, congrats on the wedding!!! Lots of action in your life! How old is your lo? 8 pounds left only is really good! ↑
Name: RMC | Date: Jun 2nd, 2008 5:28 PM
SOrry about that chatty, I didn't even go far enough down to see the other thread! I have the same problem with Christian sleeping. He sleeps in like 30 minute intervals - if I'm lucky and he likes to wake up for 2-3 hours around midnite every night. Fun for me (: CgGirl - I know I shouldn't be complaining, because I really have dropped most of the weight, I just hate the fact that my clothes are so tight and I'm having such a hard time when I never did before. He will be 6 weeks on Wed, time flies! ↑
Name: wv_red | Date: Jun 2nd, 2008 7:35 PM
Hi ladies! How is everyone?? RMC congrats on the wedding! Chatty congrats to you on hitting it on the mark, lol. Sorry dont have much time, Victoria is doing good, her bruising on her face is cleared up. She got that from coming down the BC a lil too fast is what I was told. Last night was a little crazy just cause I am so sore and tired and she didnt not want to sleep at all. She wanted to use me as a paci just to sleep. I finally gave in. I felt like I wasnt giving her enough to eat you know. She is eating about every 2 and a half hours for an hour or more. and like Cgs Victoria my Victoria also like to cluster feed and then sleep for a long period of time. Last night it wasnt until 4 am that she finally wanted to go to sleep. Well ladies I will holler at yall later. Need to go wake her butt up so she will sleep somewhat tonight. Bye!!!! ↑
Name: RMC | Date: Jun 3rd, 2008 12:18 AM
Wow, I feel for you breast feeding ladies ): I have formula fed since I had my first one, so I just kept going that way. Christian is pretty good though. He eats about 10 or 11, and then around 3, and then 6, so it's not too bad. ↑
Name: Mely12 | Date: Jun 3rd, 2008 3:51 AM
Hey girls! I had my baby boy on May 14 at 10.20pm by c-section. I went in to get induced the night before and I dialated just fine but I pushed for 2 and 1/2 hours and he never came down! He was having decelerations so I had to have a c-section. It wasn't easy for me b/c I lost a lot of blood. I lost like half of my blood and had to spend a week in the hospital. I'm still not fully 100% but i'm getting there. I'm just happy that he's here and very tired!. He sleeps when i'm awake and a soon as i want to lay down he seems to be wide awake! What ever time of day it is he always wants to be awake when I wanna sleep! Congrats to all of you!!! ↑
Hi ladies! Well, yesterday was just horrible...I had clogged milk ducts on one side. It hurt so bad and gave me a fever. But I am feeling so much better today. Yesterday I had a mini meltdown about breast feeding. It's been harder than I thought it would be. Steven is almost 3 weeks now and other than for one painful week, I have been using nipple sheilds. I have given into the fact that I might just use them the entire time I nurse, even though they are a huge pain in the butt. But other than that, things are going great, and I'm so glad we are all finally at home, holding our babies! Steven is almost 3 weeks old now already! ↑
Name: ChattyKathy | Date: Jun 3rd, 2008 11:38 PM
Hi, ladies. MELY, sounds like a scary birth story but I'm glad to hear that both you and baby are doing well. -- Gavin did eventually go to sleep. The first couple of nights he had the same type of schedule you ladies were describing. He'd feel on the hour for a while, sleeping only about 30 minutes in between and then he'd get a good hour or two in between feedings a couple of times a day. Yesterday that totally switched to him being wide awake for a bit, cluster feeding for a bit, then sleeping for a good three hours. He did that again today, but I made the mistake of not napping because I was feeling so rested from the day before so I'm sure I'm in for a long night! RENEE, sorry to hear about the frustrations with breastfeeding. I really considered getting nipple shields after mine became SO sore from latching problems. Its gotten a little bit better. I used to have a home made shield to put in my bra so that the fabric didn't rub on them but since my milk has come in full force that isn't a good solution anymore. I've woken up a couple of times with my shirt SOAKED because the shield would prevent the pads from soaking anything up. --- How many of you had a vaginal delivery? How long did it take to recover from it? I had a 2nd degree tear with stitches and when my baby was born he was facing sunny-side up. By the end of the day I feel so much pressure down there and my tailbone just feels sore from sitting a lot. It surprises me because its been a week and it seems like recovery is taking a bit more time than it should. I just DON'T feel up to par. Is that normal after a week? ↑
Name: reneenay | Date: Jun 4th, 2008 3:10 PM
Hi Chatty. As you probably remember I had a c-section. But I have read about sunny-side up births and have a friend who had a sunny-side up baby and it's a tougher recovery. I don't know if your Dr told you or not, but you are lucky that Gavin came out vaginally! Most sunny-side up presentations end up in emergency c-sections. So, don't worry, you'll feel better soon, but it will take a little longer than the normal delivery. If it makes you feel any better, I'm still really sore around my incision and it's been 3 weeks. Ugh. ↑
Name: wv_red | Date: Jun 4th, 2008 7:14 PM
Mely Glad everything worked out for you. Congratulations. Chatty I am also having the same problem but mine is a little fresher, I too was wondering how long it is going to take for me to heal up. I tore really bad when they were pulling her shoulders out. Doc was two handed trying to pry her out, lol. But I cry everytime I go pee just because it hurts so bad and nothing is working. I too feel pressure and actually finally went #2 this morning, that was killer in its self. I actually been jumping in the shower and sitting on the base just to reduce some of the pain while going pee. Sorry yes I pee in the shower but only cause it does help a little bit. Last night I think I got maybe 2 hours of sleep. Victoria literally emptied one side switched to the other emptied that side and was still hungry. As huge as my boobs got you would think I have enough milk, but not even 15 mins later she was hungry again and went back to the left side, and then nursed for 15 mins before finally detaching and falling asleep. I was reading on DDT's post that they are saying they can do this up to 3 weeks. wow. Yeah she defiantly has her days and nights confused. Well Ladies I really cant believe that we are all here and all of our babies are healthy hungry little miracles. I find myself crying when I look at her just because I still cant believe that this is real. I now know the love a parent feels for their child and it is something that I am so glad I can finally experience. Renee I cant believe its already been 3 weeks. wow I wish time would pause for a bit. Talk to you all soon. Nap time :-) ↑
Name: CgGirl | Date: Jun 4th, 2008 8:16 PM
ChattyKathy: My dd is now over 3 weeks and I have just started to feel better since less than a week. I had an episiotomy and it is still a little swollen. It doesn't hurt anymore, but it did take at least 2 weeks. Red: I still cry when I think about the delivery. I just realize now how stressed and worried I was towards the end of the pregnancy and I try to be grateful just to be able to hold a healthy child! Mine is also feeding a lot... but she's gaining weight just fine, so I guess everything is OK... Mely: Welcome! ↑
Name: Mely12 | Date: Jun 5th, 2008 3:16 AM
I'm soo tired! I wanna go to sleep but Matthew is still awake! I fed him and he slept for like 30 min but he woke up again! He's been waking up like every hour and a half! Before I would feed him every 2 hours now he want to feed ever hour and a half! I bottle feed b/c I as too weak to breast feed. I feed him between 2 or 3 ounces. He's 3 weeks now and he still wakes up a lot during the night. What do I do? Sometimes he's just awake and does not want to go to sleep even though he's fed, and changed and i'm sure nothing hurts him! He just wants me to hold him. And if I don't pick him up he cries! ↑
Name: ChattyKathy | Date: Jun 5th, 2008 3:20 AM
I am worried about taking him to his first doc appt next week. He eats so often I'm sure i'll end up having to feed him while I'm there and I have this vision of not being able to walk in the exam room b/c I'm stuck in the waiting room or the doc not being able to examin him because he's feeding. BF is going to have to work too so i'll be by myself. Its got me anxious, not to mention a little upset that i cant even take a shower without having to run out of the bathroom because BF yells that he's hungry. I'm practically confined to the couch all day because he also refuses to sleep in his bassinet and I have to hold him! ↑
Name: Sims1 | Date: Jun 5th, 2008 8:51 AM
Here you ladies are. Congrats RED!!!! You finally had her lol. Congrats to all of us, the wait at the end was becoming unbearable. I'm so jealous of you who got your babies to latch on. I'm still struggling with Kesar to get him to breastfeed. which i'm so sick of pumping, and formula. it's driving me insane. i've also started to feel bits of postpartum. i feel sad that he's not in my belly anymore, and i miss being pregnant and having that special status. sometimes when he's fed and changed and still crying i feel at a loss.......thank goodness my mom is here and i can pass him off. but i'm not sure what i'll do when she leaves at the end of the month. i'm hoping he's a bit bigger and i feel a lot more confident. not that i don't know how to take care of him, i know better than most people. i also miss dh and i time. i miss how we used to be so into each other now with baby, i miss my husband. and i miss him holding me. i know i sound silly, and this is probably amplified because of hormones but wow can't wait till it's passed. other than that, most of the time i am quite happy and feel really blessed. ↑
Name: Sims1 | Date: Jun 5th, 2008 8:53 AM
hey Chatty, I know how you feel it's been a week and half for me and i still feel sore. my butt muscles and vajayjay are still hurting. my friend was up and about the next day, i remmeber she was just up and going and feeling fresh, i swear i'm still waiting for that feeling to kick in. my stomach hurts too. ↑
Name: reneenay | Date: Jun 5th, 2008 4:23 PM
Mely and Chattykathy, I can relate to the both of you...here I am, it's 1:13 pm and I haven't had a shower. When Steven is awake, he wants to feed on the hour. Two nights ago, Steven was up the entire night, wanting to feed every half hour. As soon as I would put him down after a feeding he would begin to cry. I wanted to cry too! It drove me nuts. I think I managed to get about 3 hours of sleep that night. Then last night he slept for a four hour stretch, and then 2 other 2 hour stretches, so I never know what I'm going to get! But I feel lucky when I get 8 hours. I feel so much better today, but I'm still overwhelmed with feeling like I need to rush around and do all sorts of chorse when he's napping. Ugh. Chatty, I feel confined to the couch too...I haven't left the house for days! I'm starting to get cabin fever. I used to be a very active person, even up to the very end of my pregnancy. Now all I do is breastfeed. But with all of this complaining, I know it's so worth it and I love my little Steven to peices! I gush every time I look at him. Sims1, I miss my DH too. He went back to work and has been very busy. He hasn't been getting home until 8:00. Then we keep getting visitors on the weekends. It's so not relaxing! This weekend, my SIL is staying with us and we are also having a bunch of people stop by. I just want to visitors to go away sometimes so I can have a little family time! Our time is so precious now. Sims1, I also feel at a loss sometimes when he is upset and I don't know what's wrong. It's not a good feeling. But I guess that's all part of being a Mom. Hang in there ladies, I hope we can all get some rest and I hope your boobs and vajay-jay's don't hurt too bad...Lol! ↑
Name: RMC | Date: Jun 6th, 2008 1:16 PM
Hey ladies, seems like I've been out the loop a couple of days! I'm so determined to shed these 2 pounds before I head to Vegas this week I haven't been online too much. I really have about 7 more to lose in total, but if I can lose at least 2 more, I should be able to fit into my jeans and be able to exhale lol. Christian is 6 weeks old now. He's starting to stay awake for an hour or 2 a couple of times a day. I'm dreading going back to work in a week and a half because I feel so exhausted from getting up every 2-4 hours to feed him. Plus, these stupid LUVS leak so I've been having to change his clothes during the night too. I hate LUVS, but I had them left over from my 16 month old so I used them. That's what I get for being cheap! Lol. Hope everyone's recovery's are going well! Reneenay - my incision is still twingy on the sides, but DR said it will be like that a couple of months until the sutures dissolve completely. ↑
Name: CgGirl | Date: Jun 6th, 2008 5:13 PM
Well ladies, it must be that there is something in the air then... my Victoria drove me nuts last night. The night before, she slept for like 6 hours straight. I was even worried about it! But last night... she went to bed at 9:30 and slept until 2. But then was awake until 5:30!!!! I fed her for like almost 2 hours, she fell asleep at least 2-3 times. I would put her back in her crib and not even 10 minutes later, she would cry again. After the third time, it was like 5AM and I was drained. I told her I was not happy and raised my voice... I can't believe I did that, and it makes me cry when I think about it. I mean, it's not her fault. Anyway, at 5, I went to have a glass of water, go to the bathroom, and then I decided to lie down for 15 minutes, just to put myself together again (she was still crying, but I had to take a break). In the interval, dh (finally) got up and I asked him to take care of her. He asked me what I wanted him to do and while I was telling him to put her in the stroller and walk with her in the house, she stopped crying abruptly and fell asleep... I hope tonight is better. So I can totally sympathize with you ladies. Good luck for tonight... ↑
Name: wv_red | Date: Jun 6th, 2008 9:30 PM
HI ladies, yeah sounds like we are all having fun with the BFing. CG I hope tonight goes better for you. I feel you on the DH thing. It sucks seeing them sleeping while we are trying to tend to a screaming hungry baby all hours of the night. Hopefully they will figure out day and night soon :-) Well I finally got up the courage to look "down there" and was really shocked at what I seen. Besides the fact of it totally looking weird but the fact that I have 2 sites with stitches, Looks like I ripped like a zipper. My vagina ripped on the side and the my perineum is also ripped. Well that explains the extreme pain when I gotta go. All I am doing is trying to saok when I can, which isnt often enough, and using the squirter. What are you all doing for it? I need some kind of relief. I am on pain meds still and I cant wait to get off of them. RMC I hope you have a blast in Vegas and even if you dont lose that last few pounds I am sure your going to be a knock out at your wedding. Congratulations. Sims hang in there girl! I had problems with Victoria latching the first night and the nurse gave me a nipple shield, it worked out great. Try that and see if that helps. I hope you get to spend some quality time with your dh here soon, I know i miss sleeping next to mine. I spend most of my nights in the glider with Victoria attached. You know I knew breastfeeding wasnt going to be easy but man I didnt realize I would see more of that damn chair then I would my bed, lol. Well ladies I hope you all get some rest tonight. I am goingto try to squeeze in a movie on the couch with dh hopefully before the graveyard shift begins. Night all!!! ↑
Name: DDT | Date: Jun 7th, 2008 12:36 AM
Hello ladies! I hope you don't mind if I join your group. I was originally a June mommy (due June 4th) but my ds - Jaxon - decided to come a little early. He was born on the 31st May. He is my 2nd lo...I already have a 15 month old ds. I can relate to the BF woes. My lo also cluster feeds for a good 2-3 hrs. It makes one feel like a cow. He has been pretty good so far with sleeping at night. He takes two 3.5-4hr sleep periods from about 11pm on but from experience I know this can change very quickly. The thing about babies is that they are NEVER consistent. Does anyone's lo grunt and suck in alot of air while BF?? At the hospital I was told that it was because he was "especially mucusy" after the labour (because of a short pushing stage) and that he will eventually get it out of his system. Df is making me paranoid though with his own worry about it. It sounds like gaspy breathing. ↑
Name: ChattyKathy | Date: Jun 7th, 2008 6:24 AM
RED, I was actually told NOT to soak. My instructions say take showers and if i do take a bath then get in and get out. kuddos to you for being brave enough to peek down there, though. I am going to try to avoid it as long as possible, although i am a little curious. I just dont think its a good idea when i'm already self conscious about the belly and boobs. Dont need to add one more thing! Luckily Gavin isnt doing the cluster feeding as much anymore and sleeps for a bit longer. Now my only issue is that we're still cosleeping and i have to watch for how deep asleep he is if i want to move him. If im not careful he wakes up the moment i get comfy! and I have to call the lacation consultant tomorrow because i worry i may have thrush =( - sorry DDT I dont have experience with that one. ↑
Name: RMC | Date: Jun 7th, 2008 3:32 PM
Hey all! Well, I'm not breast feeding, but I can definitely understand the lack of sleep you're all getting. Christian was up from about 3 to 430 this morning, and then again at 6, and again at 8 when I just decided to go ahead and get up for the day. Im going back to work in 10 days, and I know I'm going to be exhausted. He and my 16 month old seem to be on the same wake up schedule during the night. I hope the breastfeeding gets easier and less painful though. OUCH! Red I hope your tears aren't giving you too much pain. DDT - Christian isn't breastfeeding, but he sounds congested and gulpy the same way you described. I asked the dr and she told me not to worry about it, but I plan on asking again at his next appt. ↑
Name: ChattyKathy | Date: Jun 8th, 2008 4:49 AM
I should probably count this as a blessing but Gavin keeps changing his schedule on me. Tonight he slept for five hours before I woke him up to feed him since he was making hunger cues in his sleep but wouldnt wake himself up. I'm just worried that something might be wrong. He's also been acting like he has nightmares. He'll whimper to all out cry in his sleep but few seconds later he'll stop and still be asleep. Anyone heard of that? ↑
Name: wv_red | Date: Jun 8th, 2008 12:54 PM
Hey Chatty thats good about him switching his sleep schedule on you, maybe he will keep that one for a bit. Also the whimper then back to sleep that was explained to me as them going into different sleep realms. They cry out then back to sleep, why they cry out, i wish i knew. Have any of y'all just had a day so far where you did nothing but cry? Yesterday was horrible for me, all i did was cry. I cried cause I snipped at dh for letting her head flop and just any little thing and i was bawling. I am perfectly fine today. I am thinking it was because I am so exhausted that I just broke down. I dont know. How is everyone doing?? Keeping busy?? ↑
Name: Sims1 | Date: Jun 8th, 2008 8:14 PM
hello ladies, so so so so glad that i'm not alone in this. the waking nights are exhausting, and sometimes i feel clueless even though i'm going through the motions and feeding and changing etc. but i have some experience with my niece and nephew but what if really you are clueless, and everything is overwhelming?! the first week was brutal i picked him up everytime he cried and that would just wake him up more so then i'd feed him change him and then have to put him back to sleep. i was shaking when i would lie down, from the pain i was in and the lack of sleep. but now i just stick a bottle in his mouth he drinks falls asleep i burp him and put him back down and he stays out. i heard it gets easier when they're about 6 weeks. you're so brave Red to check down there lol. i never looked, i remember later in the day on labor day, i went to the bathroom and felt between my legs and everything was so swollen. after that i never even looked. i can't believe how sore i am though, my leg muscles still hurt. Red, i'm using a a nipple shield otherwise he is clueless with with what to do with my boob. the first few times i put it in his mouth he just held it there and looked around. dh and i had a good laugh he had no idea what to do with it . oh gotta run monster is stirring awake. ↑
Name: Sims1 | Date: Jun 8th, 2008 8:16 PM
Chatty my Kesar does the same thing. i got used to it becuase he's been doing it since he was born, but sometimes he puts out his arms like he's falling and he whimpers quite a bit through his sleep. i dont' know what but my mom said kids do that. but i too find it a bit too much, because my niece didn't do that, but even if i pick him up he gets scared like he's going to fall and then he cries. like he scares himself and then cries....i don't know what it is or why. ↑
Name: wv_red | Date: Jun 9th, 2008 10:24 AM
hey ladies quick question, is it possible to overfeed a newborn just breastfeeding? I ask this cause she is always spitting up and i thought with bfing they dont do it as much as formula. Thank all ↑
Name: CgGirl | Date: Jun 9th, 2008 2:49 PM
Hey ladies! My dd has been sleeping for 5 hours straight 3 nights in a row... knock on wood! I even got up a few times to check on her cause I was worried as for why I didn't hear her for so long! But during the day, she is fussing a lot though. I'm not complaining cause as long as I can sleep a bit at night, I can keep my sanity! ChattyKathy: when you feed your lo before he wakes up by himself, is it faster to put him to sleep after??? red: regarding your question, I looked in the book the hospital gave me when I got discharged, and they say that spitting up is quite normal. I don't think you can overfeed a baby on breastmilk... ↑
