Thanks Rheanna, i could of not said it better myself. to here somone who is not in the situation understand and not judge by realizing we all make mistakes helps me to know there ae true people in the world who forgives..thanks again ↑
You know what gets me is that you women are looking for sympathy (support if that makes you feel better) but you all really should have thought about what is to come and none of you did. OR..maybe you did and like a previous poster said..praying the guy will want to be with you. sorry ladies (if you want to call yourselves that) all you got was screwed. I guess you could not find the "support" among you friend and family so you had to come to the net and find it. It is a shame to be what you are i feel sorry for the poor babied that are being brought in a screwed up world as it is then to have the parents to be such dumdasses.. You "ladies" have a wonderful day!! ↑
What about my daughter.....How I am I suppose to tell her her daddy has another little girl? My boyfriend cheat with another woman that knew she had a women. I don't only blame her he is a wrong as she is. But I just wonna know why my daughter has to be hurt cuz.....To grownup made big mistakes. She just couldn't have an abortion cuz that would be right. Like it was right to be sleeping with someone else man. ↑
what amazing women!! be proud of what you have done!!!
Hell with the world today why do we need to worry abot morals and respect.
Why!! Lets all sleep with everyone!! ↑
i found out last week that my husband has got another women pregnant and she is due in 6 weeks.
We have our own son who will be 2 on xmas day.
Can i say that its all well and good to have your affairs but you must know that the men on most cases will always stay with there wifes.
so i ask why you would put yourself through that sort of relationship let alone have a child.
from the wifes point of view i cant even begin
to explain the pain and hurt i am feeling its unbearable.
to think that someone will have my husbands baby and my son will have a half brother or sister really upsets me.
i hope all you girls out there think about the wifes at home cause its not there fault they picked a cheater and why would you want to punish them for yours and his actions.
so now i will have to be the single mother.
and after everything its my son and i that will suffer. hows is this fair. ↑
These woman have no shame. i am sure you have read some of the postings. I know that the men are wrong and should stay faithful to their wife. but lets get real. There a very very few men that do. the marriages that last 20 + years there was affairs involved also. It does not matter a man is a dog and they will screw whatever they can and some women have NO self respect and will give it to anyone. I am sure not all the women on here are whores but they all should have been more careful, they want sympathy so they post on here to get it and get mad when someone does not give it to them. WhatEVER!!! I feel they are selfish women who do not care about anyones elses feelings.
I am sorry for your situation. I wish you all the luck, but i am sure you are a strong women and if you love your husband and want to be with him do it. Do not let some women try to split up your family. You and your child comes first the other woman and the other child will always be second. That is the way it should be. Be strong!! ↑
Firstly i would like to thank the lady who was so nice and understanding.
But as for BE WILDERED you have got to be joking dont blame the other women.
Im not defending my husbands action but if there wasnt another women i wouldnt be going through this pain and neither would anyone else on this posting, and this site would cease to exist.
And no the "other women" in some cases may not have initiated it but they clearly took it on board. and if you want out you get out dont moan about how they tried to get out of it.
Oh and i might be happier without my husband but i cant say the same about my childs future.
and once they loose there wifes they will try forever to get them back cause the other women may give them what there missing from home (desperate for affection, sex, ?? )
but once its out in the open its not that exciting and they realise what there lost.
and just remember if they are TRULY inlove with the other women they wouldnt go home to there wifes everynight think about that.
Its clear from your posting that you are "the other woman "
and i hope that you think about your action and the hurt you are leaving on somebodys life. ↑
All i can say is what goes around comes back around. And a strong woman wouldn't put up with another woman Man you tell that bastard to go home to his wife or leave her if he LOVES you so much. He can't leave he got to much to loss RIGHT if what he has to loss is more important than the love he has for you How much does he really LOVE YOU ( other woman) At of all this mess my 7yr old daughter has to be hurt cuz it will hurt her cuz another woman KNOWING he had a family decide to have a child. I am not saying he was right for sleeping with her But if we as woman stand strong MEN wouldn't be allowed to be dogs. But as long as there is WHORES i quess there will be DOGS. Pain keep your head up. I know exactly what you are going threw but I not ready to say I am giving up ↑
To pain: I am a woman who has a child from an affair with a married man and al I can say is that I am sorry for the pain you are going through and I cant change what happened in my situation just move from it..Anyway I wanted to say something, one thing about these afairs that happen are that no one, the wife or other woman makes the "man" accountable it seems that they both try and cater to his needs/lies..I think that it is both parties fault depending on how much each one knows and that everyoen should stop blaming the other women and look at the "man" who is obviously not giving a shit about either one, wife or mistress...These men lie, decive, and do all kinds of things tobring us women into the relationship, I know because I was one of them and it went to far...As far as the woman who said that the other woman and child should be second, well it is not the childs fault that they are brought into a world of trouble so lets try to direct our anger towards the adults because no child ask s to be born.. i again am sorry for your pain and hope you can work through it but i do want you to be careful about letting your husband get the lesser balme because he is the one that took vows for you and he is the one that should of thought of you and your child before he stepped otside the marriage. ↑
To understanding... I do believe that you live in a different world. YES everyone KNOWS that it is the mans fault. But if women would stop and think for a minute they would not be dealing with what they are dealing with. And I really hate it for you, no one is saying that it is the childs fault. I truly feel for these children but the truth of the matter is that the child was NOT planned and the men regret what they have done. They will always be the "other" child. I do hope that the men in these situations will do what they are supposed to do and the wives can accept it. Because if the wives want the children in their the child will be. ↑
Ladies, as I said, sorry about the pain the wives are experiencing. Certainly each and every situatio is unique. No, I still believe you cannot blame the other woman. Not all men prefer to stay w their wives, many prefer their lovers. I understand this is difficult to hear .It seems to me a lot of these men are just pathological losers anyway, and your children are better off w/o a father figure than amid a dysfunctional family as yours will become more likely than not. Every woman deserves a man who will treasure them and if your husband treasures another woman, he should have her. ↑
To you know: it is funny to hear you say the men will regret the children because they are not planned.. well if he lays down with another woman unprotected then well that speaks for itself..the world I am living in is the real one and I did not say that it was the mans fault only, I said that the men are the
ones who seem to be so protected...Don't not feel sorry for me, I am despite all I have been through, having a good life, and my son has his mother and father, maybe not living together but he will know he is loved..and to tell thte women to stop and think about what they are dealing with, you have no idea lies they hear ↑
Please tell me if the MAN wants his LOVER then why in the hell are you posting in this website. SINGLE & Pregnant? Love to hear the answer to this one. And you really believe that the "other" woman is NOT to blame. Honey, where did hell did you come from. You have got to be kidding me. If there was not some woman willing to spread 'em he would not stray. But since there are so many of then that are the woman they "love" will be at home while the woman they want to just have a quickie with will be by themselves everynight and on holidays and such. Tell me with the Hoildays coming is you "LOVER" planning in spending wiht you or his real family? Woman you are in some serious denial. ↑
ladies don't get so defensive and please keep you sanity in place. this is just an internet forum. if you husband had an affair and you lived happily every after, I am happy for you. in most cases it won't happen. Men don't leave their familiar lives for many reasons, it's not easy to make a drastic change even when u know u'll benefit from it eventually. I am posting in this forum b/c I am bored at work and find this extremely amuzing. I feel for ladies who are going through difficult times but please dont get nasty ↑
My response is in regards to the one who posted that we "other women" come on here for pity....I truly can only speak for myself of course, but coming on here is not about pity. In life there are endless situations that bring about life changes, and a way of working through those occurences is to communicate with others going through same or similar situations. In my own situation I have learned so much and cannot change in any way what is happening to our lives. But on the other hand, I am moving forward and am making huge efforts in my life as well as the life of the man and wife as I continue through my pregnancy. I am sorry for what my selfish actions brought about, and so is he. We were foolish and let ourselves get carried away, and now have mutually decided to go our separate ways yet remain civil to each other as we are both to be the parents of our baby. My child will not suffer as many on the other side of this situation continue to vow and promise. A child learns from their parents and adults in their lives, and although the facts about her conception are not ideal she is still a wanted and loved child and I will not bad mouth her father and will only be positive for her life. Sure as she grows there will be questions and answers that are difficult to provide, but the reality is that children are real, they are innocent, and they learn what we teach them. Not how others label us!! ↑
I agree that the other women and the child will always be second and it will always been know as the "other child"
We cant blame the child for being born whatever maybe not but the mothers have some nerve to say there child shouldnt come second they knew all along that there child would never live a normal happy family with mummy and daddy.
Of course they regret getting you pregnant
they wanted a shag not a child.
So why choose to have the child and then have a life time of never being number one.
why put yourself or your child through that.
So after you shag our husband choose not to
protect yourself from falling pregnant, having a
a baby and shattering our lives you still want us to except YOUR child as equal.
im not sure what goes through your minds clearly nothing.
i couldnt care less about the other baby and i i will never have it apart of mine or my families life.
I hope all you horrible women live miserable lifes.
and just remember if he does it with you
he will do it to you.
Oh and i find it "extremely amuzing" how you just happen to come by a cheating internet forum. and then seem to be so defendent of the quilty. ↑
I just don't get how the other woman is NOT to blame. I mean, of course it takes 2 to tango and the man is just as responsible/guilty HOWEVER.... if a woman is KNOWINGLY sleeping with a married man she is CONSCIOUSLY choosing to selfishly disrepect another WOMAN!! Thus is indeed, blameworthy!! ↑
I was dating a man for a year and when he found out that i was pregnant he immediately suggested that I should get a aborption. However, I am a strong woman and said no! He said that he would leave me if i wouldn't; yes it hurt for a minute but i thought for a minute that he was not a strong man no ways and could not have the strength to be the man I needed in my child's life anyway. So to your Mama bear let the man walk; dry them tears up because it is time to be a mother. ↑
My opinion---I think it's the man to blame not the women.If he's going to cheat he's going to cheat..you women make it seem like it's ok what they did to you and that they are going to stay with the wives...like they say it's cheaper to keep her. I think the husband's get off way to easy and all the blame is going towards the other women....blame your cheating husbands for breaking up the family.... ↑
You did the right thing to dump the man. What he said and did showed he did not really love you. The man I was involved in immediately suggested we got married after he found out I was pregnant. Unfortunately I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks. We both felt sad and shocked... But we are going to be married this year. I am happy for you that you are strong and you have a healthy baby. Take good care of both of you. Happy New Year! ↑
I totally agree with byrdie, this woman, after a while KNEW he was married and did not give a second thought to his wife whom had kids with this man already...how would any of you feel if your husband had someone on the side? I am sure none of you would like that kind of disrespect towards you! In her complaints, i did not hear one time that she felt bad for his wife, no remorse...she called that poor wife out of spite..I guess her idea of an honerable man would be for him to leave his wife and children for her! Now she has his baby, and he did not even claim it...this is the way I see it.....Mamabear spent 2 years sleeping with someone elses husband, invading someone elses life, she knew what he and she was doing was wrong, so the only advice I could ever give someone like her is treat other women the way you would want to be treated! What goes around comes around, she was not going to get the noble peace prize for what she did...she is no better than he is, she cannot be shocked by the outcome...the jerk was cheating on his wife, did she think he would respect his mistress any better...if she thinks so she is blind! ↑
I agree with "toall", the truth is some people are coming on here and casting their smart remarks to the wives about, "it's not their fault that our husbands are running to them". and we should have been satisfying our men...well you know first of all how we satisfy our men is not your place to fix..he is NOT your husband to satisy, our marital problems are none of your business..if it was our husbands would have told us about their mistresses, the second thing nobody likes another woman to sleep with their husbands,boyfriendsetc., I keep reading about you mistresses all depressed about the fact that these men don't leave their wives, if your saying it is cool to sleep with someone elses man, then you should not care about whether he leaves his wife, you didn't care about it before, if commitment really mattered to you mistresses, then I would think you would have the common sense to find a single man that won't keep you hidden, not only that , if it bothers you that we are as you say being hurtful and mean, then think about what YOU are doing to the wife and her family, she has put her trust in someone, and you along with this guy have betrayed her, stop thinking about us saying hurtful things when you don't have a leg to stand on...you have hurt someone, not the wife...I for one would not want to end up with a man that cheated on his wife with me, and I could not lower myself to sleep with someone elses husband for the simple fact that he was not mine to begin with, and I would not want it done to me, and trust me when I was single there were hot men that were married men that would hit on me and try to discuss their marital problems and I just said no...I guess it goes along with decency and maturity...too bad we all cannot have that. ↑
You knew what you were getting yourself into by dating a married man! You got him by default, and now you have just put another woman in hell by telling her that YOU are PREGNANT by her husband! That is a low blow to go to his parents, and childish if I might add, since you are just as much to blame as he is! Good for you for keeping your child, that is the right thing to do, but did you really think that he would leave his wife when you were only booty on the side? ↑
You knew what you were getting yourself into by dating a married man! You got him by default, and now you have just put another woman in hell by telling her that YOU are PREGNANT by her husband! That is a low blow to go to his parents, and childish if I might add, since you are just as much to blame as he is! Good for you for keeping your child, that is the right thing to do, but did you really think that he would leave his wife when you were only booty on the side? DON'T COME LOOKING FOR SUPPORT AND PITY WHEN YOU WHERE IN THE WRONG! I pray that this child is not hurt in the end. ↑
I guess the mistresses have nothing to say, yeah our men are running to you, for the side piece of ass, but are you going to spend time with his family? oopppsss, forgot you are hidden, if you were really that important to him...I guess he would have left his wife....and just think he does not even have to pay for a hooker, you give it to him for free!!! All he has to do is tell you girls what you want to hear...how terrible his marriage is, oh and how he plans to leave his wife etc. common women, grow a brain... ↑
yes i do spend time with his family, and so does our son..the only one u can blame is the woman but if not that woman then another one because these men are liars and dogs and will keep trying to cheat until they succeed. He has not left her and u better believe i realized i do not want him to because if she knew what she really had, then oh dang she would not be happy..u women are mad at the wrong people..... ↑
I stumbled on this site, because I couldn't sleep last night and just decided to surf. I find the posts amusing really... both sides. The bottom line is you can't make generalizations. Some men who cheat are dogs and some are truly tired of trying to make loveless, emotionally abusive marriages work... so they venture elsewhere. Some mistresses are disrepsectul shrews and sometimes the other woman is the one the man should have married (and regrets that he didn't wait for). Some wives are innocent victims and others are selfish, bitter individuals holding onto a man out of spite and pride without being the emotional support the man needs. In every case expressed here there is a unique combination of these personailities to varying degrees.
Also, when men get caught, they often immediately deny the mistress. In the case of pregnancy, they may deny that, too. That's usually a man's first instinct. Society still heaps a lot of judgement on cheating husbands, and most men want to be seen as the committed, faithful family man whether that is true or not. But I don't think it's wise for wives to fool themselves into thinking that the first instinct is the final one. You may not have won just because you were the wife, you may have won because the same lack of self respect that caused him to cheat may make him feel that all he deserves is the marriage he's in (if the marriage was not a healthy one). Likewise, I think it's shortsighted and cruel for the other woman to hope for -- let alone plot -- for the husband to leave his wife without ackowledging your inappropriateness in their union and excersing the utmost of maturity in how you will work to minimize this woman's pain in the future.
Yes, it is wrong to sleep with a married man. Yes, it is wrong for a man to committ adultery. Yes it is also wrong for anyone -- male or female -- to be in a marriage not fully complying with all of the responsiblities of that union (i.e. making love regularly, giving emotional support, not keeping records of wrong, forgiving). Just like the Bible gives many warnings about the pitfalls of extramarital sex, it also referes to a nagging wife (read: spouse) as a "dripping faucet" and many other dull, aggravating pains (Proverbs). So I always ask married folk -- wives and husbands -- to be honest about their role in why their spouse may have cheated, for as my father use to say, "it is never 100% one person's fault. "Again bottom line: we should all focus on our own journey (learning to love ourselves enough not to tolerate disrepect from our husbands or any one elses) and not judging other people. ↑
you know you say that if a man treasures the other woman he should have her, gee, I really hope you are this understanding when you are married and your husband decides to screw someone on the side! I notice most of the mistreses say I did not know he was married..or even better I could not stop seeing him out of love...sorry but thats all a crock, an excuse...first of all in most cases of dating a man will usually invite a woman to his place after a few weeks of dating, even sooner..people do spend the night together..if a man don't do that..either he is married or gay...and second once you find this out, you mean to tell me you women fall insanely in love only after a few weeks? It does not take much to find out if a man is married! It is amazing how you mistreses have a million excuses why you did what you did...but I know for sure that if you mistresses by miracle got the married dude to dump his wife...you would watch him like a hawk to make sure he don't do it to you! But you guys what goes around comes around...you talk about we should blame the man, well the dogs you are talking about are the one's you are trying to be with...and if you claim that you love this man..just think about if you were married to him and had memories of children and family vacations and so on and then some stranger tells you that she is pregnant by your husband,I am positive YOU won't come up with excuses...you would be pissed....you don't seem to give the wife an inch, but you sure as hell think you deserve sympathy. ↑
