Sorry to say, I'd bet my life that Cat is right. Hope things go ok for you, but please keep your eyes open. Unfortunately you were a party to what was done to his wife (you stayed after finding out, didn't you?) so my guess would be that this will not end with you running carelessly through a field of flowers thanking god for such a great man. Do us one favor, if/when he wanders, don't let your daughter see you accepting that behavior, she should be taught that she is better than that. This cycle does not have to continue. But I DO mean it, hope things turn out for the best! ↑
his ex wife had a son on the 19th and we have been waiting to hear the paternity test of him and my husband was faithful it wasnt his baby it was her ex bfs baby like we figured. so he has been faithful to me since we got back together in september. So herbaby has a father who wants it to be his and my husband and i have our daughter and another one on the way which i am even more excited about now this mess is out of the way and we can rest cause he isnt my husbands baby. ↑
that is good news that he isnt the father but nothing you can say or do will ever negate the fact that your husband is a cheat, you can never say with 100% knowledge that he hasnt cheated on you, he so easily lied to you when you were going out so yes he is capable, very capable and he can do it again when the next younger, prettier bit of skirt comes along with unfortunately is only a matter of time with cheats. its nice to think that everything can be fairytale and he can change etc etc but reality and the way he finds it incredibly easy to lie speak volumes. at the end of the day though its a lesson his ex wife learnt and it will be a lesson you will learn, whether that be 3/4/5 kids down the line until you realise. what makes you so special to think that he would never cheat on you yet he would do it to his ex wife? or is that because his ex wife was 'psycho, mental case, not as attractive' etc etc otherwise known as all the crap they tell you to make you feel secure they wouldnt do the same to you. i had exactly the same thing with a girl who hopped into my ex's shoes quicker than i could say his name! of course he then cheated on her, except she really believed for some strange reason that he wouldnt cheat on her. what goes around comes around. people have to learn the hard way sometimes. i hope his ex wife has moved on to a better guy who knows what the word fidelity means. ↑
hope the fairytale works out how you want it to hawaii. just remember having more and more kids with a guy doesnt stop him being a cheat. if anything in a few years you will most probably be the next wife he is bored of when another young woman comes sniffing. good luck, you will need it. ↑
i read thru the entire thread. i turn a very negative eye towards cheaters - men and women. but, i don't believe 'once a cheater, always'. a lot of times, i think cheating is a symptom, not necessarily the cause, of relationship problems. anyway, i just wanted to say congrats, hawaii, both on your twins and on things working out with your guy. cheating doesn't have to spell the end of a relationship or bar the development of a good one, and it sounds like you guys did the required leg-work to stabilize your relationship. your situation is extremely rare, but you know it, and i think you handled it right. moreover, your kids are going to thank you (especially the twins)! ↑
You said in one post his wife (now ex) couldnt have kids. Then she could?
And no, a cheater is not always a cheater. People who say that are the kind people who wont allow people to change. I speak from personal experience. The once cheater is now a wonderful father and soon to be hubsand. ↑
