my husband is about the laziest creation to walk the earth. he has a job, yes. and he does pay for eveything we need, but he will not help with the kids or house at all. i mean he does NOTHING. he hasnt ever changed a diaper, he hasn't made any bottles, hes NEVER EVER gotten up in the middle of the night with them, i even have to find a babysitter if i want to leave even when he is at home! he will not give them baths, he wont help me cook anything, he wont help me with any chores, he wont even take out the garbage! his job is only 7 hours a day istead of the regular 8. all he does when he is awake is plays his video games. he barely even plays with the kids! our 2 year old loves him to death and tries to emulate him. he wont give him the time of day. i honestly do more for the kids from about 8am-noon than he does in 2 weeks! i even have to put his clothes out for work because he wont! any advice on how to make him get his happy butt up and help me? im getting really fed up... ↓
Your situation sounds a bit worse than mine..but I know how you feel! My fiance is lazy as hell too and he says house chores "just aren't his thing". Oh,,ok, so I guess you think that I absolutley love picking up your dirty laundry and empty drinking cups you leave all over the room?...along with cleaning out the toilet YOU make disgusting and cleaning out my brand new car that you drive and leave a complete mess constantly? And let's not forget about watching your children(whom I love to death!) when they come over..... while you are still sleeping in until afternoon while I make them breakfast/lunch and get them dressed and keep them entertained....and don't you just love when they roll over at night and want some? Yeah right.....that's a joke......=)....I really feel your pain. I usually have to get into a big blowout argument about him not helping before anything gets done....then he helps for awhile....then its back to the drawing board......Good Luck...we both need it! LOL ↑
lol. wow men are sad huh? not all but didnt we get the pick of the litter! don't it suck that these are the men we love lol. well at least ur post took me out of my bad mood. i know im not alone now. i forgot about the toilet...my hubby does that too.. ewwwwww. anyway thank for the post. it made me smile. ↑
I am glad I made you smile...and one more thing "grrr". What is up with the video games? My fiance is constantly glued to those games in his spare time. I admit I play them sometimes too..but he is such a fanatic. And to top it off they are war games..If he isnt playing his war games..he is watching the military channel on TV.Guns this, battles that, death, submarines, kamikazes...what the hell!. Can I please watch something other than death and destruction please...like say....something interesting like "Science of the Bible" on the History Channel.....or something about the Solar Sytem.....just anything other than war....LOL ↑
I found this joke on another thread: A husband came home from work and when he pulled up to the house, he noticed that the yard was a mess. Garbage and dirty children. He went in the house and it was a disaster. It looked like a cyclone had come through. The toddler was in a dirty diaper. The dishes were all over the house, food on the floor. Dirty clothes everywhere. He started to worry, and called for his wife. He started searching the house for her. Finally he found her in the bathtub soaking in bubbles with candles lit and soft music playing, reading her favorite book. He looked at her incredulous and asked whats going on, the house is a mess and the kids are running amok. She smiled and said, you know how you ask me every day, what did you do today? He replied yes. She said, "Well, today, I didn't do it." ↑
WOW i dont know hoe all of you do it. i kept my hubby on short leash LOL MAJOR JOKE LOL....but he knows..i will blow and it aint pretty. he works 8hrs /day 5day/week. its hard work, but i have it hard here too. we have a 2yrs & 3yrs old. And i babysite 6other kids. plus house choires and cooking. he ehlps when he gets in the house. but he too is anoying with his games LOL... ↑
does anyones husband play final fantasy online? because thats the game hes addicted to. that and that one game...grand theft auto san andreas. lol jbear. that was funny. maybe i should try that. jk. but thanks for the responses. ↑
omg! its a sign of the apocolipse!!!! my husband came home from work this morning, and i had lost my voice and was feeling sick, and my husnad actually helped!!!!!!! i got up around 10, and he had the boys changed, made a bottle for our youngest and fed our oldest breakfast! im kinda wondering if he wants something lol. i hope hes just being nice though. ↑
Wow,,,,,I am amazes and happy to here that your hubby is of some help!. Maybe there is hope for men after all!...LOL.....Fiance doesnt play final fantasy...just Halo...and Rainbow Six(or whatever its called)..... ↑
I don't think you told the whole story but I don't want to hear it . Sweetie ! there's no bowls left in the cupboard ! What am I supposed to put my cereal in ? ↑
I hope that I don't get my woman card taken away from me, butttt.... I love video games. Now, granted I don't have time to playsince I had the baby, but I don't mind when my husband does. I also play fanasty basketball on yahoo. But on the topic of your husband GGrrrrr, I think you have to figure out just how much and how long you can take his nonsence and deal with it accordingly. ↑
Doesn't that just drive you crazy? I haven't had my baby yet, but my husband does NOT clean...ever. And normally, I'm really tired, but I do clean, and what's worse, we don't have a dishwasher, so I have to do them myself, and the next day, the sink's full again. I have a job too, but it seems like I'm the only one doing anything. But yes I see where you're coming from, what I do is yell at him, and that helps for about a day, but it goes right back to the way it was...*sigh* lol, so tell me if you find a solution. ↑
Not to sound mean but do you all expect your man to automatically change once you have a baby? If your man is lazzy its not as if once you have the baby he will wake up one morning and decide to clean. This is why you have to get them in the habit of helping out before......or maybe Im just lucky and have a good man. : ) ↑
u have left it too late lady to expect a change, why would u change every single diaper and not ask for help, u should have asked for help a long time ago, from the word go........at the end of the day if ur doing it all why would he get up off his backside, i know i wouldnt if someone was doing it all and didnt ask for help........... ↑
to Rachel...I have a dishwasher but our water is so hard that I can't use it. I got tired of doing dishes by hand, so I've started buying styrofoam plates and plastic silverware. I save the real dishes for company, and then all I have to wash are the pans. It may be tacky, but my kitchen has been clean every night for six months, which is a record for me. to everyone else, I guess I'd get mad at my husband if he were just working one job...he's working two full-time jobs so that I can stay home (I would rather go back to work but that's beside the point). I can't blame him for parking in front of the tv the second he gets home...he's changed two diapers for our new baby, started to change another and when he noticed it was poopy, he yelled for me to get out of the bathroom and finish changing it. The only time I get annoyed is when he wants me to do something he's never done and never would have asked me to do when I was working, like iron all of his clothes. ↑
it that was directed at me i do ask for help. he always says, scratch that make it whines, saying no no u go do it. they want u. it drives me insane. he did help before we got married, he would even help clan my room. i was living at home btw. but now he does nothing. ↑
my hubby drives me insane sometimes. he parks his butt in front of the tv all the time and only moves it to get food or do one of his hobbies. i have to bug him 20 times before he'll help with dishes. and then when he does, he thinks it's enough dish help for a month. he'll be like "i just helped with the dishes." my response?......"yes, dear that was last week. i've done the dishes about 10 more times by myself since then." i've come to the point where i don't do his laundry anymore. if he wants to throw his dirty laundry on the floor and not clean it up or help with the washing, then he can do his own. you would think that would motivate him, but no. i get so tired of our living room becoming his personal dumping ground for all his crap. you name it and it's on our living room floor. i finally told him that if he didn't clean it up, then i'm throwing it all in the garage in a box and i'm leaving it there. atleast that motivated him to clean up half of it. what is wrong with men???? why can't they answer our simple requests?? it's not like we're asking them to clean the entire house top to bottom! just an occasion helping out here or there would be nice and VERY appreciated! why do they help before marriage and then become fat, lazy, useless slobs after? i envy the woman who's hubby still helps her after the honeymoon is over. (sigh) and the baby hasn't even come yet! five more months and i'm doomed to be a housemaid forever. ↑
my hubby has been helping more. have been MAKING him lol. i told him that if he doesnt start helping me i was going to stop everything i do for him. EVERYTHING (hint hint) lol. he has been more motivated. better, but can still use improvement. men r soo lazy. no wonder women were the ones who were supposed to be women. kids and men would starve if women weren't here. i swear true story. HALLOWEEN I WAS GONE ALL DAY AT MY MOMS WITH THE KIDS. I LEFT AT ABOUT 11AM AND DIDNT GET BACK TILL 9PM. HE DIDNT EAT AT ALL BECAUSE HE WAS TOO LAZY TO COOK! I HAD TO MAKE A PIZZA OR HE WOULDNT HAVE EATEN THAT DAY. LAZY HUH? ↑
Name: GRRRRRR OOPS | Date: Nov 15th, 2005 12:03 AM
supposed to be- women r supposed to be mothers. lol. baby distractions. ↑
So your men are lazy and all they do is work and play video games. Sorry to say but you picked him, if they are lazy now they were before you decided to have kids with them. One thing I don't understand is why would a grown man want to play video games. He needs to grow up and find a different hobby. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying you do this but it might be a possibility, do some of you women complain and yell at your man for not helping you out around the house? Have you ever asked in a nice way like "Honey can you do me a favor?" then tell him what you need from him, then when he does it you tell him thank you. Everyday I tell my husband how lucky I am, he has dinner ready for me when I come home, he helps me with the laundry, he cleans out the garage and even takes out the garbage. I'm currently pregnant with our first child and he comes to all my appointments and makes sure I have everything I need. He works just as many hours as I do but we both have a mutual respect for each other. We have great communication and we listen to each other, I don't assume that he should know what I need or how I feel nor does he with me. If you are having issues with your husband have you ever just sat him down with the t.v off and the kids hopefully asleep so you have no interuptions, and just talked about how you both feel. If you can do that you might come to a mutual agreement. ↑
i have done most of those things. he was good about the appointments, but after we got married, he does nothing. he was helpful before, but now he wants to do nothing. and yes i have tried asking nicely, i have tried yelling at him, i have even tried to bribe him. he is just lazy now. he wants to do nothing. its good to hear that your man helps, but mine just wont, period. i have to yell at him to get his butt up for work, and i have to stay up until 12 am because I have to get him up for work, he works 3rd shift. then i am back up at 7 am to make him breakfast and care for our kids all day. UNLIKE him, i dont get a break. im lucky to get a shower. ↑
TO Kellie-i understand what your talking about. some women do just nag their hubby's and demand help. but i'm with grrrrrrr......i've asked nicely, but it doesn't work. i've tried the whole compliment thing and really meant it, but that didn't work either. my hubby was so helpful and just the little housewife before we were married. then it all ended very quickly. it's like now that he has me, he can stop putting on a helpful front. i don't understand men at all. your lucky that your hubby helps out and cares about you enough to do things for you. consider yourself a VERY fortunate woman! ↑
Run ! Do not walk to the nearest exit. I have been married for 10 years and it doesn't get any better girls. If it was not for my children I don't think that I would live through some days. He has that whole I'm the man I make the money and you take care of the house that's your job mentallity . Now I am sick and really need his help but I let him treat me that way for so long that he thinks that it is ok. It is not ok. You must take a stand for yourself and your children. If you have sons, then they are learning that this is how to treat a women and your daughters are learnng that it is ok to allow a man to disrespect them. You are good women take care of your children. They hear, see and remember far more than you think. God Bless and keep you safe. ↑
It is a mistake to judge a situation by only hearing 1 side. I dont think women understand how hard it is working 10 hours and then coming home to an emotional pregnant wife. No matter how much you tell us we DO NOT understand what your going through all we can hope to do is sympathize a little which is much more harder than it seems. Of course its easy to jump on a forum and bash ur man instead of getting to know his feelings and working out an agreement. If you want results talk to ur man and let him know how you feel in which case he will do the same. But if your emotional and just want to complain your doing the right thing. Side note: No we dont understand how hard it is to take care of a baby all day why dont you discuss that with us and lets come to a resolution. ↑
Wow!! I thought it was just me!! My husband only works 12 hours a week. He had to drop from full time to part time when I was pregnant. Now that I've had the baby he still on't go back to full time. Says it's too stressfull working 8-12 hours a day. I would understand that it is if he did other things than work! He will go off to work for 6pm. Finishes at 10pm (this is only 3 days a week mind!) When he gets in he will go straight on the PC and check his emails. Then go on this game called knights online. So annoying! He will be up playing on that untill early hours of the morning, sometimes he doesn't even go to bed untill the next day. He will stay in there untill about 4pm if he is at work but if he isn't he will get up about 8pm, then straight on the PC again. He will leave his mess on the computer desk. Dirty plates, cups, crisp packets, biscute wrappers....... When he makes cups of tea he wont rinse the cup out, he will get a clean one. Same with the spoon. He leaves the t-bag on the bench. When making food he leves tins and stuff on the bench too, doesn't wipe if he makes any spills. ↑
My boyfriend is a little lazy, but so am I. He works 9 or 10 hours a day, and is looking to get a second job, although he sways between that and wanting to be a "stay-at-home dad". He cooks for me, & he doesn't watch tv or play video games. And we're on the computer for about equal amounts of time. When he goes to the bar or music club, I go too unless I'm not feeling like breathing in all that secondhand smoke (I'm 20 weeks pregnant). He's really excited about our little boy, our new family together. I wish all you ladies would have someone in your lives to give you such respect. I haven't had a partner like him before, and I'm so grateful for him... we all deserve help, consideration & respect. ↑
Because many men are boys kellie, alot remain boys thats why they play pc games, in moderation i see no harm and it sounds like you have been married 2 months the way you speak. Wait till reality hits in your house and you wont be so la dee da. You think they need to wait for you to say, talk to him. I am sure they have done so. ↑
