Name: jenniferavalos | Date: Nov 25th, 2007 1:52 AM
I'm 32 and a single mother of two daughters. I'm not even divorced yet from their dead-beat dad and I just found out I'm pregnant from another man. And he's not a man I'd be proud to to bring home to meet my parents, either. I feel really stupid for making such bad choices when it comes to men and allowing myself to become pregnant AGAIN. I'm terrified to tell my family, especially my mom, because she thinks of the world in black and white, and there are certain things you are absolutely NOT to do (like have babies out of wedlock). I am actually very educated, with a Master's degree and a good job, so I can take care of my baby but I still feel like I'm going to need a lot of emotional support. Actually, being so educated makes me feel even more ashamed, like I have no excuse for not making better decisions. I guess my question is, how can I tell my family and get them on my side? ↓
This is my first time on this site. I am the mother of a daughter who is single and expecting her third. She never maried. This one is by a different man. She doesn't have internet access but I went on line to see if I could find a sit like this to tell her about. I'm so woried about her. She is 36. Her kids are 5 & 3. This father is not interested in the baby or her. I don't kno w how sh is going to manage. I saw your question an d and am writing back beause it sounds so much like her.
Have you told your family yet? ↑
Name: bubbles_99 | Date: Feb 22nd, 2008 1:57 PM
first off you are a grown women... and if you are able to take care of yours they should get over it and support you in this time of need.. i may be way younger than you but i do have some exsperience in the feeling stupid department... you shouldnt... everybody makes mistakes and needs help... i believe if they really love you they will be there for you most now ... and when that baby comes they will treat her no diffrent because regardless that is still family... i hope everthing works for the best.. xoxoxoxo savina ↑
Name: cors1wfe | Date: Feb 22nd, 2008 9:24 PM
Shopping is right you don't need them financially so they need to just be happy without passing judgement - just be prepared I am sure they will be displeased at first just try to ignore that and eventually they will be happy- children are a blessing - plus you can't help but fall in love with a baby! I had to tell my Pastor parents that their only daughter raised in the church was pregnant with no intention of getting married! I can relate but my parents said while we wish you were married who cares we are having a grandbaby! I was terrified to tell them I knew I had disappointed them but they loved me and made me feel accepted and never said one negative thing to me. it will be ok even if it's a little rough at first ↑
Name: Teddyfinch | Date: Feb 24th, 2008 6:46 AM
well, you have 2 other children and you know how wonderful they are, so i suggest you treat this like exactly what it is. a wonderful surprise. i'm sure your parents will be upset at first, but they'll get over it. ↑
