What is the absolute earliest you can know if you're pregnan
Name: worriedboutpreg
Question: My girlfriend had a blood test done three days after sex and she told me she was pregnant. We don't get to see each other much so I haven't had a chance to look at the results myself, but isn't this really early to find out? This was the first time we've been together in three months. Part of me is worried that she cheated on me, but the other part of me is confused that it would be too early to detect pregnancy after only three days. Has anyone else gotten results that fast before?? ?
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Answer: I looked online and every site I seen says that the earliest you can find out by blood test is 7 days past conception. =
Answer: Thanks Breezieb! I did the same research myself. This leads me to some odd conclusions. She either cheated on me, and is pregnant, or, she's lying to me about being pregnant. sigh, well, I really appreciate your help with this. Thank yoU! =
Answer: Yeah, three days after sex is too early from everything I rhave read. Implantation would not have happened yet. This is not to say she isn't preggo. She could have gotten prego earlier and just didn't know. This is especially true if her periods are irregular. What made her go get a blood test? Did you ask? Has she been missing periods the past month or more? If so, could be she is preggo and it's yours. Some women can't tell for awhile. Every woman's body reacts differently to being preggo. I would ask her what made her suspect she was preggo. There may be a logical expalnation. Good luck to both of you. =
Answer: Well, if she was preggie earlier, it wasn't from me! In all honesty, this was after our first time ever having sex. I didn't want to reveal this was a one time thing before because the last thing I want to do is go onto a great site like this and tarnish it with my ignorance. But, we had sex on the 22nd of April, and on the 25th, she calls me and tells me she was good news and that she's pregnant. She did have her period April 13th. About getting her blood test, this is whats fishy to me, too. I asked her why she went and got one done, and she said that when she went to the doctor for her surgery, (she was shot in the leg by her last husband years ago and she was going to get the scar worked on) they took blood from her and revealed to her that she was pregnant. Now, is that possible??? Don't you have to go to the doctor for a Specific appointment for matters like this? Or can a doctor, who is doing a routine blood test detect this? This is her story to me...three days after we spent "time" together. Im really at a loss here. If she IS pregnant, and the child is mine, I would do everything in my power to make everything work for our baby, but I feel like I can't trust her. To be honest, we don't know each other well at all. She's all gung-ho for having a baby, and I feel so confused, and quite frankly, very scared I'm about to be a daddy! There's a lot of inconsistent information she's giving me, but I want to be 100% sure, because I will be a father if it is indeed the case. Im not trying to run from anything. I feel like I'm being scammed by this girl, and that is the last thing someone should be feeling when the possibility of a child is there. But I've been doing all this research on quantative and qualitative blood tests and what they detect and each result I get is that it would take at least 5-10 days. Im sorry to change my original story to you all, its just I've been very embarrassed by this whole situation. Thank you both for your information. Is there anything you can suggest for me to do? =
Answer: Worried- you said that it was the first time you have been together in three months....she could be pregnant from then. some women still have periods etc....but if she is pregnant and she is not three moths + then I would say there is a problem there. Please let me know what happends...Did she say that she would show you the results? If so try to find out the hcg count from the blood test and that should give you an idea of how far along she is. Also did she go to her gyno for the blood test cause they usually would also do a cervix check which would have let the doc know if she was further along . Is she trying to say it was from 3 days ago or has she said that it might be from previous sex? =
Answer: Hey breezieb, well, she did tell me she would show me the results to show "when" she got pregnant, so she had to have taken a quantitative test, right? Anyway, we never had sex before April 22nd, ever. Whenever she comes over, which isn't much because I'm totally not trusting this girl, she does urinate a lot, so that has me a bit worried. I dont know! Well, I'll keep you posted! Thank you so much for your care in this matter! =
Answer: Worried, I understand the whole thing about not wanting to reveal it was the first time with her. And, by the way, you did not "tarnish" the site. As far as I am concerned, if you are asking because you do not know the answer to the question and have a true desire to understand, the question is not stupid. As far as this girl, if you were really only with her once just three days before the revelation, then this baby is not yours. The only way there would be any chance it were yours (if she is preggo) would be if you guys were fooling around (before the day you had actual intercourse) and your semen came in contact with her vagina (sorry this is somewhat graphic/personal). Then, again, she would have had to have been preggo more than a month. I would have doubts myself here. I would get the info. that breezieb suggested you get from the girl. Afterall, you say that you don't trust her. If time goes by and you still don't have answers you feel you can rely on (as in not just what she says), then at some point, if she does have a baby, I would demand a paternity test. It will all come out in the end. I hope for your sake that it is sooner rather than later. Keep us posted. If you just want to post to keep from going crazy, we understand here and are glad to help:) =
Answer: worried- I agree with intuition....also I have a male friends who have had this situation, unfortuantly some girls will say stuff like that even if it is not true. I would defently check the numbers.As far as going for surgery and getting a pg test done, it has been my experience that they do test for saftey reasons. I get tested even before a xray. Tell her to make an apponitment and you want to go with her, because even though I don't beleave her story I know you need to know for sure for your own sanity! Since sometimes it will be a couple of weeks before you can get in, depending on where you live there are free pregnancy centers. ....Did she put off the surgery? If so then she might be pregnant(not necesarrly from you) .Also do you know for sure that there was a surgery to be done? In my experience of females that lie alot/insecure/needy, they lie about alot of things. I am not trying to bash her,for all I know she could be one of the women who dosen't fit the usual and she came up just enough hcg to test positive, but this is unlikely. I am just trying to help you play detective. Please keep us posted!!!! =
Answer: Hi breezieb,
Well I think she really did have a surgery done. I think thats the ONLY thing shes been honest with me about. I just called her to see if we can set up another doctors appointment, but she was in a meeting so I didnt bring it up yet. You all have been so wonderful! Thank you for taking the time to speak with me about this. I am really feeling better because of you! I'll try and write more after I talk to her! Bless you! =
Answer: I am glad you feel better! Let me know how it goes! =
Answer: Ok, so she said she went to the doctor and was able to hear the baby's heartbeat. Its been two weeks. Isn't that too early to detect a heartbeat??? We had sex on the 22nd of april, and now she's claiming that she went to the doctor yesterday to hear the baby's heartbeat. Am I being played here? She still hasn't proven to me that she even IS pregnant. She is telling me she is going to gvie me the bloodwork proving it, but hasn't yet. I'll keep you posted, but tell me, isn't it way to early to detect a heartbeat? =
Answer: You are absolutely right, it is way to early to hear a hearbeat. You are able to SEE it on an ultrasound between 6-8 weeks. I think it's about 12 weeks before you can hear it. What did the doc give her for a due date? An ultrsound doesn't lie and will give a pretty accurate date. Doc's don't typically give you a copy of the bloodwork, that's not to say her doc didn't give it to her. Please keep us posted and I really hope you get to the bottom of this. Colleen =
Answer: I would demand going to the doctor with her or at to the first ultrasound normally 11-12wks. At the ultrasound they will measure the fetus & give you a date of conception. It is quite accurate so if she is lying you will know. I hope you know the truth soon. =
Answer: Worried - This "girl" is playing some games for real! She is saying that she is pregnant from you - meaning she got pregnant on april 22nd. She said three days later she had positive blood work (not likely) for pregnancy before having cosmetic/corrective surgery. She had the surgery anyway.(not going to happen/ a doctor would not risk the baby unless it was a life threatening surgery)then 2 weeks later she says that she heard the babies heart beat( if she was pregnant from the april 22nd experience she defentily would not hear the heart beat! You cant even see the heart beat yet!) If she does show you any paper work I would not trust it to be real. You could demand to go to a doctors appointment with her, but at this point you KNOW she is lying it absolutly does not add up! I at first wondered how young she is(being that her lies don't even make sense, it sounds like a 14 year old lying to her friends about pregnancy for attention)but I see that she had a husband. Run fast from this girl! I hope that you have not been having unprotected sex with her in the meantime because there could be a chance that she has now recently become pregnant. Their is still also a chance that she became pregnant During the first time you had sex since she would have not been able to tell by blood at the time of her test and that just this week is when a urine test would show. When she started the lies she knew she was not pregnant , and as she continues to lie she knows she is not pregnant! But if she was to take a home test now and IS in fact pregnant then you have a whole new situation because then you have a women who is pregnant with your child(possibly, who knows what else she lies about)and you already know that you can't trust her and the she is immature. If you go to the doctor with her and she is pregnant, make sure that the numbers match up.( also get a paternity test) One more idea - show up to her house with a home test( first response 5 days sooner) If it is negative you know she lied all along - and if it is positive( she still lied about the events) but it could be yours or she could be further along from someone else. GO to the doctor with her!!! Dont let her say ha I told you! Cause she just got lucky. If it is negative though - that dosen't mean that she can't test positive in the near future! I am sorry this is so long!!!!!! Please keep us updated!! It would probably be best not to sleep with her in the mean time ! =
Answer: I agree with breezieb. When I was pg with my son I didnt hear the heartbeat till I was 8 weeks along, and the doc said not to worry if I didnt even hear it then because that is really pretty early still. There is also no way that she could have found out that she was pregnant only 3 days after intercourse. I wonder where she has gotten her information from because if I were to lie about this I would at least make it believeable. If she is pregnant I am guessing it is probably not yours. On another note, most doctors appt's that consist of giving a blood/urine sample will typically check for pregnancy. Just a simple test that they preform just to make sure (probably has to deal with malpractice?!?). Anyway, I would make sure to check this girls story, preferably by going to the doc with her. If she is in fact pregnant then it is still early enough for the doc to give her a pretty accurate due date. If the dates dont add up, then it sounds like you not only have a cheater on your hands but a liar as well. So sorry... keep us up to date on what happens. =
Answer: Hey everyone! Wow, I haven't had this much support since the last time I was on crutches! Ok, so here's an update. I called her and asked her to go to the doctor with me to get a quantitative blood test. She had no idea what that was. I asked her to go with me on Tuesday (may 13) since it is my only day off. She then proceeded to tell me that she is leaving on saturday to go to some island for a vacation...this is the first I've heard of this. So I then said, ok, then we can go on friday to the doctor. She then changed the subject. So now I know I've caught her in a lie. I think bring up the issue of the meeting with the doctor to detect the baby's heartbeat. I asked her, did you hear teh baby's heartbeat? And she said yes, and the doctor told her the baby had a healthy heart. I then asked, did he use doppler, or was it ultrasound? She never responded. I then brought up the fact that you cannot hear a heartbeat after two weeks. Her response was: the doctor tried to tell me that, but Im hard headed and I couldn't hear it, and he didn't want me to waste my time and money. Sooooo, that means she lied about that as well. Wow, I really picked a winner here! Anyway, AFTER the conversation, I received about 50 text messages basically telling me she never wanted to sleep with me, and I'm killing her baby, and yadda yadda yadda. I didn't respond back. So this morning, she text messaged me several apologies, and that she will be having an abortion in two weeks when she returns from her "vacation". So Im left here wondering, why is she still even going with this lie, and my god, how can I get her off my back?! I would also like to say that all of her text messages were written in such bad english, it nearly took me an interpreter to understand what she was saying...and she IS from the US! She has a history of pain medication use. Ahhh, I should just call Jerry Springer and fulfill the destiny of this whole ordeal! Anyway, I haven't been with this girl since that day. I would like to keep my distance as far as humanly possible. She truly has ruined the past two weeks of my life by telling me all these horrible things. I have been getting constant text messages telling me that she's getting an abortion and its my fault, and I'm forcing her to kill her child. Part of me laughs, because deep down inside, I know she's full of it. But part of me still worries because as dumb as this girl is, and as crazy as she is, there still could be a chance that she is telling some truth. So, she refuses to see a doctor with me, and she still hasn't given me ANY =
Answer: (SORRY PUSHED A BAD BUTTON cont...) proof that she even IS pregnant. I guess all I can do is ride this out until the truth shows up. Its just a shame it has to be this way. Well, I've gained a lot from this experience. I now know much more about pregnancy, and certain processes one needs to go through in order to get pregnant. I also learned about testing, and how to get solid results. This whole experience has opened my eyes, so that when I DO go through a real pregnancy with the one I love, I'll have a great understanding for how to handle things. One thing that has been on my mind that really makes me mad at this girl is that I've read so many topics from women who are trying so hard to have a child, and I've read from so many women who are honestly trying to get useful information here, and this girl is falsely playing a pregnancy. It really makes me sick. Well one thing's for sure, I have a much better perspective on what REAL women go through. Thank you all for your help with my situation. I am so thankful for this site, and you wonderful people. I hope those of you who are expecting have a wonderful child!! I'll keep posting on here. I'd love to know how things go with your pregnancies! Sheesh, I could never be a woman, I give you all sooooo much respect! Thanks again for all you've done for me!
Not-so-worried-anymore =
Answer: Glad to hear that you were able to catch her in her lie. I don't understand what she means by saying that you are killing her baby and now she is getting an abortion and it is all your fault. I would count yourself lucky that you were not involved with this girl more than a few weeks- she has some serious issues and you sound like a very nice guy and deserve much better. I agree with breeze- if she continues to insist she is pregnant, give her a test and have her show it to you. Good luck and keep us updated. =
Answer: Well here's the latest update. So, she sends me a text message that reads : oh no!!! I just got (out) of the hospital in St. Kits ( I guess thats where her "vacation" is) and we lost our baby. THIS IS A TEXT MESSAGE she sends me. Who TEXTS somebody that they had a miscarriage?! Well, its obvious she was full of poo. I then called her and asked her what happened. She tells me she had a miscarriage and she's very upset (obviously so upset she sends a text message to tell me the bad news). The more I think about this, the more irate I become. It's disrespectful for anyone who actually HAS had a miscarriage. She wants me to pity her because I don't want to be in a relationship with her. She is very manipulative and extremely disrespectful to my feelings on all of this. I have been tearing my hair out over all of this. I was (at first) genuinely concerned for this poor girl's well-being. It was devastating for me to even ask her to have an abortion. I have been going nuts for the past few weeks considering, and reconsidering all of my options, and now it comes down to the final "truth". I want to apologize to all of you for coming on here and even wasting your time with such an insane issue. I know I keep thanking you all, but I honestly cannot thank you enough for your support in all of this. I know I'm not totally out of the woods with this girl, but at least I can rest easy knowing this whole thing was a scam to get me to be with her...Sheesh, I didn't know I was that in demand! Your knowledge and comfort has been such a blessing for me! To all the mom's and soon to be mom's out there, HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY! I'll keep everyone in the loop of whats going on the next few days. Im actually considering legal matters in this case, but at the same time, I'd rather walk away clean from this one and let my lesson be learned! Thank you all for your genuine responses and your care! =
Answer: worried - You did not waste any ones time!!! That is what this is about support, questions, etc. I hope you keep posting. Hey at least you now have the gift of knowledge. You are many steps ahead of most men when it comes to this stuff. I think when you do start your family you will have a special apprecation! I think that is awesome! =
Answer: you're absolutely right Breezie! I gained a lot from this whole ordeal. It really makes me think more about the importance of trust in a relationship too. having a child is a big step for two people. I know I am going to PLAN my parenthood! I want to be the best dad I can be. Right now, my cat thinks so, but thats a lot easier than a little baby..although, babies don't scratch you and climb up your back when you're not giving them that much attention, hmmm. hehe. Good night everyone! =
