had my d&c last thursday and im desperate to get pregnant again, im still bleeding at the moment when i had the d&c i had lost alot of blood which i am abit worried about, my question is ...will there be a good chance of me concieving again and how soon will i concieve, when i got pregnant i caught straight away having just come off the pill of 6years i would really love to hear some good news and support please help ↓
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Name: Shell | Date: Mar 17th, 2005 3:01 PM
Hello there. I also had a D&C last Tuesday. My bleeding stopped right around the 7 day mark so hold on...I am wondering the same thing. I really want to be pregnant again. I have heard you have to wait one cycle but i was wondering if that is necessary? I 'm not sure how long it will take to become pregnant again but i'm hoping the wait won't be too long. ↑
Name: Kat | Date: Mar 17th, 2005 5:00 PM
Hi Julie. Hi Shell. I had a miscarriage this past weekend and have very light, occ bleeding still. I didn't have a d&c and haven't heard whether or not that matters as to when to try again. I kinda think it doesn't matter either way. But - my midwife said it is better to wait until you have had at least 2 cycles, preferably 3, before trying. She said that some get pregnant right away and carry normally to term but to optimize your chances of a healthy pregnancy, waiting is better. Believe me... I know how tough the thought of waiting is. It was also the first thought on my husband's mind. But - maybe we should try our best to wait. I keep reminding myself that 3 months will fly by and I won't even remember the wait once pregnancy happens again. I want to do all that I can to heal and be strong before conceiving, and hopefully, this won't happen again. I think it would be tough to go through it again in a short period of time. What do you guys think? Maybe we can help each other get through the waiting and share ideas on how to build our bodies back up? :) ↑
Name: Ch | Date: Mar 18th, 2005 12:26 AM
I had a m/c almost 2 weeks ago... My dr told me to wait 1 cycle. I have done a lot of research on the net to what the normal waiting period is and have found that the main reason you are advised to wait one cycle (my dr did mention this too) is because it is "easier" for the dr to determine your due date. Sorry... They get paid biiiiig bucks to figure that out. I don't want to wait. I didn't have a D&C so I didn't have the lining scraped to almost nothing. I did read that taking baby aspirin helps thicken your uterus lining and aids in helping you conceive. I hate to sound negative but this is THE hardest thing I have every gone through in my life. DH and I have decided to start trying again right away... If we don't get pg this first month it's no biggie and there is always next month. We are just not going to "play it safe." ↑
Name: Kat | Date: Mar 18th, 2005 8:22 AM
Ch, my midwife told me your chances of m/c go up if you don't wait... Have you heard that at all before? I am worried about going through it again soon. I know it is so tough... sorry for your loss. ↑
Name: Pamela | Date: Apr 5th, 2005 11:02 AM
Hi Everyone,
I went to stool and I saw something that resembled egg whites after wiping my vaginal area. I was at that time 11 weeks pregnant. I told my husband that the egg whites resembled that of when I had went into prelabor with my son (mucus plug falling out). I had planned on going to work, and my husband came home from work and told me we are going to the hospital. I went to ER and they did a papsmear, and said the mucous plug did not fall out..?? They did an ultrasound, and said, "Are you sure you are pregnant?", and of course I was in hesterical, and started to show the ultrasound pictures to the doctors. They sent me then to the ambulance room, and they checked again with an ultrasound that detects blood flow...nothing...then again for a heartbeat on another monitor...nothing. So of course I was really sad and crying. I then went to an OB the next day, because mine was on holidays, and she did an ultrasound. The same response, but she found 2 dead fetuses. I then was in the waiting room, waiting for my sick paper for work, and saw a woman with a baby and broke down in tears. I went to my doctor 1 week later to see if maybe the ER, and the other OB had possibly missed the heartbeat somehow, and my doctor came up with the same response. He called the Hospital and got me an appointment 2 days later for a D&C. I was very afraid of a D&C but honestly, the OP was very fast, and I left the hospital the same day. I was glad to get it over with...knowing you have a dead baby in your stomach is a sick feeling. I did not have any infections, but later I still had pregnancy symptoms. I spotted for about a week after the D&C, and then nothing. 3 weeks after the D&C I was at the shopping center and almost threw up just looking at some advertisement for food. I then came to me that maybe something went wrong during the D&C, or that I am again pregnant. I waited of course another week for my period to come, and 3 days before 4 weeks after the D&C, I had spotted. To my surprise the spotting only lasted one wipe. I waited, and then on the 4 week mark I went to the doctor. He did a urine test that came out negative, and told me the blood was probably ovulation.?? Sometimes woman 30 and over get ovulation spotting. I was not satisfied with the nausea I continued to feel the following week, so I went again to the doctor. This time the test came out positive, so he immediately did an ultrasound. The baby was buried good in my uterus. We made appointments every 2 weeks, and I began to bleed brown blood that did not stop until the 10th week with help of estrogen suppositories. Then the bleeding began again while I was at work during week 12, so I called my husband and we went to ER. The ER said that the blood is more brown, the cervix was closed and also the baby was ok. I continued to bleed this brown blood with blood clots of enormous size, and my doctor examined me once more, and found I had placenta previa. I continued to work, but resting at home. The placenta finally moved up on the 14th week which means no more placenta previa. I had a big problem during the 20th week...The baby became engaged, ready to be born. The doctor gave me medication to stop the delivery..which makes you shake. Then 2 weeks later, he said everything is fine now and the thinning and effacement stopped. He told me more than 4 contractions a day is not a good thing at this week, and to call if this continued before our next appointment in 2 weeks. All was well until week 26. Baby was ready again and the Doctor gave me a steroid shot in the butt, and one the next day also. I stopped working totally, and did only necessary things. Week 28...The baby is at breech, and kicking my cervix. Amazing. The baby decides not to be born, and to stay a while. I am so happy now.
I just want to tell you all my story. Getting pregnant right after a D&C was scary. All of the obstacles I went through, and the thought that I am going to lose another baby was horrifying. If I would have known the dangers of not letting your cervix heal first before trying, I would have waited a month. Not to mention not letting you body get a little back in shape before trying again. I am 30 weeks now and look like 42 weeks. ↑
Name: nellie | Date: Apr 5th, 2005 3:00 PM
of course, i just had a miscarriage the last week of january and now i am 9 weeks pregant. i got pregant right after, so don't ever give up the faith in the lord, because beleive it or not, everything happens for a reason..... ↑
Name: Wendy | Date: Apr 5th, 2005 5:15 PM
I am the same, I am suppose to be 12 weeks, and on Monday had cramping and very light spotting.. Went to hospital and the did an US and found the baby died at 8 wks.. so all this time i thought finally got to 12 weeks to find I had a missed miscarriage... still nothing and going to have a d&c today, as obviously my body is not doing it naturally... good luck to you all and my hearts go out to you.... We will proably start trying again in a month or two.....
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Name: Monny | Date: Apr 6th, 2005 10:28 PM
Well....I had a D&C due to "empty sac" the first of February. I got my period again early March. I just learned yesterday that I'm pregnant again! I'm excited, suprised, but concerned. We weren't even trying. We weren't expecting this to happen this soon. We're not telling anyone until I make it to the 2nd trimester. ↑
Name: Rosetta | Date: Apr 7th, 2005 6:15 PM
I had a D&E due to a missed mc at 11 weeks. Drs told me my baby died at 9 weeks 4 days. Dr told me today if I get pregnant before 1 complete cycle "Oh well it happens. The risk of another mc is slightly .05% increased." Im very anxious to become pregnant, but hope I can make it through one cycle so I don't have ANY increased chance of another mc. AT ANY RATE...another question I asked my dr was how long did she think it would be before I could conceive again? She said I would be most fertile the first three cycles after my D&E because she didn't scrape the lining of my uterus. Thats how a D&E differs from a D&C I guess??? Anyway...Good Luck. Will keep my fingers crossed for u all. :) ↑
Name: Jess | Date: Apr 20th, 2005 2:08 PM
I had a D&C on Monday after finding out that our baby died at 8 weeks but I did not know it until 13 weeks. My doctor suggested that we wait 3 cycles before getting pregnant again. However, I have had friends that got pregnant after 6 weeks and have carried healthy babies. ↑
Name: Josie | Date: Apr 20th, 2005 2:18 PM
I had a similar thing happen to me. I got pregnant right after going off the pill and miscarried at about 7-8 weeks. I did not have to have a D&C because my body took care of it itself. My doc told me to wait one month until I got a regular period again and that is what I did. We tried after I got my period and I got pregnant right away again and have two beautiful children. ↑
Name: Katie | Date: Apr 20th, 2005 5:56 PM
I had a D & C in late march. I am now anxiously awaiting my period so we can try again. My Dr. told me to wait at least one normal cycle and we could try again. I understand where you are all coming from. This has been the hardest thing I have ever faced. I know that God has a plan for us, but it doesn't make it any easier. I worry about another pregnancy and going in for that ultrasound. We found out on a regular ultrasound that the baby had no heartbeat. Life catches you off guard sometimes. I have faith it will all work out. It is just so hard to wait. Good luck to you all! ↑
Name: NIK | Date: Apr 21st, 2005 3:04 PM
Hi Julie! I had a MC in Feb. 6 weeks later and still no period. To my very happy surprise I conceived before my period started and am 8 wks pregnant and everything lookds great so far! Good Luck to you! I hope it happens as fast for you. By the way, I bled for 2 weeks from the onset of the MC. ↑
Name: lori | Date: Apr 22nd, 2005 7:01 AM
i had a miscarriage 03/30/05 I was 23 weeks my doctor said it takes time for the uterus to recover and for the endometrial lining to become strong and healthy again. medically it is safe to conceive after two or three normal menstrual periods. quite naturally I dont want to wait I loved being pregnant I had just started feeling my baby move around for about 3 weeks i just found out I was having a boy about three weeks I know it is best that I wait to avoid another miscarriage so ladies please listen to your doctors and my God richly bless you all ↑
Name: Karen | Date: Apr 22nd, 2005 12:17 PM
I had a D & C in July of 04. I have been seeing a fertility specialist and didn't treat in August because she was away on vacation. I tried again in Sept. w/clomid and I became pregnant. I am due June 14, 05. So to answer your question, yes there is a good chance of you conceiving and it could happen within a month or two. Hang in there. I did and everything is working fine for me.
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Name: Car | Date: Apr 25th, 2005 4:21 PM
It is so unbelievable how so many of your stories are like my own. I too went to ten weeks and was told I m/s at 8 weeks. I think the worst part of it for me was eating the day after my d&c. I was on a routine and was thinking for two when I ate (healthy - for a change). Eating the next day, I felt empty - a loss. That was a month ago today and I'm still waiting for my period. Funny thing was that I was not happy to find out abaout my pregnancy but then when it was gone-I missed the feeling and the excitment. We will all be fine. Thank goodness we have our health now. My husband said "Thank You" when he saw me after the procedure and I said "for what" and he said "for coming out of this OK". It's true you never know and my husband said as horrible as it was for us to go through this, at least I was ok. It brought us closer together and that in itself is a blessing in disguiss (spelled wrong - sorry). ↑
Name: Jami | Date: Apr 25th, 2005 10:57 PM
I had a d&c and the doctors told me to wait until I had one period before trying again. I waited and I was pregnant the very next month ↑
Name: Crystal | Date: Apr 26th, 2005 11:21 AM
I need to put my story into words so I can start to believe it. Last Monday I went to the hospital to have routine blood work done for an upcoming surgery. The doctor's office called me on Tuesday morning and told me that I wouldn't be able to have my surgery because I was pregnant. I was in total shock. This was going to be my third baby and I am 24. My husband and I told everyone and started making plans immediately. Then on Friday I started having lower back pain and pains in my left side. I thought it was a kidney stone because I am very prone to having them. Then on Sunday I went to Walmart with my 4 year old daughter and when I got home I had some spotting. I called the OB unit at the hospital and asked them what was wrong. She told me to stay on the couch with my feet proped up. The spotting stopped and Monday morning when I got up for work the pain was so bad that I couldn't walk. My mom drove me to the ER. They ran blood wrok and preformed and ultrasound. When the results came back my doctor told me the news. I was pregnant with a fetus that stopped growing at 7 weeks. Somehow, the blood work from a previous test was wrong and I actually got pregnant in February. Therefore, I should have been 3 months pregnant. But for some reason the baby stopped growing at 7 weeks and never developed a heart beat. My Hcg levels were only rising by 200 and they should have been doubling. They performed a D&E yesterday and removed my baby. I am now left with the pain of getting over losing a child. No one seems to understand that...that baby WAS my child. ↑
Name: elise | Date: Apr 26th, 2005 1:18 PM
these stories are helpful. i think it's important to wait julie, because the uterus needs to replace its lining. the lining is what holds the placenta in place (well, i understand it to be something like that). i am going through this too, and while i would gladly wait to become pregnant again for a few months, i want to have sex! i think there are some hormones that are connected to this, and i was wondering if it is just me, or are other people feeling this too? ↑
Name: T | Date: Apr 28th, 2005 11:56 AM
Hi I had a miscarriage on April 11, 2005. I bled for 3 days my levels went back to negative. I had unprotected sex and its now the 28th of April and I am having headaches I am really tired and my breast hurt really bad just curious if anyone ever fell pregnant that soon after a miscarriage and what was any of their symptoms. Just to let you know that through the miscarriage I did lose all my pregnancy symptoms and now they are back. Can anyone tell me maybe what's going on? ↑
Name: Marivic | Date: Apr 28th, 2005 1:42 PM
T - I also m/c in Dec. of '04, was told to wait 2 cycles before trying again. Got pregnant right away (I really wanted to try again, didn't understand the medical necessity of waiting). Instead of getting my period in Jan, I got pregnant again right away, only to m/c again (both at 5 weeks). It's not just the uterine lining, but the maternal nutrient stores that need to be built up in order to adequately support pregnancy (that's why you're supposed to "prep" your body for a few months before actively TTC).
I know it's hard to wait, and they say there's nothing that we can do to "prevent" them, but even my OB says the second one "may have been due" to my body not being ready, and that's some major guilt I have to live with the rest of my life. Plus, I'm now 7w6d (waiting one cycle) and I wonder if I wouldn't feel less anxious with this one if I hadn't have rushed into the 2nd pregnancy. Yes, sometimes it works out to get pregnant right away after m/c, but since pregnancy is a time to be doing everything we can to make sure everything turns out ok, it only makes sense to wait a cycle or two if that's what helps the odds. Just my thoughts/experiences. Hope everything works out well for everyone. ↑
Name: Kristina | Date: Jun 2nd, 2005 10:49 PM
I just went through my first miscarriage and was told that i need to wait until after my next cycle before trying again but does anyone have an idea when that would be? Will it be a normal 28 days or is it longer? I want to starting trying again soon. ↑
Name: Melissa | Date: Jun 3rd, 2005 3:45 PM
Hey Julie. I had a miscarriage in November of 2004. I was suggested to wait at least one period before trying again. I had three periods before I actually concieved again- so about 4 months later. I am now 17 weeks pregnant and all is going well. So if you're healthy person your chances of getting pregnant are very good, it may take some time but just learn about when you're ovulating and that may help. Usually miscarriages have nothing to do with you being unable to get pregnant, they are just random events that happen because the chromosones weren't right in that fetus. It's hard at first after losing a baby but the most important thing is to keep taking vitamins, get yourself healthy mentally and physically, and you will have a healthy baby.
Lis. ↑
Name: liz | Date: Jun 3rd, 2005 6:19 PM
I was told last week that I probably had a miscarriage based on my HCG level, which was 25 last time I got it checked, I have not started my period agian yet, ( I am spotting sludge that looks like coffee grounds) and my breast hurt, so hopefully my period is on the way. I too am scard to try again.( this was my first pregnancy) but the hubby wants to (we are both in the military and on a decent schedule now and hopefully will be for the next year or so, so the timing is good. I just don't know if I can go through the whole thing again. I never saw my ob since I was only like 5 weeks or so. and everything was done in the ER. I don't want another strange doc looking at my "stuff" plus I am scared that something may be wrong( even though the doctors say all of my blood work and stuff is normal and my cervex and stuff is fine). I feel your pain ↑
Name: Tina | Date: Jun 3rd, 2005 6:21 PM
I had a D&E at 11 weeks due to a blighted ovum. My period came 30 days later. Now I'm trying again, so we'll see. ↑
Name: Rita | Date: Jun 4th, 2005 4:38 PM
I had a miscarriage May 22nd only 4 days after results of a u/s showed a blighted ovum. I was 12 weeks pregnant but the baby died at 6 1/2 wks. I was utterly devastated as we so desperately wanted this baby. I haven't had a d&c and am waiting to see if my hormone levels drop to 0 in the next 3 wks. My Dr. stated it would be best to wait 3 months before trying again. As difficult as that will be to wait, I don't think I could bear trying again too soon and losing the baby. I understand those of you that will though and I don't blame you. I lost my mother to cancer when I was 14 and my father had long since let me know I wasn't wanted. I have struggled my whole 32 yrs to be happy and a productive member of society, but this has been the most difficult thing for me to "get over" (as other people tell me) I don't think I'll ever get over it and now I'm freaking out that I wont be happy if I get pregnant again, but I'll just constantly freak out that I'll lose the baby again. I wish I could wake up from this bad dream. my thoughts and prayers go out to you all and I'd give you all a big hug if I could. ↑
Name: RA | Date: Jun 5th, 2005 8:18 PM
I was 10 1/2 weeks pregnant when I went in for a routine OB visit with my 7 year old son in tow only to find out that the baby had lost it's heartbeat. We had seen the heart beat at 6 weeks and were told our chances of miscarriage were really low so we had become overconfident. Needless to say I was shocked and devastated. I was so worried about how to explain this to my 2 kids as they were both so excited about having a new baby. My husband has been great although I don't think he can begin to understand my grief. One minute you are pregnant and the next you're not. This is not something you ever "get over" it is more like "get through" My doctor said I could try to conceive again 2 weeks after my D& C and didn't mention anything about increased chance of miscarriage. I hope everything works out ok. I don't think I can handle the disappointment again. I know everything happens for a reason and I just hold faith that someday when I am looking into my newborn's eyes I know that if it weren't for the loss of the previous pregnancy I wouldn't have this new baby to love. Good luck to you all, you are not alone. ↑
Name: staci | Date: Jun 11th, 2005 8:10 PM
ladies, i am sorry for all the losses here, I know the feelings. I am suffering my 2nd m/c, no children yet. my 1st m/c was in march this year and i was 6.5 weeks, this time I was 8.5 weeks and taking prometrium with this pg. Both times we had seen the heartbeats which is supposed to mean less risk for m/c right? I am so devastated and sad, hoping and wondering if we will ever have children. I too wonder, although my doctor hasnt said anything, but I never had af after first m/c and am wondering if that had anything to do with it. my doctor said that I wouldn't have gotten pg if my body wasnt ready but what if the lining wasnt thick enough. I have hada 2 D&C's in 3 months time. My doctor said she wouls start testing with some blood level testing...does anyone have insight into what tests I should make sure are being done? also-hope for healthy baby ever??? ↑
Name: Car | Date: Jun 12th, 2005 4:44 PM
Staci, that is pretty devestating. I wrote above about how how I m/c at 8 weeks back in March. It's now June and I am very apprehensive to start again even now. I've had two cycles since the procedure but I do think that it's good to wait for your body to heal again. What happened is by no way anything that you have done. I myself would think that maybe it's me but don't feel that way. If you know that you are doing everything right then go with whatever you need to. I fear going through that experience again. Last night my husband said "let's have a baby". It scared me because if I have another miscarriage I don't know how I would feel about trying again. For some people it's so simple to have a healthy pregnancy and baby but unfortunately for others it isn't. Just keep pushing through and give yourself some time. Get yourself healthy for a couple of months and try in the Fall. Get through the Summer and try in the Fall. ↑
Name: Rita | Date: Jun 12th, 2005 9:47 PM
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I too recently had a miscarriage at 12 weeks, but no d&c was done. My ob/gyn told me to wait for 3 cycles before trying again. The biggest reasons were for to establish when the pregnancy occurs, and to ensure the lining of the uterus has time to return to "normal". I think whatever time you think is right for you is ok, for me I want to wait that time because if I got pregnant right away and lost that baby too, I'd definately blame myself for not waiting. I think only you know when you're ready, but I would either talk to your ob or get a new one if you're not comfortable with your current one. Good luck! ↑
