Question: Well, I am waiting to start ttc. Seems wierd but My husband and I want to wait to start trying until my cycle begining in July so that whenever after that I do get pregnant, The baby won't actually come until after the end of next school year (I'm a teacher). Also, my husband just started his own business and that would also be when he had his own business for a full year. So.... I'm just feeling sorry for myself that I can't start trying yet... it is driving me crazy!! I have already started charting cm (starting last cycle) so that I can judge better from the get go when I might O. Just woder ing if anybody else is waiting to ttc and is having a hard time waiting too? ?
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Answer: well if i were you i would start now. no one ever knows when they will succeed at ttc. you may be the type who all your dh has to do is look at you and your pregnant or it may take a few months or several months or years. sometimes the best things in life are the things not planned. good luck on whatever you decide. =
Answer: That reasoning is part of why it is so hard to wait I think. The fact that you never know how long it is going to take to get pregnant. But, I really don't want to have to take time off of work (I am actually subbing now and hoping/planning to be full time teaching this fall) This will be my first year with my own class so it would be really hard to take the time. Not to mention, now that dh is ready to start ttc on this time frame, I don't think I can change things on him with all the other stress going on with the new business.... he takes a while to warm to change... I mostly just wish I had someone to talk to about it. None of my other friends are even close to this point (I'm 25). It's hard because no one really understands (at least I feel that way). =
Answer: Maybe if you use these next couple of months to prepare, it won't really be like you're not ttc. Start using opk's and charting your cycles- you will know ahead of time when you ovulate. You can also start taking some good quality vitamins and get hubby on some too. You can tell him the vitamins are b/c he will be under alot of stress with the new business and you don't want him to get sick, etc. Try doing alot of reading on ttc and pregnancy, that way you are not really losing time. Just an idea. =
Answer: I am waiting to find out if I am pg this cycle (I messed up on my bc pills, but if I am it would be a blessed surprise). I already have a son who is nearly 8 months old, and if I am not pg then we are waiting till October to start "officially" trying for #2. However, with this possibility of being pregnant right now, I have a major baby bug and dont know that I want to wait till October... other then the fact that I would like a summer baby. I know how you feel. Would this be your first? =
Answer: I have read a TON on pregnancy and ttc. I have also seem my "dr." The lady I see is actually a nurse practitioner/midwife. So, I got on prenatals and got some samples of vitimins for dh (conception xr) lol at the name. He is reluctant to take them... I keep telling him that it's not anything crazy it's just more of some vitamins that are good for him anyway. he has been so busy he isn't eating so well lately either. So, I'm slowly getting him to even just take a regular multi. He used to take them religiously... like I said before, I am charting cm.... I think I can tell when I o. At least last month I am almost 100% positive I know when I o'd 2nd day of ewcm had a twinge in right ovary.... that was cd 17 of a 30 day cycle so my luteal phase (sp?) is 14 days I am pretty sure. I think I o'd on cd 17 this month too and if so, would now be 10 dpo, expecting af this sunday 5/18. =
Answer: Er, luteal phase is 13 days, on 14 dpo I should start af. Sooooo.... yes, it is not lost time in a sense of learning more about my body and timing o, but then when I know that I am about to O, I just think.... "here goes an oportunity". I am going to be one of the worst obsessors when I actually do start trying.... on what I beleive to be O day this month dh and I bd and only (tmi) used a condom at the end... so for like a second here and there I think, well, people have gotten pregnant with pre-cum before, right? then I remind myself that I am foolish :) Well, it makes it better to be able to talk to others... And yes, this would be my first! AND I don't want to tell family (parents, etc) because parents want grandchildren soooo bad!!! I don't think I could handle any more pressure.... =
Answer: last spotting april 29 and 30 ..BD may 3 and spotting .....april 9...april 12....I have a 27 day cycle for the past 2 mths ...could I be? =
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Answer: AF is due either Friday or Saturday... I think I will probably wait to test on Sunday or Monday is AF hasnt shown by then. :) Good Luck to you as well andesue. =
Answer: i am technically waiting until august bc then I won't be due until after i graduate from Grad school next may, but we also aren't stopping anything from happening. It is so hard. I have been wanting a baby for about 6 months now...like really wanting one so bad sometimes it hurts that we can't try. I completely understand the trouble waiting. It is hard...but only a few more months, not too long we can do it!! =
Answer: momtostetson- We are preventing pregnancy right now... I'm about ready to just say.... no more condoms!!! if we get pregnant early then we get pregnant early! But, I don't think dh would be down for that.... :) He wants kids as much as I do, but he is just programed differently as far as getting used to the idea.... I can't help but worry that it is going to take us a long time to get pregnant... no reason... we don't have any health issues or anything but there are a lot of women out there trying who have no idea why it won't happen. I have a friend who it took 5 YEARS to get pregnant the first time and doctors had NO idea why.... Any idea if mothers' ease or difficulty getting pregnant translates? =
Answer: I dont understand what you are asking...
Hopefully we can keep each other busy and talk this summer so we don't get to anxious for the whole process. I am already charting everything so when August comes I will have a good idea of everything =
Answer: Andesue....I'm also a teacher and can relate - however, I got pregnant in Sept 06 and m/c in Nov 06.....got pregnant in Jan 07 and m/c in Feb 07. I used to be so picky about when I wanted to conceive and have the baby but after my losses and trying for 2 years.....I have realized it isn't necessarily up to me. Afterall, getting pregnant isn't like placing an order at McDonalds...LOL....someone once told me that and it has stuck...makes since though. When it happens you'll learn to be ready - especially for DH - men are definitely programmed differently but once he sees the heartbeat and feels the kicks he'll be asking "why didnt' we do this sooner" I wish you all the best!!!! Keep us informed. =
Answer: Sorry, my last post was unclear... I was just wondering if anyone knew if how easy or difficult it was for your mother to get pregnant would translate at all to how easy or difficult it will be for you to get pregnant.... My guess is "no" but some things suggest that herredity plays a role.... just a curious question :) =
Answer: momtostetson- I hope we can keep each other busy too! It is nice to know that someone else is waiting to start ttc.... it seems like most people decide its time and start then... I wish that was me too!
The mcdonald's thing makes total sense.... and I agree that it is not up to me, but at the same time, with it being hopefully (fingers crossed) my first year teaching... it just makes me feel better right now to know that I wouldn't have to take time off. I'm sure if it takes us a long time to conceive I will be kicking myself! =
Answer: i have asked my doctor about the whole mother/daughter thing. he said it really shouldnt have anything to do w/ it,possible but not likely. my mom had 5 m/c and 1 stillborn before having my sister and i. apparently she had no problem getting pregnant but just keeping the pregnancy going. i am doing clomid and iui this month for the first time and we will see how it goes. i m/c april 07. =
Answer: hope- sorry about your m/c. I can't immagine...
I figured it was inconclusive as for the mother/daughter thing... I was just hoping I guess. My mom had no troubles getting pregnant. of my brother, sister, and myself, my sister was the only one planned... brother was the first time ever having sex.... it only takes one for some people. :) Another friend of mine has to babies... first try for both.... I guess we'll see how many tries I need starting in August.... Good luck, hope:) =
Answer: Whether your mothers was able to get pregnant easily and/or carry a baby or babies to term has no correlation to how you will. You're body make-up is different, your uterus environment and possibly even shape is different, your vagina is different and could be more hospitable to sperm or more hostile to sperm than your mother's. Your cycles undoubtably are different than your mothers, your egg quality can vary in extremes from your mother's, your personal health, hygiene, body weight, hormone fluctuations etc differ from your mother's...and the list goes on and on. My mom got pregnant with me on birth control at 15 when she had sex for the first time with my dad. My mom got pregnant with my sister on birth control when my step father had a .001% live sperm count, and I got pregnant only after trying for 11 months. I lost that baby and got pregnant again the next month. It really just depends on YOU. As for waiting, I agree with the other girls. The odds are stacked against you that you would fall IMMEDIATELY pregnant on the first try. But it would give a good practice run. :) On the other hand if you were to fall pg first try, you would be relieved that you didn't have to obsess and schools of all places understand the necessity of maternity leave and the necessities of pregnancy etc. GL to you! =
Answer: Krissy, just to be clear, I wasn't in any way suggesting that it would be that easy (first try) for myself, but you can't blame a girl for hoping, right? :) That is why it is sorta hard to wait but at the same time, I feel it is the right thing for us right now. and, I started af today so only this and next cycle! then ttc.... Thanks for your input, i think when I originally posted my question i mostly wanted to know if anyone else was also waiting to ttc and also just vent about frustrations. :) But, like I said, waiting is the best thing for my situation and my family. =
Answer: Well, thought I was starting af this morning, had a tiny bit of brown spotting so assumed af was here (some cramping too). Then, cramping stopped and so did the spotting... This has never happened before but I am sure it is just one of those lovely things mother nature does to us.... I have had no more spotting at all today.... and I did notice when trying on cloths that my nipples were sore and sensitive.... af, you "B" word! Just come already... :P =
Answer: false alarm... af full on now.... so as i said before, this cycle and next then ttc! Although, I think I might talk to dh and see what he thinks about doing the not trying/not trying to prevent thing. Just because then I don't have to feel like these next to months are wasted opportunities.... any opinions? =
Answer: Just don't subconciously try to get pregnant if you are doing that. i know a few times over the past year I have done it without thinking, and had to hold out hoping i wasn't ( or was for me lol) pregnant. Most people would say how can you subconciously do it...I don't always know when I ovulate because I am not trying, and dont' realize it until afterward when I am kinda figuring it out so i will know when af is coming. ANYWAYS...all that to say, Go for it, wouldn't hurt. If it is meant to be it will happen anyways.. =
Answer: Thanks, momtostetson. :) I hear ya about the subconcious thing.... I think that will be hard because I have been charting cm to figure when o is each cycle and want to continue doing that (it has only been two cycles so far) so that when we are actually trying I will have a good idea.... So, I will know when it is around o time and I'm sure will want to bd *lol* I haven't talked to dh yet so who knows.... he may be too freaked... :) =
Answer: maybe...well let us know what happens! I AM SO READY FOR AUGUST...hard to hold off. =
