am so glad have found this site! I had a scan last thursday at 10 weeks following some slight spotting to be told sadly that the baby had stopped developing at 6 weeks although my body had not recognised this. Obviously i am devastated by this news. I decided to have the D & C rather than wait for a natural miscarriage which i had on Friday just gone. I asked about conceiving again and was given conflicting advice: the nurse has told me to wait for one cycle as this helps with dating the next pregnancy and also emtional recovery yet the doctor at hospital told me the D & C went well and there is absolutely no reason why we cant TTC this month! i am keen to try again straight away. Any one else in this situation or conceived straight after D & C? Am just scared of miscarrying again but apparently there is no evidence to suggest that you will miscarry again just because you have had one before? x ↓
every doc gives different advice. some say sure right away is fine, others say up to 3 months. i think its more in how you feel. alot of people like to wait for 1 cycle so there is a "start" date. its easier to calculate due dates that way. plus they say something about the shedding of the lining after the first AF. its a personal thing. sorry for you and good luck. i tried 1st month and didnt work. i think because the bleeding aftger d&c was so weird that it took me 5 days before i really started bleeding heavy and then bled for 8 days. im pretty sure i O'd sometime during those 8 days so i missed it but we are trying it again now. ↑
Thanks so much for your input. Its good to hear what others have done in the same situation. I am sorry for your loss too. nature is so unfair sometimes. Half of me wants to wait one cycle to give myself the best chance possible and the other half thinks why wait, what will be will be and dont know if i can handle waiting another 6 or so weeks! i am going to see my GP tomorrow for a chat about it. i bled heavily straight after the D & C but it completely stopped the following day. I think we are going to see what happens and let nature take its course. I feel ready to start trying again. will keep everything crossed for me and you!! i am glad that i had the D & C now and did not wait for it to happen naturally as I feel i can now try and move on..
Hi Leasa- My Ob/Dr also gave me the go-ahead immediately after my D&C - assured me that there is no statistical link between conception immediately following D&C's and further m/c. He said that a woman's body is either ready or not - and that should you fall pregnant within the first cycle you are no more likely to m/c than had you not had an previous m/c. In other words, each pregnancy is a fresh opportunity. That is not to say that all women are ready to conceive again so quickly - some women may take longer physically and emotionally. From what I believe, some women are told to wait longer to ttc because 1) it is easier to date the foetus 2) the woman may require more time emotionally 3) the woman may have some health issues which need to be sorted out. I am a perpetual researcher (!) so after hearing my Obstetrician's advice I did a fair bit of research on the topic - and I couldn't find any info from a reliable source which states a link between d&c's, immediate conception and higher m/c rate. I also know of several women who conceived immediately after a m/c and/or d&c......and went on to have healthy bubs. Good luck in ttc! ↑
Its amazing how much time i have spent on the internet doing research too!! I
also just had a nice reassuring chat with my GP. She also confirmed what you both said; There is absolutely no medical evidence out there that suggests that you would be at risk of miscarrying again. She said you will only conceive if your body is ready so we are def going to TTC now and just see how it goes. My GP also said she does not know why so many medics still say wait 3 cycles and that is not necessary and its completely a personal choice! Good luck to everyone TTC. x ↑
Leasa, I know exactly how you feel and I agree with the other ladies who have posted. Also, if this helps...I conceived right after my d&c (I didn't even have a period before I found out I was pg. again). I am 12 weeks today, and everything is going well! Good luck ttc, it will happen again soon! I was very scared this second time, but once I heard the heartbeat at 7 weeks (I m/c at 5 1/2 before) I felt soooo much better. Do what's best for you - physically and emotionally. The rest will all take care of itself :-) ↑
aim, thank you so much. Thats so wonderful for you and gives me such hope. That made me smile and its valentine's today! Every day I am beginning to feel stronger emotionally and will let nature take its course. Do any of you ladies know how long it takes to ovulate following a miscarriage. I presume it can be anywhere between 2 - 4 weeks after bleeding stops? :-) ↑
LEESA - thats usually about right time wise but it depends on your body. everyone is different but there are a few that take up to 2 months. I'm glad you are feeling better about things. if you chart, start charting, if you don't as soon as the bleeding stops.. start bd'ing :-) baby dust. ↑
Hi leasa, I ovulated 21 days after my m/c, right on schedule. It's like your body just jumps right back in the game and knows what to do. It's amazing really. Good luck to you. ↑
Leasa- I think I ovulated around 27 days after my d&c - according to my bbt (spike and slightly raised temps). That was 17 days ago, and I haven't had a visit from AF yet so I will probably do a hpt on the weekend. I have been told that 18 days of raised temps after 'o' can mean pregnancy?? AIM - that's great news - just what we needed to hear! ↑
Thanks guys. I never charted before getting pregnant although now feel i want to. We were on a long holiday and we fell pregnant the first month of trying (first baby) but I know I normally ovulate on around the 14/15 day as i had a 28 day cycle and i know for sure i fell pregnant on the 15th day. Had some more blood this morning (sorry) and its beginning to annoy me now - I just want it to stop completely. Also I did a pregnancy test this morning just to see if I still had HCG in my body as I presume i wont go back to a normal cycle until this completely drops, and it was positive and I wanted it to be negative as then that would mean I am going back to a normal cycle? also can you ovulate when you are still bleeding?? Sorry so many questions. Baby dust to all xx ↑
LEESA - yes, you levels have to be back to normal before you O. I think you can if you have a long cycle of bleeding and your levels are normal. When I was younger I used to get AF for 10 days and then 2 weeks later I started her again so I O'd while I was bleeding but not sure it's am all too common thing. ↑
I'm so glad that I could help you feel better during this process. That was my intent when going back to the Pregnancy Loss forum - I wanted to help ladies who were going through what I just wen through. I was right where you are not very long ago at all. When I found out I was pg. again, I thought it was impossible, that it was just AF symptoms, but sure enough the test was +. Once you do have a + result, my advice would be not to read too much about the possibility of a m/c a 2nd time. I started to do that, and just freaked myself out - and the stress is not good for you. I forced myself to stop, and just let nature take control, keeping calm (as possilbe :-), and try to be healthy. Also, and I don't know if this is fact or not, but I've heard that you are most fertile for the 3 months following a d&c...I don't know the reason behind that, or if it is true. I guess it was for me, since I had been ttc for a year and 1/2 before all of this happened! OH, and I had my d&c on November 3rd, and conceived on December 4th. I think the amount of days may vary on what is your normal cycle though. I hope that coping with your loss gets easier with time. Best of luck to you leasa and the other ladies on this forum! ↑
Aim - i am so so pleased for you and lovely to hear that you are pregnant following your D & C and nice to know youre not the only one going through the same thing and its not easy. I think that is just so great that you are pregnant again so soon esp have TTC for that time. What keeps me going is that I conceived very quickly the first month and hoping for the same again in the next few weeks!! I would obviously be chuffed to be preggers again in a month but like you said, I would also be quite worried at the same time!! At the end of the day i remember the doctor in hospital saying to me that the one good thing to come of all of my hurt and loss was that everything is working and that we are both fertile which did give my hope that it will happen again. My best friend has also just suffered two miscarriages so we are leaning on each other and you guys have helped a lot and given me hope and strength! ↑
HI i have just went through the same thing as you. i went for my 1st u/s jan.15 and was told the baby was 6wks instead of 8weeks. so i was told 2 come back on feb.15so i did the baby had no heartbeat and the dr. said it probably stopped at 7wks.so yesterday i had ad&c. it was so bad i cried 4 2 days. but today my thoughts are on trying again.the dr said thereis no reason 2 think i will have another miscarriage.so i think for me to go on this is the thing to do. let me explain why 10 years ago we lost our 6month old daughter to heart disease it so very hard and stilli 2day but we tried again and in98 we had healthy wonderful son.this really helped me gon.also we have 13 year old who was born premature and has grown into a beatiful teenager.so you can go on. good luck and god b with you! i'll keep you posted on how things go with me ↑
iam 27 yrs old and the ultra sound results concluded that i had a missed abortion at 7 weeks . I had d & c yesterday. I feel that i would rather give my body another 3 months to recuperate than try again. I am a bit terrified at the idea of pregnancy. ↑
Hi Rosh- I just had a D and C on Friday. I know what you are going through. I was 14 1/2 weeks and was told on Thursday that the baby stopped growing at 12 weeks. It has been a very tramatic weekend for us. I agree that you should wait 3 months. It is good to let your body heal. I will try again in Jan. In 2002 I had an ectopic pregnancy at 8 weeks and was told to wait 3 months because I had to have a shot of methotexate. I did and got prenant right after 3 months, and then had a healthy baby girl. I also had a natural miscarriage at 6 weeks. I was told then that I only had to wait 1 month because I wasn't that far along and no medical intervention was needed. I did and then got pregnant after 1 month. I had another healthy baby girl. I think the farther along you are and whether or not the miscarriage can happen naturally or not depends on how long you wait. ↑
H leasa. I had my D and C last tues and the doctor told me to wait 3 months. I know lots of people that delivered healthy babies after conceiving right away. I will probably wait one month. ↑
Boy oh boy, I can do with a friend! I had a m/c and consequent d&c on 4 Aug. It has been a week and I honestly feel like I am not coping. It was my first pregnancy and we were very excited about having a baby as my husband and I have been trying for 18 months. The doc said that there was probably a genetic abnormality and that the alternative would have been to have an abnormal child. I feel like coping with the miscarriage is hard, but coping with my husband's reaction has been far worse. He stated that he wants to hold off trying for another baby for a couple of months, while I am obsessed with trying again right away. Although I know that I am relatively young (28) I am petrified that the long wait of 18 months will be repeated. Off course the stereotypical responses of well intentioned others are making matters worse, and I have detected a bitterness in myself towards others that seem to carry to full term effortlessly and without concern. During this trying time it also became apparent that not all friends are quite what they seemed to be and I have been left feeling very lonely and unable to speak to my husband about my feelings. He feels that the baby was only 5 weeks and that we had only known for a week that I was pregnant, but what he does not seem to understand about me was that finally realizing a dream held so much value that not being able to continue it has broken me to the ground. I wish so that things had turned out differently ↑
hi not to get your hope up ,but two of my friends had a d\c and the next month preg.one just had her baby about fourmonth old.and the second friend 25weeks. ↑
LEASA....I was told to wait 2 cycles. After you have a D/C, the lining of your uterus is thinned out significantly. Waiting for you af to return and be normal again is important to make sure the lining is back to normal and not still to thin to carry a pg. I waited, and am now 37 weeks along with a healthy baby. MUCH luck to you and I am sorry for your loss. ↑
PEANUT K: I feel for you, on Friday the 8th August my husband and I were so excited we were having our first scan at 12 weeks and my body was showing all pregnancy signs and symptoms only to find out at the scan that our baby had died at 7 weeks. We then went to hospital to find out what options we had only to have to wait 6 hours to see someone and organised a D&C for Monday 11th August, I am now at home from the D&C still an emotional wreck and also would like a friend :-) ↑
Hi wantabub - My heart goes out to you - the worst is coming home after a procedure like that and to be faced with the fact that life has done a complete 360. I spent the first week after my D&C in bed, partly because I was in quite a bit of pain as the doc did a lapscope at the same time to rule out an ectopic preg, but mostly because I just could not believe what had happened. My doc said to wait two months before we ttc again, but the nurse told me that we could try right away. My husband took the news very badly and he wants to play by the doc's rules, so we will prob ttc again in Oct. ↑
PEANUT K:My heart goes out to you as well -So true about coming home and your life has done a 360, our life did a 360 when we found out we were pregnant and now it feels like all the changes we made were for nothing. I so badly want to ttc again as soon as possible and have been told so many different things on how long to wait, this is what got me on this site as a nurse told me as I was leaving that it might be best to wait a year, but my husband and I do not want to wait that long and then we have been told to wait two cycles, I am really confused but I think we might just wait until after one cycle to ttc. ↑
From one that has been there, my advice to all of you is try again when you feel you are ready. My doctor said wait one cycle to fully heal, but I chose to wait 3 so I could make myself as healthy as possible, get plenty of prenatals and folic acid in my system, and generally make the canvas as ready as possible for the new addition. This worked for me, and I went on to have a healthy pregnancy which coincidentally was a due date exactly a year after my d and c. I think you need to do what you feel is right, and not just physically, but emotionally as well. A loss like this is very hard, and no one can tell you when to be ready to try again. I wish you all very good luck and look forward to seeing all of your future success stories, because it WILL happen :D ↑
Peanut K- I know exactly how you feel. Last year about this time my husband and I experienced a miscarriage. This was our first pregnancy and we were very delighted. At our first ultrasound we found out that we lost the baby at eight weeks. Doctors told us to wait three months. We did because we were devastated and not really ready to try again. My husband didn't really talk much about what had happened. I felt that my husband didn't share the same feelings of emptiness that I did about loosing the baby. Well it has been about a year since it happened and I realized that my husband was just as scared and saddened by the miscarriage as I was. Generally as women we are more open, men don't like to show emotions or they just show them differently. We waited a long time before we decided to try again, about a year. We became pregnant again in June and everything was great. However, I started spotting this past Sunday the 9th, and we found the next day that we miscarried again. I understand the feeling of resentment towards other women who don't have to endure the extreme sadness of loosing a child. But if my two experiences have taught me anything it's that we are not alone in our struggles. Talking to women who have experienced a similar situation has helped tremendously. You will get through this, I promise! We want to try again very soon because waiting the three months the first time really did not prevent anything. So I wish you luck in whatever you decide. And there are many of us with an open ear for when you feel empty or just need to vent! ↑
Hi wantabub and mccorm, thank you so much for the supportive replies. It really does make a huge difference if you can talk to someone who has had similar experiences. It is almost two weeks after my d&c and I am starting to come to terms with what has happened. It is a very lonely road to healing as other people carry on with life as normal, I also guess I hide a lot how I feel as to avoid burdening everyone with feelings that can only be healed by time. I have moved from obsessing about trying to fall pregnant right away to being fearful of going through the same experience again. Mccorm, how are you coping with going trough a m/c twice??? If you don't mind me asking, was it a random occurance or is there something specific causing it? I would like to minimize all possibilities of it happening again. So sorry for your loss. ↑
PeanutK- I am very happy to hear that you are beginning get better. That is exactly how it works, only with time does the pain dull. I also find myself trying to keep my feelings inside because I don't want others to feel bad for what I have been through. But that is why we are all here for each other! As far as this second time goes, it is very difficult as well. I am feeling the empty heart all over again. The only thing that makes it easier is that I already know how to deal with this, but it is still heartbreaking. I just had my second d & c this morning and they are running a bunch of tests on the baby and blood work for my husband and I. We will know more information within the next couple of weeks. I just hope that these two pregnancies were just nature's doing and not a problem with us. But I will let you know. The advice I can give you is to be determined with your doctors about monitoring your next pregnancy. If I had been maybe I would have found out about this a month ago. ↑
I had a d&c after a miscarriage at 10 wks, to r/o a partial molar preg...path revieved just a miscarriage, although had heavy bleeding for 2 wks, then had to have a 2nd d&c, b/c they think they did not get it all..after 2nd d&c only had 1 day of bleeding. Dr told me to wait a few months, if we were going to try. I had some bleeding the first 2 cycles after, although it was mostly clots...finally in my 3rd month, seemed to have a regular period. I have just begun to deal with the loss, so not sure when we will try. The exprience really scared my husband, for my health. It is nice to hear I'm not alone. Good luck to all those recovering from a loss. ↑
Hi girls, I have a question - it is now 4 weeks post D&C. I stopped bleeding after two weeks. We have been ttc since then. The last few days I have been spotting, dark brown in color and stringy., there has also been some bright red blood. What does that mean? How long did it take for your normal periods to reccur? Also, did you also feel so tired afterwards? I am literally sleeping on my feet. I thought it could be implantation bleeding but all home tests came back negative. Is this normal? ↑
I went for checkup 8 weeks and found out that the foetus stopped growing at 7 weeks. There was no heartbeat detected. I went for a surgery on 24 Jun 2008. The doctor told me after 4-6 weeks my menses will come. Till now my menses not come yet. I went for followup 1st checkup and the doctor told me that i have a 5cm cyst in my right uterus. One month later i go back check again, my doctor told me the cyst grow smaller but the lining of my uterus is very thick. He gave me 10 days supplies of hormone pills for my menses to come. I ate the pills for 10 days and it still haven't come. The last checkup was 27 oct 08. The doctor told me to go back in 3 months time. I am not sure when will i conceive again. Any advise on this? ↑
