my bf has turned into a different person,he is being so hor
Name: melc84 | Date: Mar 13th, 2008 4:04 PM
am 23 and 9 weeks pregnant when i found out my bf was really supportive said it was up to me,He is 11 years older than me.Then bout 2 weeks ago we had a massive argument and finished now i am booked in for a terminaton and dont think i am doing th right thing,But my bf is being relly horrible and saying he will have nothing to do with it.He has completley changed from a caring guy who used to take me away and treat me into a horrible self obsessed person its scarey,I want to keep this baby but just scared of being on my own i have my family,friends and my work have been the best but i feel i need the father there please help ↓
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Name: Cat24 | Date: Mar 14th, 2008 8:30 AM
melc84 i think the first thing you should do is unbook this termination. if you think it will solve a problem and mean he will get back with you, think again, he will only then see you as being so fickle enough to kill your unborn baby because you can't have him. what matters the most is the baby and its not the baby's fault that mum and dad have split up, in many cases it is for the best as obviously his true, nasty colours have come out. you need to build your strength up as an independant single minded woman. it just sounds like you are very needy for this guy and in years to come when you see how needy you were you will look back with regret if you take such drastic decisions in a hope you may win him back. just think of how many millions of single mums do it, they dont 'need' a dead beat father as an influence on their child. just remember you are not alone and that you and your baby deserve so much better than the way that nasty guy is treating you. good luck. ↑
Name: clindholm | Date: Mar 14th, 2008 2:54 PM
It is better you are done with him now-even if you got back together (if you terminated) you will always know what a self-centered person he is and that you can't count on him in a difficult situation. Go with your gut, you don't feel a termination is right. You are very lucky to have family and friends that are supportive. The baby does not need a father like that and you can do much better than that jerk! ↑
