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After Years Of Infertility We've Decided To Adopt
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My oldest son is adopted from Korea. He is almost 3. It took 16 months from start to finish. He came home at 4 months. Every country is different. To adopt from Korea you need to be married for at least 3 years and must be over 25. Total cost for us was around $23,000. He is such an amazing child and we are so blessed to be his parents. We did have a bio son and are now pregnant again with a bio son. Doctors told me that I would not conceive on my own but lo and behold I did. I am so grateful, though for going through my infertility struggles because I never would have realized what a gift adoption is. I wish you all the best in the world. BTW- I went through Holt international. |
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I meant to say 25 or older. :) |
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It's my understanding that you have to pay for everything prior to adopting. I'm not sure about payment plans. My husband and I decided to foster infants and toddlers as we couldn't afford adoption up front. We're in the process of adopting our foster child who we received when he was 8 months old. Funny thing is, we conceived after years of infertility and a m/c of twins the month that our little one came. Now we will have two blessings within a year's time. Good luck to you and dh. |
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How can adoption have a price I just dont understand. All the wonderful people out there UTC that could provide a loving home for an abandoned child... but because 'they' wanna make 1000s out of it many cant afford it. Sick. |
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My adoption agency is a non profit agency. Bottom line is I paid the $$$ because there is so much paperwork and legalities to the whole process. Everything in my adoption not only had to go through the US embassy but the Korean embassy too. The employees that work there need to be paid. The people at the adoption agency get paid. Not to mention, you have to pay to have your fingerprints taken for background checks, passport and visa payments, court fees, legal representation fees, etc. Adoption is costs money as does having a biological child. You pay to have the baby in a hospital, for the drugs you are administered, etc. |
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I just wanted to add that I think it is a good thing that adoption costs. JMO but if it didnt then anyone could just go get a kid like a puppy at the pound you know? Someone who wanted to use the child for something would have an esier time. I think it is a good thing but I do agree that the prices are outragous. Its almost like they are selling kiddos. So sad. |
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I too decided to foster after years of infertility. I gave birth to my son 3days before my 4 foster children were returned to their parents. God was lookng out for me. i have since adopted 5 children from the system. These children are not usually infants and may have some issues to deal with. But nothing that is extreme. My adoptions all were 100.00 in court costs and that was it. there are extended background checks and things like that. My children are 21, 19, 19, 16, 15, and 10. I love them all dearly. my 3 oldest have graduated from high school and 2 are in college. Adoption works. Good luck on yours. |
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every state in the USA , as well as countries are different - but in the USA you have to pass a "homestudy", as well... People will go through your home, inspect everything, you must have different tests done (medical, mental, etc) be finger printed, and nothing in your & your husbands criminal background. Income is a factor & so is owning a home. |
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in our state (michigan)income is not a factor or the did we have to own a home. i was working part time and so was my husband at the time. we also rented.As for all the background checks the is true. They are really care ful not to place children into situations where they will someday revisit the system. But it is all worth it. The total process took 6 months. After our first adoption the others were pretty simple. |
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