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3 posts on this thread and the last post was on November 17th, 2008 12:59 PM
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ArdentWanderer - August 4th, 2008 10:00 PM
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Hello ladies! I've read through the entire first page of this forum, and have seen endless posts from wonderful women wanting children, however, I noticed a lack of posts from amazing women making the choice to put their children up for adoption. I'm due March 27th, and am considering putting my little bundle up for adoption. Has anyone here actually put their child up or currently putting their child up for adoption? Can anyone give me some advice?

Also, I read a few things in some posts that were a bit offending, though I don't think they were intended to be so. One post referred to adopted children as "abandoned" and another as "unwanted". I realize that this is a generalization, however, it makes me feel ashamed for considering this option for my child. Just thought I would point that out. Apologies if this seems rude.

lunamoo - August 10th, 2008 2:11 PM

Hello there, this forum as you can see is so rarely visited....so do not fret if you do not get the answers you want. I would go directly to some adoption forums where you can talk to moms in your situation or who have already been there. Good luck with whatever you decide!!!

jilo77 - August 20th, 2008 6:28 AM

As an adoptive mother, I can tell you I am eternally grateful to my son's birthmother for the courageous choice she made to birth my son and make an adoption plan for him. I know that she only had his best interest at heart and it was done completely out of love. Alot of people are out of touch with correct adoption language. This is a shame because the children will think they were less loved which is quite the opposite. They were more loved. There is a wonderful website "bethanydotorg" that has a birthparents forum. I can't imagine how hard this decision must be for you but please know that there are plenty of us adoptive parents that really "get it". Best of luck to you.

rspears01 - November 17th, 2008 12:59 PM

It sounds like you've had a really rough time of things. Adoption is a really beautiful choice and you're a wonderful person for giving your child life. That alone is a great testament to the love you have for him/her.
I'm 30 and my husband is 28.
I think an open adoption is a really great option. My husband and I lost a daughter in our seventh month after many, many years of trying to years of conceive. We have also been told we can no longer have children so we're looking to adopt. We would actually prefer an open adoption because as the child gets older you can make sure they understand that their first mom loved them so much that she gave them a better life - that even though her heart ached for him/her she put her own interests aside and did what was best for him/her. I believe it's important that the child knows that.
It's also great if the first mom can be part of the family. If other siblings can be involved I think it's ideal as well...we hope to simply join with another family and have a large network of family for our child to grow up in...feeling loved by so many.
If you would like ot know more about us, please get in touch with us rspears01 at g mail dt com
Jill