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I think it's too young. Why don't you wait until after you've been married for a year. The first year of marriage is the hardest, even without a newborn in the picture!!! :-) Enjoy your time just the two of you for now. There's plenty of time for a baby in the future.

I had my first at 20, second at 23. It was very very hard ...more so at about age 5-6, I didnt have the maturity or life experience to deal with the kids the best way... I felt it ans saw it when I spoke to moms who started their family at 26+years old. I think I could have spared the kids some juvenille parenting mistakes had I waited. (I was told I couldnt conceive then got preggo in 3 wks time)

and I agree, the first yr of marriage is hard, maybe get a dog ?? have a couple years with each other and the dog, then have kids.

how weird! I was wondering the same thing! lol I turn 20 in December. I'm on Mirena but possibly might be pregnant. I'm trying to think positive, but it's hard to do that when I'm still in college and am in the middle of earning my degree....a dog sounds nice though...lol

I am almost 20. My husband and i are stable, we both have good jobs, we are both going to school to get a career and are doing the schooling on line. We have never been much into the party scene. I have been told i was very mature for my age. i have dealt with more things a 20 year old should in one life time. I think i am ready he is nervous as all first time parents are. I really want a child and i feel like crying every time i hear one of friend is pregnant and i'm not. any suggestions. I tried the dog thing i now have two sheep, two dogs, a kitten, and a horse.. that didn't help...

Hi Jaefrancine-

I think I can offer another perspective. Having your first baby will bring MASSIVE change regardless of if you are 20, 24, 32 or 40. I had my first under what could be considered rather inconvenient circumstances when I was a very tender 17. Today, I have a devilishly handsome, well adjusted, lovely son of 14 - and am living a rich, full, wonderful life.

So no matter if you have your baby now, or wait till later - just know that it's not going to be "hard". What it will be is "different" from what your life would be life if you choose to wait a few years...

Lala

I too am 19 and i have no doubt in my mind that having a baby as soon as i can is the right thing for me. I have spoken to alot of different people recently about the subject and i was pleasently suprised to discover that about 90% of these people consider 19 a very good age to have a baby. Although to be honest if 90% of these people had disagreed with it it wouldnt have changed my views. I know what i want and if you do too i say go for it! ..and keep me posted :)
Tally xx