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Hi Tish, I'm due in 4 days with my #2, so can't help too much yet! :) I breastfed ds until 7 months also but we were having supply issues and it wasn't a big deal to him to wean. Actually he totally dropped it cold turkey one day and that was that. He too has started within the past two months (he's 13 1/2 months) pulling up my shirt or trying to feel my breasts. The shirt thing is mostly because he sees dh rubbing and kissing my belly so he wants to copy it. I really don't know what the deal is with boobie touching other than maybe "what else other than Mommy's big belly is in there?" lol Honestly you may be shocked at how well your dd adjusts when your second little girl arrives. I've got a bit of a different situation with them being closer and I'm due with a little girl so that in itself will be "easier" on ds I'm thinking, but we'll see. He is VERY attached to Momma (I stay home with him) and I do worry some that he'll be jealous, but he tends to adjust well to change and I know our families will probably spoil him rotten in overcompensating for the attention sissy gets. Personally with the breastfeeding I'm just going to nurse with my "bebe" cover and teach him that the cover stays down. I don't foresee him wanting to try it at all, but I'll just stress that he's a big boy and spend time with him doing other things. I have heard some women say that offering the breast to them once may cure it and even strengthen the relationship between the siblings because your oldest dd would think "eww, poor sissy only gets milk!" when she gets lots of other things, you know? If you really want your dd to help with the feedings you can maybe let her rub sissy's back for burps when she's done eating or maybe bring you a burp cloth? I don't know. Hopefully not too much longer and I'll be putting my own ideas into practice, but I hope I gave you something to go from! Congrats by the way! Your poor dh...two little girls he's going to have to walk down the aisle someday. That was the very first thing my dh said when we found out it was a girl. "Babe, oh no. I'm going to have to give her away some day!!" :)

kiersten, thank you very much for your help, i hadnt thought about the cover, since i never had one with dd #1, but i may get one, with #1 i just openly fed her, since i too stay at home, it wasn't hard to just feed her, and well LOL DH sure didn't mind, i was thinking of doing the same with #2 but i dont feel its right to do that in front of her.... see #1 can't even stand for me to be out of her sight for even a minute before she comes after me, and she loves to be the center of my attention, lol she can't even stand for our cat to be in mommy or daddy's lap, just the other day she yelled at our cat because it was in her daddy's lap... so I am very nervous about how she will react, so we are trying to come up with several ways to lesson the issues we run into, like having her help mommy with the baby, and such.... LOL with the burping thing, just the other day we were working with her with a baby doll showing her how to fed it a bottle, and then burp it....the part she liked the MOST was burping the baby LOL (she likes to hit things like smack tables or toys and such not malicious or anything just for fun, she giggles and laughs), and i have begged our family to NOT be 100% focused on the new baby since that will make alexa resent her new sibling more..... so they have all agreed to spoil alexa with their attention, thank goodness...

As for her stopping BF, she stopped on her own, but she still needed milk so we switched to formula, i wanted to continue to BF, but I respected her choice, i just hope to go longer with the next... we shall see though huh? But once again thank you so much for your help!!! and let me know what works for you and how your son reacts, lil girls are fun!! (and the clothes are super cute!!) but yeah DH is worried about having two teenage girls under one roof chasing off boys and constantly worrying....but thats parenthood huh? And now you are expecting one :) but im sure its all worth it!! Congrats!

Tish, yes the nursing covers are awesome! The company is "Bebe Au Lait" and if you google nursing covers you'll see it. They're a bit expensive, but so worth it! Plus they come in a ton of different styles so you can still feel feminine and cute. I never used a cover with #1 either unless we were out, but even then I preferred to find a private spot and do it there. (Ds never latched and we used a nursing shield; not very discreet!) I hear you on the attention jealousy issue. Ds will walk over to dh and I if we're hugging or kissing and push him away so he can try to suck my face off with "kisses". He too is very possessive of my time, so I'm actually trying to work on that right now with him. He has times during the day where he still sees me moving around the house, but I don't play one on one with him. I make him play by himself so he can get used to not always thinking he needs mommy's attention 100% of the time. He actually does very well with it but would of course prefer it if I stayed within a foot of him all day. I wouldn't worry too much about your families paying too much attention to the baby. Even if you hadn't said anything to them I think they'd spoil her anyways! lol Our family thinks the sun rises and falls with ds, so I don't think it'll be an issue for us. If anything I'll have some work cut out for me to undo all the spoiling he'll get. I guess that's the benefit of being a grandparent though. Funny how they never acted so swoony and enamored over everything me or my siblings did, especially when we were being naughty! That's too cute about your dd and the baby doll. We don't have any girly toys yet, but we've had the baby equipment out for a few weeks so ds has had a chance to get used to seeing it and learning to stay off them. He doesn't understand, I'm sure, what's going on but he does know that for some reason it's nice to go up to mommy, rub/kiss her belly and say "aww". It's adorable now, but I'm afraid I won't enjoy it so much when he's still doing it months from now to a saggy, baby less belly! :) How far along are you? I'm due Sunday and am getting so antsy it's not funny. Dh picks on me that all her clothes and blankets will be thread bare before she even gets the chance to use them because I cycle through cleaning the house top to bottom, repacking our bags and washing her laundry while I wait for her to hurry up and get here. I can't wait to dress her in all those pink, frilly things!! Boys are fun to dress too, but there's just something about dolling up your little girl. :)

I am actually not due until July, but I am a "type a" person lol I have to have everything ready and undercontrol WELL in advance... we dont have the baby stuff out yet, since we have a ways to go, but I dont know that she will have too much interest once she realizes they aren't hers... she's still working with the babydoll but shes getting better, she got a babydoll for christmas, and seemed to like to chew on its hands LOL... but now that we have been showing her how to treat the baby, shes chewing less lol... and yeah she gets jealous over DH kissing me as well, she will give me kisses all the time (which is jsut opening her mouth and pushing it against mine) i have no idea why she thinks thats kissing but she does... she tries to help with the house work, with vacumming she helps hold the cord, or push it, (though when its off and she thinks its time to do it again she goes up to it and tries to immitate the noise it makes which is too cute) I heard the BEST way to keep the jealousy down is to have #1 help care for #2 as much as possible, so instead of saying no no not right now mommys feeding baby, you have them help by getting something or doing something, same with diaper changes and other times you would be caring for the baby, and i think hat is a brilliant idea and hope it works when we put it to the test... and our family also thinks the sun rises and sets with DD, even when she is being less then perfect lol...

I just hope she doesn't show high interest in feedings... because its a problem i dont want to run into... but i guess if i do I will just have to act on my feet per se...

Its so nice to talk to someone who has a little one so similar to mine, and in a situation so similar...and CONGRATS have you picked a name?? We have chosen Alivia Braylin, i know we are a ways off but like i said (type a) Well gotta run, soon lil miss will be waking up from her nap, hope your lil miss comes soon...

Sorry I'm new here and I wanted to know how to start a new thread?

MommytoAva, hi just click the "click here to ask your question" button. Welcome!

Tish, I love that name! We have our name picked too but haven't told any family or friends- making them wait! :) I'm pretty confident you won't squeal on me (lol) so we chose Hannah Grace. I was more a "type a" person when I was pregnant with ds, but haven't had as much time this time around. For some reason keeping up with a toddler is busy work. :) I think you'll have better luck with having your dd help out because she'll be that much older. I'm sure it'll be great! I'm really looking forward to the kids being close in age. They'll always have a playmate growing up! ....That's how ds kisses too. He tries to get my lips because that's how dh does it, but he gets the cheek. Open mouth and face plant!...I only had a minute to check in today and I'm never on on the weekend, but hopefully (*thinking wishfully*) I'll have some exciting news about my baby next week! I gave her the eviction notice, but I think not being able to read is making it less effective for her. lol Have a great weekend!

Thanks for the comment on the name, I like your choice as well its very pretty.... and I hope (if you are "done" and "over" being pregnant that your lil one makes an appearance this weekend...though they hardly ever do.... but for your sake I hope so. I am hoping she helps out a lot, shes doing really well with the baby doll though, each day we work with it and she gets better and better so my confidence is growing....lol only issue is when she is done playing with the doll she can put it down, but its not like the baby is gonna disappear just cause she doesn't want her around any more lol... so we shall see.... but like i said, i hope you have good news soon, and enjoy your new lil lady!!! i am actually so looking forward to BF again, i was talking to dh about it last night, the closeness and bonding is so wonderful that I can't wait to experience it with the next baby... :) Well gotta run, hope to talk to you soon!

Hi Tish! Sorry so absent. I'm never able to get on here now. I had my baby! February 5th I woke up and just felt different. When my hubby left for work I said "hey, I'm putting myself into labor today" (said that for 4 days) and he laughed and said "ok, be careful". I started having some contractions but went about my day as they weren't bad at all and I didn't want to get too excited and read into them. By 2:30 I thought "I wonder...". 4:15 I called my hubby and said "I think I'm either in labor or will be real soon" and he said "really?! I told you to be careful!" lol He asked if I wanted him to come straight home or if I still wanted him to stop and get our groceries. I said "Oh, I'm fine. I just wanted to check and see where you were and let you know what was up. Get the groceries." 5:30 my sister and brother came over to watch my son because it was getting to the point where he wasn't being a good distraction anymore and we were getting on each others nerves. 6:00 I called my midwife and she said to come to the hospital as soon as hubby got home. 6:18 I called him and said "WHERE are you?!" (poor guy; last call he'd got from me I was "no problem I'm fine" :) ) He got home about 6:35, we left as soon as he threw some clothes in a bag (ds stayed with my siblings and parents who were there by then). We got into our hospital room at 7:20 and my midwife checked me and said "well..." I shot her a look and said "don't even tell me I'm still 2 cm!" (was checked the day before) She looked at me and said "um Kiersten, you're almost 9 cm! You'll be having this baby soon!" Oh my goodness, I was shocked. Dh kept saying "almost 9 cm! I'm so proud of you! Oh man, what if you had her at home?!" Going between being proud and freaking out at the thought. :) Dh ran out to the car after they checked me and got our bags and the camera. He ran in, my midwife broke my waters and then it started getting interesting. DD decided to start doing rotations in my pelvis. She went form posterior to anterior 4 times before she settled into the correct position,. That hurt so bad!! They were all so surprised that she could still move around like that and said that was the first they'd seen it. First I'd felt it too and it wasn't pleasant! lol 20 minutes of pushing and my angel was born. She was 7.2, 19 1/2 inches and had a head of dark hair. She took right to the nursing and it's her favorite thing to do which considering all the trouble I had with ds makes me happy (but sore!). We're still working on getting her days and nights straightened out, but she's amazing. The whole labor and delivery was better than I could have imagined and I'm just in love with this little girl! Ds is doing great with her. The only issue we've had is he loves her so much he's always wanting to hold, hug and kiss her. It's precious but was tough when we first came home. Now that the "newness" has worn off things are pretty normal. Having two so close is a blast! I'm excited for you...not sure how often I'll be able to be on here. Today's the first I've been able to. My free time is sporadic at best. :) Have a great day!

Hey OMG congrats!!! I thought you had her, since it had been a while, and I was sure things were so hectic! The birth story is awesome, wow 9cm and had no idea you were that close! Sounds like your DH made it just in time. And taking right to feeding is wonderful, DD did that and it was such a dream to not have that to worry about...hopefully #2 does just as well! i think that it is wonderful that your DS is taking so well to her, I hope alexa does the same, she is taking more and more to her doll, and we are trying to tell her that the baby is in my tummy.... but so far she doesn't understand, lol.... it is so wonderful to hea from you with such great news hope to hear more soon!