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Hang in there!!! I promise, it will get better - VERY SOON, actually. The first 6-8 weeks are the toughest. There is a product that is a nursing shawl, that is similar to the thing they put around you at a hair dresser's, perhaps that would make you feel more comfortable nursing in public? And, are you trying to nurse in regular clothing, or in nursing tops? I never did like nursing tops - the closest I ever got was a nursing tank under an oversized t-shirt - so I would lift the t-shirt, unhook the tank, and still be completely covered. Now, I just don't bother half the time - my daughter likes to sit up and look around while nursing, and will kick a blanket off, so it's actually more discrete for me not to cover than it is for me to cover. Also, I would recommend that you talk to your family about why you should have to segregate yourself to feed your baby...they wouldn't hide you in a bedroom if you were bottle feeding. If it's your own discomfort, look into a nursing shawl, as I mentioned previously - but if it's theirs, I would suggest that they get over it. HTH!

My son is four months old, & he STILL nurses every hour or two. But he nurses for fewer minutes now. Whereas he used to nurse for ten to twenty minutes, now he nurses for maybe five. So yes, it does get better.

well its your decision.
Have you tried letting someone else give him a bottle. He will expect breast from you... but maybe let Dad give him a bottle.

I understand, I am not comfortable nursing around other people...
I don't like it. I want my privacy.

It is unfortunate that society's views on nursing force us to feel uncomfortable with it. Before I feed my baby, I always ask the people around me - do you mind if I feed my baby? They'd feel like total jerks if they said yes! So of course they say no, go ahead, and if they're uncomfortable they leave the room. I've learned to feed her very discretely. LLL says try feeding in front of a mirror to see how much really shows. You'll be surprised that no one can really see anything. Practice in front of your spouse, then your friends, and try a LLL meeting. Once you get the hang of it it'll be so much easier. It's so important to bf your lo that it just isn't right to quit because of the constraints (IMO). Your lo isn't embarrased, why should you be (yah, easier said than done). I know it's hard, but that's why God gave you your big beautiful breasts anyway! Ok, before I get preachy, I'll shut up... :)

My baby is 8 months old and still nurses 7-8 times a day, two of those are during the night. It does get better after the first month, but you still won't be able to be out for a long time without worrying about nursing, unless you pump and give a bottle. My baby doesn't demand it like she did when she was smaller, but I still have to nurse her every 2-3 hours. I felt the same way you feel now, because it is a shock to just stop the life you were living before and start living your baby's schedule, in my opinion it's better to just let it go and get used to the new life you have now, than to mourn over what used to be - it's a lot easier on you that way. I had decided that I will give my baby a gift of nursing for the first year that she needs it the most , and not worry about what I'm missing out on, since she is a baby only once, but I will have a lifetime of being able to go places.

I know where your coming from! My son is 4 weeks old and eats every hour or 2. But every hour the past week. He wont take a bottle, I tried that a few times and it was a disaster. He wont take a pacifier either. Yesterday when I was leaving the pediatricians office we were there longer than I expected. I fed him moments before we left but he was ready to eat before I had scheduled his next appointment. He screamed at the top of his lungs...and he's got a set of lungs !!!! The receptionist was on the phone so for about 5 minutes there was nothing I could do but let him scream. I felt awful ! I was upset I couldn't just take off my boob and hand it to him and that all the girls had to listen to him scream !!! I also time my errands around his feeding schedule !! We'll all get thru it though !!

Sashasmama, you said "My baby is 8 months old and still nurses 7-8 times a day" Is that really so? By the time mine was 8 months old, she was only bf-ing 3 times a day! How many times do you give solids? Just wondering.... :)

Thanks for your suggestions! I breastfed him today in the breakroom of my mom's office and it went pretty well. Only women work there so I was not that uncomfortable. I think getting on the baby's schedule is the only answer!

Babies are supposed to receive the majority of their nutrition via breastmilk until they're at least 1. Nursing 7-8 times per day at 8 months is normal, and solids should not be considered a replacement for nursing until at LEAST 10 months, and really not until a year.

I understand how you feel and I think all of us have felt that way at one time or another, my life saver was a breast feeding shal that covers me so well noone can even tell I am breastfeeding, I bought it at target and it is made by safety first, http://www.babysupermall.com/main
/products/tfy/tfy01065.html
this
website sells them, good luck!

Have you tried putting a bottle under your arm & placing him in nursing position lol sometimes the craziest things wk. W/ DS my mom walked up to his head(I was holding him in cradle position & she placed a bottle in his mouth it worked, but the underarm thing might wk also Good Luck DS ate every 2 hrs but eventually he ate less & less. Once you get the bottle thing down it's alittle easier then you could pump (I know it still takes up time but it's sooo much faster than if your babe wants to hang on all the time like mine did. I'm pg w/#2 so I'll have all this to learn again lol