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Sometimes I regret my c-section, although my situation was different. I was scheduled to have a c-section on August 13 of last year because my daughter was breech. Two days before my scheduled delivery she died in my womb. My doc was out of town when this happened, so the doc standing in for him offered to induce me or do the c-section. Because I was scared to go through labor for an outcome I didn't want, I chose to do the c-section. Sometimes I regret it, but I'm also glad I did it because we were able to know why my baby died. The cord was around her neck 3 times and once around her entire body, something that I don't think we would have known had I tried to deliver vaginally. Still though, in addition to being treated high risk because of my stillbirth, I want to attempt a VBAC and it's kind of scary because you can't be induced or anything like that with a VBAC. Some days I wish I didn't do it simply because I think of my uterus being scarred, but most days I am ok with it.

Please accept my sympathies on your devastating loss. I cannot imagine what that must have been like for you. Though I did have 3 m/c's before my dd, I never went full term. -----------When you say you want to attempt VBAC, are you currently pregnant?

I'm not currently pregnant, but hoping to TTC withint the next few months. My hubby and I moved to a different state in October and my hubby's job situation didn't work out like it was expected to. Since that didn't happen, we don't have any health insurance and knowing that I will be a high risk pregnancy, we've decided to wait until his job w/insurance works out. We're hoping that will be in the next month or so. One of the things that I mourned over (in addition to the obvious) was that I missed out on the opportunity of birthing my children because I was told that I would have to have c-sections for all my deliveries. I did find a doc here though who will do VBACs, so as soon as we get insurance, I am going to go visit her. It will be scary territory for me, especially because of what happened to Brooke, but I also know that we want 3 or 4 living children and most docs tell you no more than 3 c-sections because of increased surgical risks. So much to think about...any way it ends, I just want to bring my next baby home.

I am so sorry about your regrets....I also wanted a vaginal delivery....try to focus on the now, your baby, your health and your life. Talk to someone and get a different DR!

I wish you lots of luck Katie. Love your name by the way. My mom was called that as a child. Tummytamer, you are right. It's just when it comes to me every now and then, I get obsessed with it and I keep running the labor scenario in my head. I need to put it in perspective and be grateful for my dd. Thanks.

I dunno where to post this. Yes I had a csection...no regrets. Don't particularly like the persistent numbness at the incision site. CodyKatie I remember your story sooooo well. It broke my fucking heart and scared the hell out of me. I have read all or most all your posts since then. Your courage and bravery are....an inspiration to many. I cannot even fathom the heartbreak and sheer DESPAIR that must have enveloped you at the time of Brooke's death. I am sooooooo sorry, Oh crap I'm cryin. God I hope you..... of all the people on this site.....have another chance. I had it out with some freako pro-lifer who basically wished my son to die in a cord accident. It was horrible because NO ONE can prepare for something like that. I just hoped and hoped mhy boy would be okay despite such horrible wishes. He was....but still...your story haunts me. ALL of your posts have been uplifting...positive....when you...by all rights should tell everyone to take a hike, God....good luck to you and I HOPE sooooooooo much you have the chance once again to become a mom. Please accept my sincerest kind regards. Pamela