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wow...that is a tough place to be in especially being 34 wks pregnant with hormones at their tops anyways. I hate to say it but I would be so so so pissed if my husband would have had something like that happen!! We got married about a week or 3 before I found out I was preg. and if I found that out now (38wks) I would go NUTS now if I found out not preg. I would still be aweful mad but not so emotional as now. I guess their is really nothing you can do about it now it has happened and you are married so you will pretty much have to kinda cope with it and use it for debating points only...wish I could have gave better advice.

Thanks for responding. Yeah, there really isn't much to do, but to release the emotions. We've talked about a lot since I posted this, and it's clear that he never meant to hurt me. It was something he had to get out of his system, if that makes sense. It's going to be hard to let this go what with my crazy hormones and all, but I will do my best...

Dont stress about it your baby is at risk, but after the baby is born get all up in his ass. You heard of post partum depression, he would get post partum ass whoopin.

LOL Thanks for cheering me up :-)

no prob, bob

I was in a similar situation to this a couple of weeks ago with my boyfriend. He was talking to some girl on the internet, telling her how beautiful she was and he wanted to do "stuff" with her, and how they were going to meet up. This girl even lives in the same state as us. They talked about how they wanted to be with eachother, and he even went to the point of making up lies about me to her saying he's only known me for a week and JUST found out I was pregnant. Stupid a-hole has known since day 1, and we've been together for almost 4 years. I FREAKED OUT, I mean I really really really freaked out LOL. I told him I found all those e-mails from his dogface princess (that's what I call her, she looks just like a basset hound), and that I hope one day they have their own litter of bassets and live happily ever after. I wrote that and much more in a letter and left it on his bed. I broke up with him, and he literally was begging me to take him back and tried his best to make me feel better and whatever. Lol, I love him and I understand we were at a rough time in our relationship where we didn't know if we were still going to be together. But still, that was complete BS and I still think about it....but I know he had to choose between me and her, he would definately choose me. Besides, I've got enough of raging hormones right now if I let those all go on him I'd probably end up in jail for murder. Lmao j/k. Anyways, I hope this helped and I hope things work out for the best =]

I'm really sorry to hear that. I guess, in my opinion, it depends how he is treating the situation. If you think he is truly sorry, then, well he is human, even the best human beings make mistakes. But he better realize that he did make a mistake. Make sure he doesn't start rattling off excuses. A good and meaningful apology will involved admittance that he let something bad happen, and that he is sorry he hurt you and that it will never happen again. Goodluck!

Are you kidding me? That would be my worst nightmare come true! Honestly i dont know what to do...i'd definately need space from him for a while and with my hormone where they are at right now i'd propalbly come at him Lorena Bobbit Style...Be able to trust my hisband is SOOOO important to me... And i've been cheated on so many times.....It would completely RUIN the relationship...you cant have a relationship without trust...it would just be over and it would be all his fault...makes me soooo mad even just thinking about it! Good luck to you in whatever happen! Most important try not to stress too much put the baby first deal with him later!

Leave him. Dont matter how long youve been with him, how much you love him, or what u you guys have been through. The pain, is NOT worth it. Ive made the mistake of dealing with a 'dog' as a pathetic boyfriend just because i was pregnant n didnt wanna face it alone n all that shyt. Its NOT worth it. He knew what he was doing. People have a conscience. He knew what was gonna happen or MIGHT happen if he continued whatever he was doing, or let the girl continue to do what she was doin before she began to jack him off. Him beggin for forgiveness n all that, listen, yes it is true people make mistakes, especially 'men', But c'mon now?.. If you were at a strip club, ur engaged, ready to get married, all happy, enjoyin ur night, n yeah, u get turned on by one guy, but would u seriously let it get to the point where, ur lettin that attractive man feel on u? Yeah things may get out hand when your drunk, or on something else, but even dogs, pathetic losers who cheat for a living, think in the back of their head of their girl NO MATTER WHAT. My opinion, leave him. That thought of her doin that to him, ur fiance, ur soon to b husband, IS GONNA HAUNT U FOR THE REST OF UR LIFE.

Don't hesitate to get some counseling from a professional on this one. It would be better to deal with it now rather than letting it fester or blow up into something horrible.

I'd have kicked his ass right out the door for even getting it out of his pants!! There's no excuse for it, how would he have felt if it had been you in the same situatiion!! My dh would be back living with his mother now, preg or not!!

I read this and wanted to cry for you, I've been cheated on in the past and it's very difficult to deal with, especially when it is someone you love. It is SO hard to just leave or walk away, and it's terrible because you know that you deserve better and should not tolerate being treated that way. What he did was a really horrible thing though, and you should definitely try to go to counseling or something. In my opinion, if he doesn't want to go to counseling, then truthfully, he doesn't see what he did as wrong and is not sorry for it. There is no such thing as getting "carried away." You may get caught up in the moment of something, but that is why we have a little thing called self control. Good luck. =)

Hey everyone, thanks for all the responses! I feel like I should give an update: we talked extensively about why he did what he did, and he is very sorry. I healed from it and saw that it wasn't something he did *to* me, it's something he did to himself. I realize that it was disrespectful, but we all make mistakes. I trust my husband deeply even after this because I know that it's not a character trait of his...it was simply something he needed to do. So, there's no need for anyone else to respond to this and give their advice.

yea right i'm sure that you are totally ok with your DH getting a handjob from some nasty stripper at his bachelor party. you trust him deeply are you stupid? it was simply something he needed to do? if i were you i'd tell him i *need* to punch him in the face in order to feel better about being married to a cheating skumbag like him. you are a doormat and i feel sorry for you.

Hipmama you are blindmama or even stupid mama my sister was with ther guy for 7 years and he kept cheating on her. yes the first time he was so sorry and it would never happen again, while there married now and have a daughter and we found herpie medicine at her house and believe she got it from him. It starts of small and if you let a man get away with it than he will cheat and walk all over you and than thats YOUR FAULT!!! I would walk away now before he sleeps with a women and gets an STI and brings it home to you, do not let him get away with this and you should feel deeply hurt because he definatly did it knowing it would hurt you!! Also he says a hanjob how do you know if thats true for all you know he had sex with her but felt bad and admitted to only a hand job. Shame on you for being so blind he knew it would hurt you and he did it anyway and now because you let it slide you opened up cheating forever in your marriage. remember now any hurt is all your fault!

God, ppl are so harsh on this site at times..Hip mama..if you think you can deal with it, then it's your choice.I understand ppl make mystakes.It's all a matter of what you can and will tolerate..everyone is different.I think as long as you can surpass this..then more power to you.Best of luck to you both and ur baby on the way:)