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3 posts on this thread and the last post was on August 7th, 2007 9:29 AM

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mama keya - August 6th, 2007 5:23 PM

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Okay here's my story.
I am 29yrs old and so is my DH, when we met I had a DD now 9 and he had a DD now 11. Then we had a DS 3 yrs later now 6. We got married in 2002 and are going on our 5yrs anniversary. 2 yrs later we had a DD who will be 3 in Oct. After my last child was born we found out that his DD wasn't his DD (the one he had coming into this relationship). Well his mother blamed that on me she said I wanted the little girl out of his life anyway and I forced him to have her tested (DNA). She stop talking to him me and our kids for almost 2 year. Well in 2006 she got really sick and end up having a blood transfusion, she decided to mend her relationship with her son (my DH) and the kids, so this summer we let the kids go visit them in D.C and while the kids were gone I was blessed with this pregnancy (we had been trying for a yr.) So when we went to pick the kids up this past Sat. She told me that since we will have 4 kids they can't come next yr. unless we stay with them. Then she made a statemant that we going have 13 kids cause that's what people in the south do. (we live in T.N) I wanted four kids and with this one I'm done. Then to top the cake I told her my EDD was April 7th and her Birthday is April 4th she told me I better not have that baby on her birthday. Oh yeah I think she tried to insinuate that my baby may not be my husbands. Let me explain she made a comment that we were bored while the kids where gone and that my husband worked everyday, then she followed that up with don't yall sleep in separate rooms. I told her no we sleep together and have been sleeping together for a long time now (he had cheated on me 4 yrs ago and we slept in diffrent rooms then). I don't know I think she is trying to keep a wedge between us. What do you think

kazforrest - August 7th, 2007 7:10 AM

There is definately something not right. Has she been like that towards his other relationships. She seems to be jealous of you in some way, like the birthday thing seems keen not to share her limelight. She wants things not to be right . Has she be more depended on in the past and lost some of that and may prefer things to be wrong so she can carryout the perception of her Matriarch role. You have also stood up to her so that may not be inkeeping to what she is used to... some thoughts from my basic Psychology studies.

Astra - August 7th, 2007 8:58 AM

It sounds so hurtful to have her question your relationship and not be happy for you in your new pregnancy. I hope there are more positive people around you with love and support for you.

mama keya - August 7th, 2007 9:29 AM

Thank you kazforrest and Astra for ur responses. I have a few people that really support me. She has been like this for a while she told my DH before we got married and before we found out his DD wasn't his that if he married me he would only see his DD on pictures and she didn't show up no one in his family showed up. Sometimes I feel like I should just tell her off and then I don't because then I would just give her another reason to hate me. But she always make comments like these and smile as if she dosen't mean anything by it.

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