Pregnancy Info HOME

It's touching that you want a shared child to cement this relationship. I'm sure you have the near term economics figured out. How does he feel about having a child in college when he is past 70? How do you feel about chancing your risk of birth defects? The logical thing is to say "six is enough". The heart may dictate otherwise. Good luck!

Momof6 - I wish you the best of luck. Krissy68

I would say that if you want more children then I would go for it. Are you both in 100% health? If not would you chance having your child not have both of his/her parents? Having a child at an older age cements the fact that the child will not have both parents living for a good portion of their life. Even if your husband lived to 90 your child would still lose his father early in life. I know people who have had babys in their 40s and love it but there's a lot to think about. Will your retirement hold when you have to pay for $40k in college debt? Not to mention if something was wrong with the baby will you be ok with taking care of the child well into your elder years? It's up to you but I would give it a good hard though which I'm sure you have. Best of luck.

You know who are we to tell you what to do or not do, but in your situation, I have to say I probably wouldn't do it. The fact is you have your hands full already with 6 kids. Reversal sometimes don't work so theres that chance he will have the surgery and it won't work anyway. Your age makes for a high risk pregnancy.(not saying 40 is too old, lots of women have babies at 40 now, but the risk are there)Not to mention the older you are the harder pregnancy is on our body, are you ready for that? I have 3 kids and I am only 31, but I can't imagine raising my 3, and then at 40 wanting another one, starting all over again...ugh! But, if it is what you really want and have thought it through then go for it!

momof6- This is a tough decision that ultimately only you and your husband can make. I am the youngest of 6 kids. My mom had 4 from her first marriage and then got remarried and had my brother at age 42 and me at age 43. My dad was 46 when I was born. I am now 39 (turning 40 in Ocotber. My mom is 83 and has been around for all of the major milestones in my life. My dad passed at 78 after being struck by car while out on a walk. He was in good health and probably would still be here if not for the accident. The point is no one can predict the future. Think it through and then follow your instincts. Best wishes. You will make the right decision for you.

I just wanted to thank everyone for your input. I was feeling like having another baby was a selfish thing for ME to do..at my age. I called my GYN..and asked her if she would advise it. Her answer was NO...she didn't recommend anyone over 40 get preg, especially with BP issues. It really was good to hear it..that way..it's behind me. My Husband and I did decide (it was one of the possibilities all along) that we would become licensed Foster Parents :) I'm excited..and I know that I can help a child/children who need a temp. loving home. So..thanks to you all..and good luck!