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Hi, i met a girl in Feb this year, and we used condoms until March when she said she didnt like them, and said she will take the pill. I thought it a bit odd but truster and she reassured me. Then late April she tells me she's pregnant, i said i wanted abortion (i know that wont go down well on this type of site) she agreed and we went the hospital, they arranged for us to go back the following week for her to take a pill for the abortion process. But days before she told me she had changed her mind and was keeping the baby. To be honest i felt trapped and wondered if she always wanted the baby from day 1. From then on our relationship has been bad, i would say mostly from her, she tells me she dont want me and i have on several occasions convinced her to make a go of things, she can be abusive and has drank wine right the way through the pregnancy. But recently she said she wanted me out, didnt fancy me, and there was no chance of us working. So reluctantly i have gave up trying. But i feel resentment towards her for putting me in this position, and then denying me the right to be a proper father. I feel i want us to work as a family or not at all. Then a voice in my head says 'well its not the babys fault !'' But i have told her to never contact me ever again as she really is a mind player and vindictive but i thought we would settle given time, especially after the baby. But now i dont know what to do, i cant force myself on her and keep begging. i feel sucked in, chewed, and spat out. But i know my head is going to be wrecked around Christmas time (30th Dec) officially - wondering what if, is it today and not seeing my first child be born. She already has a 9 year old boy to another father and a house. She seems only interested in those things and the soon to be baby, but what about me. One minute i feel like fighting her for rights, the other says give up, it we long horrible battle and she will make things hard. I want to forget i ever met her, and would have walked away before if she wasnt pregnant. But shes made it clear she dont want me.