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I'm in the same boat. I'm about 4.5 weeks and I'm going to tell my family at Christmas. But that is because I don't want to tell by phone and this may be the last time I see them all together before the baby is born. (we live in different states) I also think it will be helpful to have my family's support if I have any complications because my husband is deployed military and I am unable to call him whenever I need support. It's also going to be the first grandchild. And first greatr grandchild. This is why I'm telling my family so early. Other people tell later in pregnancy incase they miscarry so they don't have to deal with everyone's sympathy or questions. Congratulations on the pregnancy.

Most people wait until 3 months. That is the recomended "safe point" ....not that miscarriages can't happen later, but it's less likely beyond 3 months.

Hi Katie, I was just wondering if any else felt the same way I do. I am so anxious to tell the family but was not sure when I should. I don't want to wait and I will tell them on Christmas Day! My husband's parents will be so thrilled as will the rest of my family. I am 38, will be 39 when I give birth in August. My due date (according to the due date calendar, haven't seen my dr. yet) is August 24th. My in-laws live in FL. and are heading back on Jan. 4th. I also would rather tell them in person. When are you due and how are you feeling?

I told everyone at 10 weeks... just before my first ultrasound. Mostly just family. My friends and co-workers I told after the u/s, cuz then I knew that everything was ok :) Five weeks is early, but thats when I found out so I told my dh of course, but I would wait at least till 2 or 3 months before you tell the world... I would hate for you to go tell everyone then have to go back and tell everyone sad news if in fact something tragic happened, god forbid... but whatever you decide is ultimately your decision... :)

Well, I think that everything will be ok. But then again, god only knows. I just have to tell and tell soon b/c I feel if I don't they will find out on their own. They know we are trying and I haven't said anything yet! I also smoke and I recently quit. I know if they ask I will have a hard time lying. Oh well, hope all goes well.

Michele, to answer your question, I'm due about the same time as you. I used the due date calculator at about.com and got Aug. 24. I'm having some cramping in my stomach and I'm tired more but that's about it.

As to you quitting smoking... thats kind of a give away... my parents knew when I refused to drink on Thanksgiving because I was "driving". They said that I would have at least had one glass of wine... which is true... but they kept it from me until I came out and told them 3 weeks later! (canadian thanksgiving in Oct. btw)

I am having a bit of a problem and I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice. I am 23 years old and 10 weeks pregnant. My fiancee and I are getting married in March of this year. I will be 20 weeks by then. My problem is that my family does not know!! Only my fiancee and his mom know now. I know I am going to have to tell then but I am scared to tell my side of the family because they strongly believe in no sex before marriage. I am scared of how they will react. Another problem is that I am 5"4' and currently weigh 125 lb's. I am scared of showing majorly bad at my wedding! Anybody have any advice for me?

Ashleyv482, I really don't think you have much of a choice. Your family will find out eventually, either before the wedding or after. I think you should be honest with them and tell them as soon as possible and whatever happens, happens. At least you will feel better knowing that you did the right thing. I know, easier said then done.

We just found out a couple of days ago that I am pregnant. According to the due date calculator I am due Aug 28. We are in a similar situation, all our friends and family know are trying and if I don't have a mimiosa Christmas morning (we always do!) they will be suspicious and I don't think I can lie, I am too excited. I am very nervous about telling everyone so soon, I mean 4 weeks is early, but sharing the news on Christmas is so tempting!
Katie, I am happy to hear you are telling your family, maybe it will give me the courage to do it!!

Michele,
Thank you for the advice and Congratulations on your preganancy! I know that I am going to have to tell them and I am, it's just that this is the hardest and scariest thing that I have ever had to do. I know I will feel better once it comes out and I know that my parents will be excited about a new grandbaby. I just hope that the fact that I am getting married in less than 3 months (I meant to say March of next year,2006 in my question) will make them less upset, you know? The one thing I think that is bothering me the most now is showing alot at my wedding. Does anyone know how much you show with your first child by 4 1/2-5 months?

Ashley, my sister became pregnant in July, 2005 and was a bridesmaid in my wedding in September (2 months prg.) and she barely showed. I think it was around her 3-4 month that you could start to see a bump in the belly area (she is also very tiny, about 120lbs. and tall 5'6 or so). But it is different with everyone. Hope this helps and good luck to you, I hope all goes well when you tell the parents.

I am 26weeks now and at 5 months you couldnt tell I was pregnant, Im just starting to look like Ive gained weight, but eveyone is so different! Your Dress is going to be the hardest to decide since you can change week to week. but they have some very nice pregnancy gowns out now! Good Luck!

I also just found out I'm pg (4 weeks, just found out on Monday, DH's b'day!) and am waiting til the 12-week mark to share the news. We underwent fertility treatment and I am over-educated on the things that could go wrong. I agree that it's so hard to keep it inside! But on the otherhand, it's kind of nice and intimate to keep the exciting news just between you and your spouse.

Before I was pg I weighed 118lbs and I'm 5'7". I was still wearing all my clothes at 5.5 months. However, shortly after that, I popped and nothing fit. We also got pg before we were married. I was nervous about telling my family, but they we very supportive. We were already engaged when I became pg (barely), how about you? Your family may surprise you! Anyway, you are 3 months away from one of the most important days of your life and a few more months away again from an important day in your life, what an exciting 2006! You need to worry about you and your baby. Tell you family, get it over with. You will feel a lot better. As for your wedding dress, just get an empire waist. They are gorgeous and you probably won't be able to tell you are pg. Also, you might have some really nice cleavage by then! Good luck with everything and congratulations!