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Advice Needed On My Situation

3 posts on this thread and the last post was on August 18th, 2005 9:32 PM
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jess - August 18th, 2005 2:49 PM
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Hi I am a little over 8 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend and I have been going through a rough time together ever since we found out I was pregnant. I was hormonal (mean in a sense) for a little while but didnt mean anything I said. He constantly tells me he needs me to talk which is fine but I dont know specifically what he wants to talk about. He tells me I need to Man UP which I also dont understand. We have been fighting excessivly and finally broke up a couple days ago. He broke up with me because he says he is miserable. I personally would like to work it out for my childs sake but am having second thoughts.. Today we talked on the phone and he is so insensitive. He told me that I drove him away. He says hurtful things and all I do is cry. he doesnt want to understand anything about my pregnancy. Especially about the raging hormones and just what I am going through. I wish he would read a pregnancy book to understand but when I mentioned that he said "No man would ever read one of those" I dsagreed and told him that my father had and also offered to go to Lamaz class with me if my boyfriend wouldnt, Boy did that piss him off for some reason. He asked me what would make me happy and I told him I would be happy when I found a real Man to have in my life, to stand by me and comfort me and vise a versa. I am just so incredibly hurt and upset over this situation. Why would any girl want to be with someone like this? I dont knwo what to do anymore. I am staying with my parents who think he is a jerk. He told me on the phone that the sad part was he was going to have to pay me child suppport for the next 18 years, but this is what I mean. he is only thingking about himself always yet tells me to figure this shit out and wants me to make him just so comfortable. Sorry this is so long but I just need some helpful advice. Thanks


To Jess - August 18th, 2005 3:24 PM

Try posting in General pregnancy Questions to get an answer. Sorry I can't help Lisa*9


Jess - August 18th, 2005 4:11 PM

Thanks Lisa I did but kind wanted a mans input.


R - August 18th, 2005 9:32 PM

Jess, I'm sorry to say this, but your boyfriend is a POS. I'm sitting here in the exact opposite position, trying to be a part of a pregnancy that my ex-girlfriend wants me to have nothing to do with. I've been totally supportive, even though she cheated on me, and I would give my life just to make sure that this child was born safe and I can be a part of this, but I've been cast out. Your boyfriend also has no idea what he's talking about because I've been reading books and articles for the past 72 hours STRAIGHT. I've been waiting for this day for 24 years, and I'm being shut out. He has no idea what he's missing, and how lucky he is. It actually makes me a bit mad that he's doing that, because at least one guy here in Virginia would give anything to be in his position. Don't give up on him if he comes around, and whatever you do, keep him in your life. Try not to fight, and believe me, I know that's very difficult with your hormonal changes right now, it's a roller coaster, I know it. Just try and stay calm and realize that you can only control what you can control, and worry about your baby first, him second. Besides, all the stress isn't good for your baby. It'll be alright.