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hes a wanker. leave him

You can always get a new bf, but you'll never get your baby back if you have an abortion. I say, dump the creep.

He is a damn punk...excuse me for being rude! But if he is telling you to chose between him and his own child then is a damn fool! He's a grown ass man, and if you guys talked about this before you got prego then obviously you guys had a feeling this would happen because you guys were doing something to ger you prego. Well if your mind had changed then you stick with it. Yea it's tough because his ass is making hard for you by making you chose. Man this really makes me mad. He is 26... oh my goodness tell him to grow up and face the facts.

Imagen, He should be supporting you. He should want what is in your best interest. Essentially, he is threatening to abandon you in your time of need and is trying to intimidate you so that you'll do what he wants. I guess you just really need to do some thinking. I mean is it worth sacrificing your moral integrity for him? At the end of this, your the one who will have to live with your decision, baby or no baby, boyfriend or no boyfriend. You need to make a decision that you know you'll be able to live with, know what I mean? I know its so much to think about, I wish you all the luck in the world

tell him you can stay with him forever but he had to get rid of his pepe.

What a jerk. If he's that immature I say lose him fast. You should never have to make that kind of choice!

oh you can remind him that he can leave you and the baby but as far as having nothing to do with you well he will be paying for that baby I say dump him and start the paper work for the child support he will be paying for the next 18yrs!!

wtf. leave him. unless you want the abortion yourself. obviously if he is trying to make you chose between staying with him and keeping a baby that he had a part in creating (willingly or not).. he won't be a good father anyway. your baby deserves better than that.

I think the only thing a man can say when you tell him you're pregnant is it is your body and your choice. Do some soul searching before you do something you may regret for the rest of your life.

That said he is probably not an evil person. He may be scared, obviously he is upset and maybe you should try to talk to him about what's happening, or encourage him to talk to someone else about it. It's a big change, and if you do have the baby, he will be the father, and you don't need a new baby and a crazy ex. :(

This is most definitely YOUR decision. He is being a selfish and irresponsible ****head. If you want that baby (and it certainly sounds that way to me) then make that your top priority, NOT HIM. You have a much larger responsibility now. You're going to be a mom!! You know how huge and important that is?? You should be enjoying your pregnancy and looking forward to meeting your little one, not worrying about this **** with ears!!! :) If you can't afford to get away from him, do some research and find out what kind of help is out there. There are crisis pregnancy centers in nearly every county and churches that would do anything to help a woman choose life. Even if you're not the religious type, this is a child and it's not worth killing over a man who may or may not stick around either way. Tell him to shove it and move on. You and your baby don't need him.

You know the problem with young women these days is that they tend to put men before anything else in their life...I've been there done that...I said you and him did the crime (having sex) so it's time to do the time (take care of the baby and anything else that may come your way). All I'm saying baby is put you and your unborn child first and let his ass go. Pray about it and let God deal with him.

your baby will always be there so there should be no confusion have your baby and get child suppot from him

You need to make the choice that you will be able to live with for the rest of your life. GL

If he can't support you about your decision and love you for it, then he isn't worth being with.If you ask me he has not matured enough to be a daddy especially if he is trying to make you decide between him and the baby. If he wants to run, while hes running hit him in the back with child support, simple

Your baby, imo, is more important. My husband and I have gone as far as discussing that if i had a pregnancy that may kill me and I had to choose me or the unborn baby, what would I do. I don't think I could do it. He asked me to choose myself, not for him but for our kids that are already here. I am sorry your bf is behaving that way and I agree with the women who say kep the baby and get child support. You are not alone out there and there are many places you can turn to for help. You both knew that pregnancy is possible even when you have "protected" sex and while you are willing to face the consequences, he is not and may never be. Your baby, should you decide to keep it and I hope you do/did, doesn't need to know that his/her daddy didn't want him/her. They are the best gift you can ever receive and while it isn't easy, they are more than worth it. He can choose not to be part of the baby's and your life, but he WILL be financially responsible. He helped make the little one and he can at least pay to take care of it. If not then he can sit his a** in jail and think about it. Well at lest here if you don't pay then they arrest you. I hope everything works out and you deide to keep it, but ultimately, the choice is yours and yours only. GL

There should be no question about whether or not you will stay with a man that will not have you and your (joint) child. Reason # 1, he is a selfish man and thus will make a very bad husband and father. #2, he is irresponsible because he won't marry you and do the right thing and would rather have you kill the baby --also bad father and husband material #3 he is despicable and not a man--a man stands next to his girlfriend or wife and does all he can to protect her and his born or unborn children. The question as to whether or not you should keep the baby is your decision but for GOD's sake don't have him in your life and your child's. And think of all my points in deciding whether you would want THIS man to be the father of your child. Don't you want the absolute best for your child? Can you imagine this child's life with this man??! And also, can't you be a little more selective when deciding who to have as the father of your child--didn't you see his selfish side earlier. Or minimally make SURE you don't get pregnant next time. My heart goes out to you. Mistakes happen but don't make it worse!