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Hubby Thinks I Don't Find Him Physically Attractive

2 posts on this thread and the last post was on April 18th, 2005 3:37 AM
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:( - April 14th, 2005 7:42 AM
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I'm nearly 6 months pregnant with our first child; during the first month after we found out, I had zero interest in sex - and that's how many times we had sex. For a few months after that, I had an insatiable sex drive. Now, my sex drive is normal, but sex itself is very uncomfortable, even painful. I think he hits my cervix; if that doesn't happen, the baby invariably starts to kick while we're in the act, which is a total mood killer for me. I am still very much in love with my husband, and think he's one of the sexiest men alive - I just have a hard time staying interested in sex at this point. How can I convince him that I am still attracted to him, and my lack of interest in sex does NOT mean I'm not interested in him?

Ian - April 14th, 2005 1:28 PM

Have you tried "telling" him?

I hate to sound mean, but your reason is so painfully obvious, that anyone with half a brain should understand.

How hard is it to explain that sex is uncomfortable for you and risky at this stage?

Is he 3 years old? will he throw a tantrum.

Unless he suffers from severe immaturity, selfishness, or insecurity - i'm pretty sure he will understand.

:( - April 18th, 2005 3:37 AM

I have told him - but he does kind've have reason to be a bit insecure; we had separated for a few months last year; we reconciled shortly before we found out I was pregnant. I think he's partially afraid that this is not his child (it is), and is more afraid that I reconciled with him only because I was pregnant. (He knew well before I did - I refused to believe it.)