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Husban Won't Help With The Kids!

3 posts on this thread and the last post was on January 22nd, 2006 8:12 PM
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Ashamed - January 22nd, 2006 12:07 AM
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I got 2 kids, both by my husband, yet he won't help me take care of em. He won't keep em for me if I gotta go somewhere, he don't wanna change their diapers, he never wants to play with em, he dont help give em baths, or feed em, or get up w/ em at night. I doing everything and he does almost nothin for em. I feelin like a single mom here but im married. I don wanna leave him but i would like some tips on how to make him get off his ass and help me more. I swear, the kids are gonna think he don love em or something and that makes me real sad. They are 2 and 10 months jus so ya know.

Jbear - January 22nd, 2006 1:56 AM

Just curious, do you both work, or is your husband the only one working? If you're a full-time mom it may be that your husband figures that he does enough at work, and that taking care of the kids is your "job". My husband is that way, sometimes it is frustrating because he doesn't realize that the kids are a 24-hour a day job. I've been sick a couple of times and he doesn't think of taking care of the kids while he's home so that I can rest, not even when I had a migraine and couldn't stand to be in a room with a light brighter than a candle. I don't know how to get your husband to help more, just wanted you to know you're not the only one in that situation.


ashamed - January 22nd, 2006 7:36 PM

My hubby works but his job he has seniority so if there are enough ppl to get the job done he can sigh a list and come home. He don't make much money but is enouf for us to get by on so thats what we do. It makes me so mad that he dont do nothing for em or me yet i gotta do everything for him.


mom2 - January 22nd, 2006 8:12 PM

hey hun.... if he hasent done it from the beginning it will be hard to get him to do it now but it will cause more and more stress and lead to resentment, maybe talk to him and explain that you dont mind doing the grunt work but would like him to show a intrest in his kids. Not only for theyr sake but for yours. Just curious but does he spend time with you the way you want him to spend with the kids? Sounds like he just needs the concept of family spelled out for him! Good luck with him and it may seem annoying and hurtfull to you now but keep in mind it will just hurt when the kids are old enough to realize dads distance so take care of it now. let us know how its going. my thoughts and prayers are with you.