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I think I was about 4 or 5 months when my hubby told me that he wanted a divorce. He said he did not think he could handle it anymore!! We did split up for a couple of months, but we got back together. He said he just got so scared, but then he could not imagine his life without us. I say give him so time to think, and reevaulate his situation. I would also just pray that God will provide the answer for him. Good Luck!! my email address is tracya@ventlab.com if you want to email me directly.

he just may need some space, the 2nd pregnancy mit be too much for him to handly, may be you and your son should go away from ur husband for a week or 2 just too give you and him some space from each other.
i hope it's all o.k in the end :)

my boyfriend freaked out for a while too. he said he wanted me to have an abortion because it would save us both. (we are young) i am very against abortions and he knows that too. he told me he had even thought about killing himself. he said that when i told my mom, he was going to leave for about three months and then come back when he knew he would be ok. he kept calling the baby "that thing inside you" and saying it was tearing us apart. i gave him some time to himself for a while, and he came around. he apologized for being so mean, and even started rubbing my belly. he still isn't completely comfortable with it, but he has done a complete 180. we now playfully argue over whether it will be a boy or a girl, and i always tease him by saying he will be outnumbered forever. i wish you the best of luck and i hope your situation turns out like mine and the other womens' did.

I do not have first hand experience with this, but I think that these other gals are right, he will come around. Especially if your relationship was good before this pregnancy. Having a baby changes everyone's life so much and he is probably scared of the changes, but will likely be ok in the end. He might be ignoring his phone because he is doing some thinking, or just trying to take some time for himself which is ok. I agree that giving him some space might be a good idea. It may be hard for you and your son at first but I can almost guarantee that your husband will sit there by himself thinking about you guys and weather you are ok or not. You will probably end up getting a call from him within a few days if you decide to do this. Sometimes I think that men get sympathy hormones! Perhaps it's all they can do to deal with our crazy pregnancy hormones, I'm sure they feel helpless about it which is probably really frustrating. Good luck to the four of you!

Also, maybe he is worried about finances. Is his job going alright? Just a thought. I think allot of men stress about money before they have a new baby to provide for. Even if you plan to go back to work in order to help support the family, he might feel guilty that you have to work at all, especially if you would prefer to be a full time mom. again, hope all goes well!