Pregnancy Info HOME

sorry its so long , but wanted to get all infomation on here

Well it seems your gf/fiance might have some hormonal issues going on. Im hoping you get things straightened out.. You just need to tell her exactly what is going on in your head.. try not to sugar coat anything. You need to say everything face to face.. tell her how much she means to you.. with all your heart and soul. Hopefully shell see what youre saying. Good luck with what youve got ahead of you!

well here's a update , she didnt call but answered my call and i explained everything jthat i was feeling and she told me why she was so pissed at me , because my mother telling me about the child not being mine , she told me she wanted to take everything slow and i asked if anything if she does not want to talk to me or see me , will she send me a text message every couple of days just to let me know how everything is going and she said she would , ooo i almost forgot she told me she loved me 1st without me saying it 1st , this hasnt happened all week , well i think im making a little progress communication has opened up a little , i will keep yall posted on whats going on , thanks for being here i would not have a clue what was going on without yall

Well im glad that she gave you the "i love you" first. However her saying that she wants to take it slow?? im pretty sure you and her have skipped the slow part.. youre having a baby together you have an apartment or house together. You seem like a very calm and understanding guy.. I know if it were me in that situation there would be no way i would be happy with a text message every once in a while. Its not your fault MULTIPLE people came to your mom and told her that the baby wasnt yours, I believe you have a right to question her on it.. no accusations.. just a question. In fact its a question that was a NECESSITY to ask of. She shouldnt be pissed she should have just answered the question, and got over it.. perhaps thats easier said then done when youre a hormonal pregnant girl. Im hoping everything turns out well with you two. Keep your chin up and be honest with yourself and her... dont hide how you really feel about the situation. I mean if she could read this posting that youve written.. she might get the drift of how you feel. Ill be awaiting more updates!

Yep, we skipped the slow part, and we are living 1 hour and 30 minutes apart now.The last time i talked to her dad last thursday he told me hormones will cause a pregnant woman to go crazy now i believe him , god i'm am so sorry all dad's to be and pregnant mommies , i honestly cant imagine what yall are going thru , cause right now being without my soulmate is killing me. what ever happens i will be there for my child. cause i want to be a part of whole process and she is not leting me right now , and that brothers me more than not being with her thanks for being here this forum is the only thing keeping me sane right now lol

Yeah... i know all about the baby hormones.. with this pregnancy my dh says that he doesnt see a change at all, but with my first pregnancy i cried and cried and cried. When my sister was pregnant she was crazy.. she was angry out of her mind one minute, and the next minute she was your best friend. It was weird, her husband vowed never ever to have any more babies with her again because of this reason, and they didnt. Have you heard from her yet today? Im hoping the next time that you speak with her..its her that calls you and she realizes what she wants. Shell come back to you.. hopefully its sooner then later. If you ask me, you didnt make any mistakes, its not like you beat her.. or verbally abused her.. or was nasty and mean.. you asked a valid question. Remember that! Dont beat yourself up over this.. add it all up to hormones! Hopefully you arent one of those dads that has to be a part of your babies life from the outside, but instead get to be on the inside doing everything right along with your "soulmate".

nah, she hasnt called today i'm almost to the point of giving up and writing it off as a lose and move on and we the baby is born , do my duty as a father , i'm so hurt right now i just cant explain it, i'm to the point of being numb no emotions at all thanks for all the positive feedback but i'm lost without her

I swear to you what you did wasnt HORRENDOUS.. and it wasnt even a BAD thing you did.. Dont give up that easily.. if its killing u to be without her.. CALL HER.. just to hear her voice. and tell her thats why youre calling her. I dont think youre being fair to yourself by trying to hold back when you sooo obviously want to be with her. Good luck.. hopefully she called or text messaged u today!

she didnt call or text me, so of course i was upset. I decided i was going to go down there and see her. But called first told her i just wanted to hear her voice and i wanted to see her cause i missed her a little. She called back a few minutes later and was real calm and told me she couldnt today because her nephew was sick and she was watching him. So go figure, i will keep you updated on status thanks briannasmummy for being here.

Bri, I think i have found the problem after many hours of research this morning. From what I read she is suffering from severe depression. Ok I got that figured out now I think. How do i explain it to her thats what i think the problem is and it could cause problems with the baby. If she would let me go to the doctor with her i could talk to doctor about it.

Ummm hoemer.. i know that you might think she is clearly depressed.. but coming right out and telling this to a severly hormonal pregnant woman might be like shooting yourself in the foot. She might go a little off the wall. I really doubt that she is depressed.. (i dont have all the facts though).. pregnancy makes your mind do very very funny things.. and just that in itself makes her irritable im sure. You need to ask her what she wants from you.. and what she wants for you to do.. tell her its not fair to keep you on the side waiting.. its not fair.. thats not the way relationships work.. its called give and take. I know she might not give the answers you want.. but you deserve to know.. so you can be honest with yourself. Let me know whats goin on! ~Kristin~

hahah.... severe depression.... the first three months of pregnancy can be hormone hell (for the woman and her partner). The moodswings/ hormonal stuff tends to calm down a bit after 12 weeks in a lot of cases, but reality is that when a woman is pregnant it is like she disappears at times and the evil twin is there instead. Take it easy, i am sure the hormonal stuff is natures way of keeping other men away from your woman. A pregnant woman may say 'thanks for being considerate' when you open the car door or the next time "do you think i'm a helpless invalid you stupid idiot!". If she is still wearing the engagement ring it is a BIG thing, the first thing that goes is the ring when a young woman is unhappy with you. Try and be patient and make the most of having a little space between you during this difficult time.

ps... you dont have to do ANYTHING to upset a hormonally affected pregnant woman.... just breathing can do it ...... i asked my partner what he felt about pregnancy now mine is almost over and he said "a time for men to suffer".... fortunately i dont have long to go and am even have a sense of humor now!

holy shit............ i think if i was you.. for now i would write her a long letter explaining all you've said here, how you feel about her, what you want etc, post it, then just leave her to think about it and get in contact with you. Give her some space, right now she knows you there at her beck and call.

I really hate to say this but it sounds like she is playing with your head. You need to tell her to make up her mine and I really really hate to say this but maybe she isnt sure if the baby is your and thats why she is withdrawing her self from you. IM sorry this really sucks. IT could just be the hormons but It sounds like she isnt sure if she wants this relationship :(

Ok, heres my take on the situation. I dont think that the baby is yours, and she isnt sure who the baby belongs to, so right now she is just not trying to get u attached and is really confused right now. My suggestion is to wait until the baby is born and get a DNA done, because u shouldnt be going through this.