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Although you and him wasn't together at the time....HE shouldn't of lied about anything..I believe that if someone want to be with you and if they are truly the one for you they wouldn't lie...That's just me.. I'm not saying that you and him shouldn't work things out but make sure this is what YOU really want to do...FOR YOU...Not for the baby...He can still be a great father even if you aren't together....sounds like you have alot to think about...Wish you the best

instead of being upset that he messed around with someone else while you two were not together you should be upset that he had unprotected sex with someone else cause now you are at risk along with your unborn baby, you need to make sure he did not bring back some nasty vd to you.....that should be your main concern not working things out with this guy who lies to you and sleeps around unprotected!!

not wanting to start a gender war here, but many men do not see sex the same way that women do - it's not loaded the same way. the average young guy (i take it your man is young) is very easily tempted and addicted to sex once intitiated. it sounds like he is immature anyway, so you can't expect honesty from someone who is still growing up. i know it's very disappointing for you. I once gave advice to a young woman - if you can't handle being disappointed in life, stay away from relationships until you can. i don't know why we get pregnant when we're not in a stable situation - perhaps it's sexual selection running the show. my guess is this will trigger further upsets and issues of trust for many years. i've been there, married the guy, had the kid, hoped he'd change - he didn't, we got divorced. i finally ended up with someone 15 yrs my senior - a much more stable match of libido! good wishes to you - make good choices.

renee although you should be mad at him for lieing to you and for sleepong with somone else while you were still talikng and hope was still there i am a very firm believer in second chances. This may or may not be how you see things but if you love him and can see yourself rebuilding your realationship then you should as long as you make it known you will not tolerate him sleeping around or lies and nor do you deserve it. but i do not think you should get back with him for the babies sake it will be easier on the baby if you stay apaprt if your realationship ends up not working out

Hi Snow Angel,
Bottom line, if he loved you the way you deserved to be loved, he would not have slept with another woman and definately would not have had unprotected sex. A man who cheats once, is going to cheat again. He does not respect you or himself or the woman he slept with. If he was coming to speak wth you during this short period of time (9 days?) then he knew the potential was there for you to work it out. You cannot trust a preson with no values. You can try to have him be a father, but I wouldn't count on him to be a boyfriend or a husband. There are studies that have been done that show children who are in unhapy households have more developmental issues than children of divorce. don't bad mouth him to you child, allow him to be dad, but don't expect to be able to depend on him. If you would like info on the book i am referencing let me know and i an send you the title and page numbers.

I agree with the last post. I don't think that women making excuses and allowances for shitty men (i.e. "you can't expect honesty from someone who is still growing up" and "i am a very firm believer in second chances") is a great way to respect yourself nor is it a good way to show men how to treat you. He's crap. PERIOD. Take it from someone who's been there, done that, bought the t shirt and finally sees things how they are. The only person you are responsible for on this planet is YOU and from now on, your little one. If the so-called man in your life can't even be counted on to avoid passing along possibly deadly diseases to you due to his libido and dishonesty, that should tell you something about his character and reliability.

I will give you that he should have told you and when confronted he should have came clean. If you truly want it to work out your going to have to sit down and talk about it like adults(parents) after all there is a new life on the way that you are both responsible for