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My Pregnant Girlfriend Broke Up With Me.

17 posts on this thread and the last post was on August 7th, 2009 1:40 PM
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Texan_1386 - August 7th, 2009 1:17 PM

OK so I haven't been on here in a while. This is what happened. My son was born on August 7th, 2008. Yup one year ago today. Things started to get better before the birth. She broke up with her boyfriend, and her and I started talking again. We were talking about the normal stuff, names, circumcision , etc. I talked to her on the 6th of august 2008 and she said she would call me tomorrow after her doctor's appointment.
Next day i heard nothing, so I called and she didn't answer. Still nothing the next day. So I called her a few more times. Nothing. on the 9th I called and called. She finally picked up very groggy around 9pm that night. She said that I was now an official father. I heard my son cry for the first time. He was 8lbs 15 ounces. His name was Patrick Oscar. Now for the messed up part, He was born on the 7th. I was not told by anyone that she was there. She claimed it was because she was rushed through the appointment into forced labor. Yet she had time to call her best friend and get her to the hospital. I found out he was born 2 days later. Then she put on the birth certificate UNKNOWN for the father like I was just some guy who she had a one night stand with or like I raped her or something. I would call her once a day to make she was OK and that my son was OK. She didn't let me see him for 2 weeks.(She said something about his immune system was week so he couldn't be around "new" people. I finally got to see him and hold him. and I knew with out a shadow of a doubt I was his father. I got to see him off an on over the next few weeks. On September 7th his one month mark, we met and talked and everything was fine. Her parents where going back to Germany the next day and I wished them farewell. She said she would call me in a few days so we could meet up again. About 10am the next morning, I got a phone call from someone who worked with her. She said "You need to know that Vroni(my-Ex) just boarded a plane to Germany with your son." I was speechless, I ran and drove to the airport to find her car there. I could not find her anywhere. I tried calling her and Nobody answered. When I finally got someone to pick up, it was a guy saying that she had given him her phone to have and use has his. They only way I knew to try and contact her was via her Myspace. SO I emailed it a lot. I got a response from her on the 12th, 4 days later that said and I quote.
"Hey,

I am sorry but i had to make that descition so quick, we are very good, better then in niceville. Please dont worry, I will contact you."

She never has contacted me. I sent her a few emails trying to coax her into telling me where she was and why she did this. But she never answers back. I get random emails from people who update me a little, Like "they are fine if you don't hear from them they are fine. Stop worrying."

I was on yahoo IM one night and she popped on. I tried to talk with her and all she said was "I'm Sorry." and then she signed off. I still don't understand why she said this. I got an email about 5 months ago saying the he is crawling and has 2 small teeth. and stop worrying they are fine the usual. But like I told they emailer I will NEVER stop worrying because they are family. He's my son, and No matter how mean and bitchy she is to me I still worry about her she is my Son's mother after all.
I send a couple of emails on special occasions like Christmas Mother's day her birthday things like that. But I have not been sending crazy emails. I am living in Dallas now and not in Florida where this happened. I have my own house and am doing well. But I still I wish I had my son. If you have any more questions please ask. and I will happily update you as much as I can. Thank you all for your support.


mrfaosfx - August 7th, 2009 1:40 PM

Well, it sounds like she definitely moved on with her life. The toughest part is she does all these crazy things and she put UNKNOWN? Could you have atleast asked for a DNA test to claim the baby was yours? And I don't know why she is doing this, maybe she is being overly protective of her new son but its your son too, its down right horrible when the mother decides to distant herself so much that its hard to get to see your son.

My instincts tell me she moved far away from you to probably start a new life, with "someone" else. Who knows.

We all know that hormones play a big factor in the way a woman feels during pregnancy and now that she is not pregnant, the hormone levels are dropping and everything is changing again, so this is just another stage she is going through. The hardest of them all is just beginning, she has post-partum depression to deal with now and you being the father, not being there to help her, its going to be even tougher for her.

Oh yeah, when they put UNKNOWN on the birth certificate, that means you weren't at the hospital when the baby was born. BUT BE VERY CAREFUL with this, as she can file for child support and request a DNA test from you and you'll have the bad end of the stick, judging from her recent actions, I wouldn't be surprised if she has an evil master plan moving about as we speak.

You need to start talking to her, face to face...not to say hi or see the baby but how you are going to go about your lives with this child because, shes doing a lot of questionable things.