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first of all, you have recognized that this is a problem and that is good. worrying that my family thought i was a bad girlfriend would be the very last thing on my mind if my boyfriend treated me like that. you are pregnant, meaning you are going to have a baby that will be subjected to this abuse when he/she is born. it's not fair that your child would have to be raised in an environment like that. it sure sounds like he has no respect for you, so why would you want to be with somone that doesn't respect you? don't think you don't deserve respect and better treatment because you do. you really do need to leave him if there is no possibility that he is going to straighten out. and in this case, it doesn't look like he will. bottom line, rumors go away. so no matter what he can say about you...it's not near as bad as the psychological damage he can do to you. and even worse, what about the kind of abuse would the baby have to take? he is the worthless piece of shit...and you deserve better. for you and your baby. good luck, and keep us posted.

If I were in your situation, I would never stay with somebody who calls you those kind of names. It is so disrespectful, you can find somebody better and you deserve somebody better. Right now you should focus on giving your baby the best of you, and dont worry about him. Who cares what he tells your parents, they should believe you more than him.

he is young, immature and not ready to grow up apparently. doesnt seem like hes going to take responsibility for his child either. ive seen this once or twice. so my suggestion is dumb that piece of shit. there is help out there for you. do you have a friend or family member you can stay with maybe? i certainly wouldnt stay with him. you need to think about your innocent baby. he/she doesnt need to hear that stuff. its sad and really affects kids growing up. i know from experience. hopefully you can find someone to stay with and help you out. and im sure after you have the baby, the loser with be crawling back. hope everything works out for you. show him your not going to take his shit, you are better than that!

i meant 'dump that piece of shit' lol

Well I just thought I would update you a little bit.. well things are pretty much still the same... and he started saying that the baby isnt even his if we fight.. then when we make up, he says i know it is hunnie im just trying to make you feel bad! yeah so were still going through the same stuff... sadly =(

Ok listen to me right now. GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP. He will apologize everytime but then in the future it will become physical. YOU CANNOT CHANGE HIM. He will stay this way. Why? Because he knows you will forgive him and come back. Prove him wrong go to your parents. Get their help. Just trust us all on this one it will get worse.

AS LITTLE_SNOWBALL SAID, I AM GLAD YOU RECOGNIZE THIS AS A PROBLEM AND A NEGATIVE PATTERN. SOUNDS TO ME AS IF YOU'RE BOYFRIEND IS JUST IMMATURE AND UNSURE OF HIS SELF THAT IS WHY HE TRIES TO BREAK YOU DOWN SO YOU WON'T FEEL AS THOUGH YOU ARE EMPOWERED IN ANY WAY. I SUGGEST YOU BREAK THIS PATTERN NOW LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU WILL NOT STAND FOR THIS TYPE OF TREATMENT OTHERWISE IT WILL CONTINUE AND YOU WILL END UP DESPIZING THIS MAN AND THAT FEELING IS VERY AWFUL. YOU ARE HAVING A CHILD TOGETHER WHETHER HE LIKES IT OR NOT HE WILL HAVE TO FACE THE MUSIC. SO IT'S BEST YOU TWO COME TO SOME KIND OF AGREEMENT TO TREAT EACHOTHER RESPECTFULLY OR LEAVE EACHOTHER ALONE WHEN IT COMES TO A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP.

Hey, well everytime I talk about breaking up he says all this stuff to me... Like the baby's not even his! every single time he says that... A couple times i started screming saying I dont want you to ever see her and stuff... but i just keep running back to him.. after he says sorry!! i just cant do it!

well be prepared for that behavior to continue!

leave him when he isn't home that way he can't say anything and neither can you. If you stick around it will not stop and probably will get worse. Ask your dad to come and help you with your things then if bf comes home he wont say a word. Don't aswer his phone calls cut off all communication from him until he knows that your not gonna come back to him.

corrine321, although my situation is no where near as bad as yours i still understand how you feel. you need to leave him, as hard as it is your little girl (was that what u were having?) doesn't need to be around hat kind of person, they're not a good example and the both of you deserve so much better than that. like corrine said, leave when he's not home. that way he can't follow you or say things to you that make you feel guilty and go back to him. if you need to talk ever i'm on msn ok? i'm not very far behind you! i'm 28 weeks and 1 day....i'm having a girl, and i'm 17 in three weeks. so very similar!! good luck hunnie!

im with young_mum_2_b that is surely not a situation you need to be in while ur pregnant it causes extra strain on the baby that shouldnt b there...if he calls you names like that then you really do need to leave...im only 20 weeks and i just turned 19 so im a lil older then you..not by too much...if you ever need to talk i have yahoo and msn...jess_jones0587@yahoo.com or lilpeachez_05@hotmail.com....everyone could always use some positive support...good luck sweetz

I agree with everyone here that you need to leave this guy when he doesn't see it coming so that he doesn't have a chance to stop you. Don't even talk to him about it, just leave. I know it is hard, but you have to do it for you and your baby. Trust me, I was in a similar situation with a guy (but I wasn't pregnant). At first everything was great, then he started saying mean things and then he started pushing etc. I would tell him to stop and he would say "God, you act like I hit you or something!" That's when I realized that he was doing everything BUT hitting me, and if I let the relationship continue he would have, there is no doubt in my mind about that. I know that deep down you are afraid that his mean words will turn into mean actions and to be quite honest with you, they will if you don't leave him. This guy and I broke up a good three times and got back together each time with him being so sweet... for a few weeks. But then of course, back to the same thing. the key is cutting off communication because then you don't have to sit there and look at him/ listen to him beg and cry and apologize (and he probably will). If it is to hard to do it for yourself, DO IT FOR YOUR BABY. If he treats you this way, he will treat her the same way, maybe not at first, but eventually he will. If you are worried about what he will tell your parents, tell them what your plan is FIRST so that when it happens they are not surprised at all. There is no way that they will believe that their pregnant daughter could be a horrible girlfriend so don't even worry ok. I also agree that you should make sure you have a safe place to stay away from him so that he can't bother you. Trust me, it is going to be hard and you are going to think maybe he will change and maybe you should give him another chance, but there is no way he will change, and after a bit of time, you will realize that leaving this guy is the best thing you have ever done. You will feel so happy and relieved I assure you. It may take time, but this feeling WILL come. Try to occupy your time with as many things to do as possible to prevent even THINKING about him if necessary. I know that you can get through this, like everyone has said, you KNOW he is doing something wrong and that is SO important! Please e mail me if you want to talk more about this at all ( I have first hand experience with abusive relationships!) jungle3cat@yahoo.com Keep us posted! -Lauren

Just stopping in to update... Well we never broke up, He dont get as mad anymore, and we sat down and talked about things... I told him i would leave him without saying anything next time he says mean things to me... and for about a week and a half hes been okay with things.. I still think hes gonna be a jerk down the line, but im hoping he wont! My baby girl will be here in about 8 weeks and 2 days..I'm 31 weeks and 5 days right now.. He told me hes excited about being a dad but hes very scared, and i am too!! But i will keep checking this forum and keeping you guys updated!! XOXO!!

I'm glad you guys talked and he is acting a little better. It is good that you gave him an ultimatum. Just make sure that you are happy being with him and that you and your baby are safe. I'll check back to see how you are doing =) be strong!

JUst leave him. You don't need this. You don't want your baby's first word to be "cunt" do you? Who care if you are abad girlfriend. You seriously have more important things to worry about! You didn't mention even one good reason to keep him in your life. Not worth it!