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wow, thats really heavy. first of all im sorry you are going through this. second, the impression i get when reading this, and i may be wrong, is that its possible that coming off of her medication combine with pregnancy is too much for her and it almost sounds as if she is blaming you for her situation. she is suddenly sick and a bit unstable w/o her meds and she wouldnt be either if you hadnt knocked her up...you follow? im not saying this is the case, nor am i saying its rational but then again she is not thinking rationally and i can see her mind going in that direction. i hope that once she has this baby she comes back to her senses and is the lively, engaging woman you knew before. mental illness sometimes cannot be controled. keep doing what you are doing, give her the space, offer her support, on her terms, text, whatever it may be, just dont drop off the face of the earth, which i cant see you doing, and she may very well come around. mental disorders tend to wax and wane and are very often affected by pregnancy and definitely are affected by coming off meds. hang in there!

Well it has been almost a month and things haven't gotten any better. I sent her a letter telling her I was here to support her and help with anything related to the pregnancy. I told her I didn't want her to go through this alone and that if there was anything she needed to let me know. I also sent her some money to help with things. All the letter did was make her angrier. She text me to tell me that she didn't need anything from me and then I didn't here anything more from her for over 3 weeks. Than out of the blue she text me and tells me though she doesn't love me anymore something has to happen because she can't do it on her own financially. She wants me to get her an apartment and pay the rent, but she doesn't want to see me or be with me. Than a couple days later she tells me that if there is going to be a chance for us to be a family I have to quit my job and sell my house. I ask her if we can sit down and talk about things and she tells me not till I do what she asks. Its all or nothing at all. Now I want us to be a family but I am tired of her setting conditions and not be willing to meet in person to talk. I want to be a family but quitting my job and selling my house isn't in the best interest for our child and I don't know why she doesn't see that. I don't what to do any more.

dude don't be a fool. DO Not give in to any of her demands until the child is born. SOunds like she's just trying to suck you dry for her own selfish reasons. YOu need to protect yourself because you may be the only capable of taking care of the kid

Me and my wife dated for 3 months and then she broke up with me only to come back a month later and a month after that we got married. She used to tell me she loved me everyday and she was excited when I was coming home and when I would leave she would watch me leave and say goodbye, we were very romantically involved and we were so happy when we we found out she was pregnant and then she had to go off of her Paxil for the baby and things went down hill so fast it's like I didn't know what had hit me... She stopped sleeping in the same bed, no more kissing or cuddling me, had no desire for sex eventually, she stopped telling me she loves me and then eventually told me she doesn't know if she ever loved me. She is due in less than 2 months and I'm thinking it might be the hormones and medication change during pregnancy but I've almost lost all hope as she has been talking divorce for a while now and plans to sign papers a month after the baby is born. I just keep being there for her and paying the bills and being there for her whenever I can now that she asked me to seperate from her. I love her more than anyone and I just don't want her to leave me. I just hope she will love me again after the baby is born so we can have a family like we wanted in the beginning..