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yea i gotta be at work at 830 myself....
the controlling idea was that i was trying to get into a doctoral program and i said to her about when her, me and kaylee would move to MD, she doesnt want to move even though i was trying to better our lives, and i sorta moved into her place and said that when the baby got here i wasnt ever going to be far away and she freaked out....she said by doing that i was trying to control her....

i spent half the day yesterday reading post from other guys who share the exact same story as i have, which only confirms to me that this must be a hormonal imbalance.

me and my girl were doing great, had occasional ups and downs as all do, but when she found out she was prgnanat, the bottom dropped out. im 38 and she is forty so it is kinda a huge thing pregnant at 40, but we ajusted, but things just always seem to keep us at odds, and the harder i worked at keeping things together, the more she pushed away.

she has told me she does not want to be with me, to move on with my life as she will do the same in her life, she also told me that she would rather go to the dr. app alone, and i have not spoke to her in any fashion for several days.

its hard to do, but you have to try to understand the hormonal swings a woman goes through at any age, the fears, the concerns, the unknown's. we can not feel any of it to try and understand. we do not have the fear od labor pains, and the whole birthing process, we do not know what it feels like to have a human growing inside of us, pushing here, kicking there, our bodies stretching way out of proportion, its a huge thing.

I am being respectfull of my girls wishes, as much as i love her and want to make us a family, i just have to trust god that he blessed us with the child, he will bless us with a happy loving family.

Our ladies need us to be their rock, and be strong, they understand what it means to be a parent they also want to know that they have a man thats strong emotionally, to be around for the long haul.

Now i know first had how hard it is to occupy your mind with other things, I know how frustrating it is when you want to be apart of the whole pregnancy experience, and i know how selfish your girl may apear to be by excluding you from that.

I have come to realize that woman are very different creatures especially when preganat, but i also believe one look into that babies eyes, after delivery and she will remember why she loves you.

Be strong fellas, thats what she needs

well, its interesting to hear another perspective on it....we've basically just been keeping each other informed on how our ladies are doing and how long til the birth, since we've seen our ladies, etc...ur welcome to join in on that...give us that distraction that helps us be strong...

man been a while since i been on here.. well as for my i'm getting by kinda..havent spoken to her in a while now.. the pains getting alittle better.. still kinda rmbr her though and rmbr her having an abortion.. the pain will never truly go away i think but who knows.. its been a rough month :(

For each person it is going to be different, I am a minister, and she is also a christian, but i allowed sex to enter into our relationship with out being married, and that opens the doors to allot of bad stuff.

I dont know where your faith lies at with you gentleman in here, but as I have removed myself from my girls life, i just trust and believe that god has already worked it out. Now my physical self wants to believe everything she says to me, and everything she writes to me in her emails, but spiritually i do not belive any of it.

Now granted God can only do for us what we let him do, if she hardens her heart so much not even god can penitrate that because you will never recognize or recieve what he is doing. In any case every man in here needs to make preperations that they may not ever get back with the mother of their child, and that is a hard thing to except.

We can not fully understand woman just as they can not fully understand men. It is how we are made, woman are 100% emotional, men are about 30% emotional. woman make decisions based on emotions, and in this hormonal sweep emotions are off the chart, and i have ablout a month and a half left, so the hormonal clock throw it out the window, im half way through the 3rd tri ands still going through.

There is not perfect answer guys, One thing i do know is that, in the bible Proverbs 18:21, says that death and life are in the power of the tounge, and again in james 3:10 it says out of the same mouth come blessings and cursings. fellas we need to speak life over our girlfriends, speak life over our babies, and we need to speak life over our relationships with our mothers to be. even when it does not look like it on the outside, you have absolutly no clue what it looks like from the inside. I didnt come here to preach but to encourage, in hebrews chapter 11:1 says Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. we all must learn to have faith, speak life, and speak blessings

Hey Solomon,

I thank your words of god here in this forum, it helps a lot to have god present in this manner. You have brought him with you and through you he will touch our hearts and reach out to our ladies in these rough times.

Solomon, your lady did exactly what mine did, recently she told me the same words about 1 month ago. That she didn't wanted to be with me, that she didn't love me and that she would rather attend the doctor appointments alone. I know its tough man, makes you feel neglected from the pregnancy, it makes her seem selfish and cruel but like you said, with that hormonal imbalance in their bodies, it really affects the way women think. And, you are right women are 100% emotional. When I first met my girl, our relationship on the first days wasn't as passionate but when I took her out for a walk in a park full of flowers holding hands, she never forgot that moment and became even closer to me, I continued to do romantic things like these and it only made her love more powerful for me, perhaps a little too powerful because then she was afraid to loose me.

As for the hormonal inbalance clock? I don't believe in it, its just sort of an instinct feeling that by the time it reaches zero, my ladie's hormones levels would have stabilized but this doesn't mean she would consider seeing me again, its just there to experiment. And, talking about clocks!

Baby Birth in T minus 3 months, 8 days, 16 hours, 3 minutes and counting.

Her birthday? Just 4 days away but I don't plan on giving her anything, I have my own problems to deal with.

And of course, the Hormonal clock which is at T minues 3 weeks, 2 days, 16 hours, 1 minute and counting.

If you look at the Baby Birth numbers, you would have realize that my lady has not entered her third trimester yet. 8 more days and she will enter that trimester and SOLOMON is right, the last trimester is by far the hardest for them, they can be complete ... well lets not say the word, but i'm worrying about my life right now and moving ahead.

I got a job now, i'm moving out to a new apartment next week and have a lot of goals in mind; getting my GED & getting out of this financial crisis im in. I want the year of 2010 to be a fun year, not a year filled with regrets.

I am going through the same thing we were great before she got preg now she tells everybody how she doesnt want to be with me and how she can not stand me.. Just every chance to not talk to me..... it breaks my heart and I do not know what to do...

hi jordan, all i can say is try to relax...im still in my situation, but im learning to just let go and pour all my energy into what im gonna do for the kid, plus work and school have me mostly occupied...things may change, then again they may not, but theres a kid on the way now, and you gotta start doing for them, not for her or even for yourself anymore, that may be the best lesson we learn from this, its time to stop worrying about ourselves and our feelings...

Hey dudes...
i actually have some good developments...
so i met with my ex today, she had an appt, was supposed to do glucose test but she was hot, miserable and it was a very hot day so she didnt want all that sugary stuff in her (dont blame her) anywho, it was just her and i today and we just made small talk, mainly about how shes doing, how shes feeling and when she said she felt hot (she gets hot flashes now) i offered some water and even fanned her a bit (it didnt do much and she asked to stop but said she appreciated the effort)...then she asked a lil about my new job, it was then i finally figured something out...
I think she still cares about me but just pushed it deep down so she could deal with the pregnancy and the loss of control thats come with it...im not getting my hopes up that we'll get back together and be a family, i was just excited because i got to hear the heartbeat again (always gets me) but on top of that i got to feel my lil lady kick....it was amazing....plus id like getting the chance to touch my ex again, even if it was for the purpose of finding my little one....ok sorry for the long post, just wanted to say things finally feel less bad then before, almost somewhat back to good

well looks like ive started something here hope its all going well for you all.as for me it keeps geting worse sorry i havent been about and havent replied to any one.she wont talk to me ive spent most of this pregnancy sleeping under my ute or in the work truck on wet nights ive given her everything i have she is so nasty and evil and i have tried to understand and im there to help at the drop of a hat but its not enough for her she lies runs me into the ground and now says she is happy and stress free.i have supported her financally and have gone with out only to find out she has been getting wellfair payments.and now some how i will have to get a lawyer so i can see my son hes due sometime next month the one thing i have learnt is how good my freinds and family are with out their support i dont know where i would be probably swinging from a rope.even her mother dosent understand her.she has been going to the movies and out with her x husband she told me she was divorced but shes still married to him what a mess

Hey all,

I posted here about a year and a half ago when my girlfriend (of 2 months at the time) found out she was pregnant. I went through all the same kinds of things I am reading about today and it brings back some memories of what I went through. Things ended up working out with us. She started talking to me again in April of '08 and we moved in together in May. We had a beautiful baby girl last October, got married in December, and are expecting a boy this October! At times it's tough and I miss the single life, but when I see my baby girl I wouldn't change a thing. It took a lot of patience and I had to change a lot about myself back when I didn't know if she was ever going to talk to me again, but eventually she came around and if I had any advice to give it's to be patient, but available. Don't try to comfort her too much unless she wants it. Just let things unfold as they will. If it's going to happen it will. You can't change her, you can only change yourself and don't blame yourself for her actions.

Best of luck to everyone. I might have some parenting tips, but that's a whole nother forum!

i have spoken to her mother and she said leah will have the baby this week and she does not want me to know when hes born.at least her mum will let me know an will take photos went to lawyer to day going to be expensive but i will do anything to see my son and for him to have a wonderfull family.her mother said all she talks about is her x husband .you know i done some silly things when i was young never hurt any one i dont know what i done to deserve this i gave leah every thing and treated her like a princess lord give me strength

Hi my name is mark just went through a divorce and helped a friend who I used to work with get of drugs I also helped out with her financial situation and made sure that she was okay. I became a step father to our two beautiful kids. My ex-wife stopped me from seeing my son. Now that I have more strain on our fianances we moved away from the uk to Bali to start a new life. She put pressure on me to have a baby which we tried for and she got pregnant in a month. I did a few stupid things, we are setting up a new business and I deceided that I needed to work the weekend this didnt go down to well and she wanted me to go back to england based on that one weekend. A few weeks later I got drunk (there is a big drinking culture out here I have since laid off the drink) and said a few things about the tattoo on her bottom to strangers. She then turns round to me a few weeks later I am not sure that I want to be with you anymore I need my own space etc. I have given her space, I am confused she seems to want to be with but not want to be with me. She will tell me she loves me, then insult me to her friends I have seen emails where she has told her ex that I have trapped her in this situation so that she can not escape. She pick up on every bad habit that I have. I have bee to parties recently where I have heared her insult me "i think I may have married the wrong man". This has made me suicidal even to the point whre I have asked someone to send me on a long trip with no return. I dont know what to do or say proior to her being pregnant everything was fantastic. We still have moments where we get along but these are rare. What do I do

my son was born today she hasent even let me know only for her mother i wouldnt know anything about him.ilove her and all i want to do is go and hold him and give him a kiss.she has told hospital staff not to let me in and given my desciption to them.her mother said she kept yelling out her husbands name while givig birth.life sucks i dont know if i can do it anymore

I know that my problems aren't as bad as you all. I live with my girl and her 2 children that aren't mine but love them as if they were she is pregnant with my son. I really love her maybe to much. I seem to mess up all the time. She doesn't talk to me much I feel that there is something wrong and when I ask she says IM PREGNANT DO YOU EXPECT ME TO BE HAPPY!!!! so I don't know I think she is just with me so I can support her and pay her bills . I was at work on top of the roof with an extension cord wrapped around a bar a noose around my neck crying. I thought of everything I would miss like my family friends and most of all my unborn son. I stepped to the edge looking down to see myself falling, I fell backwards on my back on the cold rocks of the roof. I laid there crying GOD what do I do please help I need help!!!! Why do girls do this to us guys??

hey everyone, been a long time since i posted on here. my ex is still pregnant, we have 5 weeks, 6 days to go. she told me yesterday that my name wasnt going on the birth certificate until i had a paternity test done, since i still dont seem to know if its mine....
on a side note, it is my daughter, i just had a baby shower for her and ive been working on putting her room together....
i go for an appointment with a lawyer next month, so wish me luck on that....but lil over a month til my lil one gets here!!!! hope everyone else is doing alright