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Wow, 1 month, then this is just the beginning. She still has the "love" feeling for you. Don't want to make it any worse than it already it but be prepared for the worst, this is just the beginning.

Soon she will tell you she hates you, doesn't want to see you anymore and that she doesn't love you. Or, the infamous, "I love you but, i'm not 'in love' with you."

If she gets moody do not go into combat with her on an argument.

And the feeling of not having her in bed, thats what hurt me the most man. My girl lived with me for 2 months when we first moved in and when I came from work. Knowing I could hold her every night was all that motivated me to keep going every day. Just having her close to me, being able to smell her hair, hold her tight and feel her body heat, it was wonderful but once you loose all of that and she is no longer there, you find that you cannot sleep, its a terrible feeling to recover from, I tell you man, I wanted to hang myself. Cried like crazy, asking myself "what do I do wrong?"

I was an emotional break down for a month. I even bought books on "how to pull your ex back", read lots of books about couples breaking up and I think thats what brough my sanity back. When ever you can, go out to a book store and shell out some cash if you are into it, do some reading like I did, it helps a lot and makes you stronger. Nobody in this world is born knowing everything...hell you weren't born knowing how to handle a break up or how to handle being with a pregnant women...let alone how to be a father. Go out there and purchase some books, you'll do yourself a big favor!

Keep the posts coming, you and I are in the same situation, except my girl is 5 months now and yours is just beginning that hormonal ride.

i also sent her a text in the morning saying if you need a ride to the docs let me know i will take you got nothing back so i sent her another later on saying let me know how the doc visit goes and if you need a ride or not. still nothing back. its painful thats for sure. i wanted to say i love you but she just told me its not worth it. i thought i did everything right. i thought the past was just that.. in the past. but so fast a person can change and tell me its over. going from saying i love you and were fine than a few hours later saying i dont think its going to work that i lied about everything and she hates a lier. but truth be told yeah i lied about some stuff.. nothing so severe or terrible where you would say i hate him. everything i said i tried to make happen i even told her that. but she wasnt hearing it just focused on its over. alot of things remind me of her and places we been together even where i proposed to her.. than thoughts of her bieng with another man come into my head and wow let me say that is something that drives me to suicide at times. i know she wants space and to be left alone and idk why its soo hard to do that for me.. i just was so used to her texting me when we werent together and her calling me when she didnt spend the night. i think last night was the first night it all hit me like a ton of bricks. and the morning.. normally she would poke me til i wake up which i always thought was cute and i would give her a hard time just joking around with her but now its gone. waking up seein her face or hearing her voice at night that completely took everything from me. i havent eaten in days can hardly sleep.

i layed in bed this morning waiting for a text that never came from her saying im awake now or i am up. waiting to see about the doctors visit and i was looking forward to bieng there with her and one day hearing the heartbeat of my child everything. it just happened so fast and unexpected. she told me she gave me time to tell her the truth but i didnt say anything because we had went over it before and i assumed it was done and in the past and we were past it. but i was way wrong i guess.

and i want to be there for her no matter what and be a part of everything but im afraid she will tell me not to be there for doctor visits or come see my child or even let me know whats going on.

Hello guys, so it has been almost 3 months since i have seen the mother of my baby, i found out it is going to be a boy. We dont talk still and i dont know what is going to happen. The advice i can give you is that no matter what you say or how nice you are it is not going to matter. She has to make up her mind if she wants to be with you or not, there is really nothing you can do but let her be, let her miss you and come to terms with how she feels on her own. Belive me when i say this sucks for you and i know it but really my best advice is to NOT CONTACT HER AT ALL. I wish i had done that months ago but i didnt i kept trying to get her to be back to normal which only pushed her farther and farther away. She has to deside in her mind what she wants to do and really there is nothing you can say or do that is going to make it better right now!

i know its really up to her in the end which i understand fully. its extremly hard to just let go and say i wont talk to her anymore because thats just a lie i know i shouldnt but its so damn hard to. i know she might not come back but i hope she does come back. its still all fresh and new for me our break up which is why its killing me inside everyday now. i wish i knew if she ever wants me back or even if she would love me anymore but i cant know that and never can figure that out. i gave up alot for her and changed alot for her and did ALOT for her and her family. its just extremly hard to just let go of her.

Oh my god, your going through the exact same moments I went through. Every place you visit trigers a memory of her and the worst part is that your mind doesn't want to forget about her. You will want to re-visit these places again because you want to remember how beautiful it was being with her but trust me, listening to your minds thoughts only makes your pain stronger. Your conscious is telling you to go back and remember the wonderful moments you both had together and this is whats killing you.

yeah i am. i just dont know what to do anymore im at wits end.. everything hurts. she never replied to me about the doctors visit or anything. i offered to take them if she needs a ride but nothing back. i just have nothing left in me. i feel like the more space i give the more i lost her and that has killed me. cant even say how many times i thought about killing myself. i been through alot of relationships before but i thought this one was it. everything was amazing we had our fights like normal people do but we got through them. and in 1 day in a few hours its all gone.. idk if its because of the baby or because she just doesnt like me anymore but the feeling of bieng tossed aside and not loved or wanted anymore is hurting alot. i knew about mood swings before but i never knew about this. i wish i knew if it was the hormones or just she doesnt want me anymore.

john, I can guarantee you its the hormones taking over my friend. This hormonal ride will increase in the coming months. It settles down on her second trimester, so you've got some long days ahead of you.

I know its hard but if you want her back, you need to stay away for as long as possible. Do not contact her for at least 1 week, lets do that for a start. If she doesn't contact you in 1 week or in less than 1 week, simply extend it another week.

The kind of response you want to look from her when she contacts you is, "why have you not contacted me", "are you with someone else now", "so you've forgotten about me?". This works if you both have cell phones and can text, do not respond if its just a question asking for a favor, don't suck up to her. If the only method of contact is by voice, then setup an answering tone and trust me at some point she will leave a message, you call her back when its one of the questions I listed above, if its not, let her keep calling until she worries sick about you.

However, its also important, how you respond back to her. If it was "why have you not contacted me?" then you must let her know, "because you dont want to see me anymore remember? I have decided to move on now with my life. Thanks for giving me the opportunity to become a father in the future." --- Dont talk for too long, quickly find a way to say, "hey, I'll call you later, i've got something important to do." - WAIT FOR HER TO SAY "ok" , dont just hang up! After you do this, DONT CALL HER BACK, let her call you again....you see what you are trying to do here is turn the tables around in your favor! Right now she has the upper hand and is in control of you, you want to turn the situation around so that you get the upper hand, see what im saying? The least emotional in the relationship always has control of the relationship and it appears, shes the least emotional right now and you are the most.

If she says, "are you with someone else now?" Oh this is a favorite and you will bathe yourself in glory when you hear it. However, you must know how to answer this question! Simply say, "why? does it matter, you broke up with me remember?" she will insist she wants to know who it is or she will get mad and tell you, "well I hope she makes you happy, don't forget you have a baby on the way." --- you must respond with, "I am very happy for our baby and thanks, breaking up was the right thing to do." You have to be strong, show no signs of weakness, then say "bye, i'll talk to you later." --- This will drive her insane and out of her mind....she will ask herself, how could he just get over me that easily.

I want to tell you a secret about us people, "when we want something so bad and we finally have it, we no longer wan it. However, when we realize that we are about to loose what we no longer wanted, we suddenly want it back!" --- As long as you continue to call her she will never want you back because she already has you? That makes sense right? But the minute she knows she is about to loose you, shes gonna want to do something about it and that's when the tables begin to sift in your favor.

Once the tables are in your favor, you've got to make sure you stay up there and don't screw up! Or the tables will shift in her favor again and it will be much more difficult to shift them in your favor again.

i will def try to do that.. i just hope she actually talks to me.. i justh ave this shitty feeling she is done with me idk why but its hurting and feeling like it. i will def do that though.

but one thing concerns me with what she said. she told me that she will put up with me bieng around for the child but thats it she doesnt have to like me there. that is what worries me about her not coming back

and another question is that i want to know whats going on as far as doctor visits go. she was going to one at 215 today.. its 303 and nothing back from her i even offered a ride this morning and she never replied

For doctor visits in relation to the baby, I would say accompany her to them so you can listen to the babies heart and stuff, its really beautiful when you do.

As far as the appointment, you blew it today. She found someone else to take her, I can bet for sure. If you knew it was a 2:15, you should of been at her house 10 minutes before that, ready to pick her up.

You can just wait for her to call you, you need to start taking lead. Do not wait for her confirmation, go there and tell your giving her the ride because you are the father of the baby and you want to know whats going on, if she is healthy or not.

well i wanted to give her space today and i offere the ride with her. i didnt want to push it with her or anything. from what i hear the first one is just a test to see if shes pregnant. what about my other comments?

and i tried calling her to find out what happened today and of course no answer... this is why i am worried shes gone for good. i give space im wrong idk what to do

well heres an update.. she got back to me said everythings fine shes just out with her family. i also said when is the next time you go because i would like to go it would mean alot. she said monday and she will let me know if i can go with her. im telling you. no matter what i do im wrong its like she just hates my guts shes not even the same im upset and shes at great adventure with her family. i mean seriously wtf