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well heres an update.. she got back to me said everythings fine shes just out with her family. i also said when is the next time you go because i would like to go it would mean alot. she said monday and she will let me know if i can go with her. im telling you. no matter what i do im wrong its like she just hates my guts shes not even the same im upset and shes at great adventure with her family. i mean seriously wtf

alright man, ive been reading this and i have to say first, im sorry. I'm going through exactly the same thing. you may not want to hear this right now, but live for you, that last guy was right, gotta put space, go to the appointments and make it about the baby, not u and her, cuz the baby is whats important, not u or her....im just figuring this out myself after reading everything else. and my girl is 19 weeks, so that first trimester thing is a bit off, its different for everyone....but this is a good place to vent and let off ur frustration, cuz unfortunately, u cant do anything good for you two as a couple, right now...keep the faith brotha

i know i have to keep faith and keep going for me and the baby at least. but theres alot of fears.. when we first learned she was pregnant we agreed i can go to every doctors visit. but now i didnt even got o this one, not because i didnt want to but because i didnt know where it was and if i was even allowed to go. i offered to bring her i wanted to be there badly but i wanted space for us. its extremely hard to see faith when i thought we were meant to be.. that we were great together and in 1 day, not even the day in the course of a few hours she can decide to leave me after saying shes staying with me and she loves me. i am just confused, hurt, and scared. we had names picked out. if it was a boy it would be named after me we had girl names. now idk whats going to happen what its name will be, how often i can even see him or her. just to hear her say its over and for her to say to me that she will just put up with me there for the baby crushed me. knowing she can hate me after all i did.. but truthfully i didnt do anything really wrong. everything was in the past and buried but i guess i was wrong. everything hurts no place to go without thinking of memories, and just knowing shes not with me anymore and not calling or texting is killing me inside every moment.

i just wonder if she misses me at all :(

maybe not as much as you miss her, but you keep your distance for awhile and she may just start missing you...

mrfaosfx where you at? i know you got some comments on this

and i will keep my distance just afraid if i do shes gone for good.

I think john has given in too much, its hard to deal with this and think that its all over. You get that terrible empty stomach feeling that something is wrong, you start thinking if maybe perhaps she has fallen for another man. The feeling I had when my girl did this to me, was anger. I hated that she broke up with me for no reason, only because she needed space, I was angry not at her but at myself because I felt so helpless and couldn't do anything about it.

I was back with my girl recently but yet again she has broken up with me, well sort of. She just told me she was too stressed to be with me and to stop seeing each other for now. I played along with it and left in anger.

Today however, I realized how much of a monster a pregnant women can be. I passed by her house, she was outside and I walked by across the street, I didn't look at her but I know she saw me and I know she knew I didn't pay any attention to her. I tell you, she didn't even bother to send a text to see why I didn't say hi or anything, its like she doesn't care, hell I could of died today and she wouldn't even know about it.

I'm getting tired of the way she treats me and unlike you john, I do not want to be with my girl anymore, not after this baby is born, she is due in November 17th.

After we got back together, I didn't wanted to commit to her again because she had broken up with me and then she tells me, she wont hurt me again and that she will always love me, yet she manages to do just that.

Just flat out in 1 day, she brakes up with me only because she was stressed. Love is suppose to help in moments of stress, to ease the stress and help each other out, her idea of solving problems is to push everyone away from her no matter what happens. Well, damn it, she lost me for good! I am not shedding one tear again for her.

The last text message I sent to her was like this,

"I know you were stressed and needed some space but you didn't have to break up with me. All you needed to tell me was you needed a little space. How can you just throw love out the window like that?"

She responds with...

"I am really sorry, I really am."

Sorry is the word that makes me the most furious. The heart of a person is something very fragile. Think of it as a balloon filled with water, the water is love, one little pinch and all of that love is gone for ever.

i guess we all have alot of shit going on with our woman. mine idk if shes coming back i hope she does but i honestly dont know. i dont even know if she misses me which kills me. which is why alot of the time i feel like i just want to die :(

Just hang in there john, my girl or maybe I should just say my "ex" now. Has not contacted me all day long. I will not contact her at all. I am actually going to wait and see if she contacts me. Not holding my breath on it.

john, i know its hard man, trust me i am so there. but just remember one thing, if u were to die, then who gets to take that little one to the park or teach them to throw a ball or any of those good things....just remember, good things come to those who wait, it may not be here but just think on when that little one looks at you and calls you daddy, you'll forget all about these days....i know i will

it is def hard. all i think about when i wake up is her :( never thought it would come to all of this. i know i will eventually forget about all of these days but right now its so damn hard. everything reminds me of her i constantly think what is she doing or if she even misses me anymore or if she even loves me anymore. any advice on this one? its like a pit in my stomache that wont go away ever

only advice i can offer you is to go do stuff, go make ur own memories. im surrounding myself with work, friends and school and my friends have been awesome. they let me go on my rants, offer their two cents(since they know im looking for it) and we go on. i felt horrible until yesterday when i saw i wasnt the only one going through this, i even told my baby's mama that i was going to stay away and i'm going to try, mainly because if i keep stressing, im going to stress her and it may end up hurting the baby, and i want to hold my little kaylee so bad, thats my end goal....you need to find your end goal (also turns out that the wounded sad guy is an instant chick magnet, kinda crude but most girls, ours excluded, genuinely care about guys and want them to be happy). so just talk to someone, anyone, they may be tired of hearing it but if they're your friends they'll do it anyways!!! good luck man and you always got me to write to on here, we'll get through it

well guys its over. we talked today and she wants nothing to do with me and she said shes done.. in fact she doesnt even know if she wants to keep the child anymore. i am pretty heartbroken right now.. idk what to do i lost everything now. even my child :(

YOu just dont give up do you. I've bet you've been on her back ever since you started posting here. Give her some space man, she will do everything in her power to push you away, see what happens when you keep being persistent?

GIVE HER SPACE for her own sake, I know its tough. Leave her alone.

What happens when you try to put out a burning fire with your bare hands? You get hurt right? You need to let that fire exhaust its flame and go off before you can try and have a talk with her again. If you keep at it, you are just going to get yourself hurt.

OK i am back after two years. dudes i know this is my thread so here we go.
first of all. don't say she doesn't love you second of all 80 % of women cannot control their hormones. even if they dont liketo talk about it. of those 80 - 15 % startt hating their partners but it will all go away!!! now i have learned the hardway that you should keep in contact with her but also keep a small distance even tough it hurts like hell. now if you do talk to her make it about the baby and what ever you do do NOT say i love you or i miss you. stay tough.