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OK i am back after two years. dudes i know this is my thread so here we go.
first of all. don't say she doesn't love you second of all 80 % of women cannot control their hormones. even if they dont liketo talk about it. of those 80 - 15 % startt hating their partners but it will all go away!!! now i have learned the hardway that you should keep in contact with her but also keep a small distance even tough it hurts like hell. now if you do talk to her make it about the baby and what ever you do do NOT say i love you or i miss you. stay tough.

i want to do that i didnt even start this one. she told me its over and she might get an abortion... that she is just angry with me and its done.

i know to give her space and all but she has been telling me nonstop its over.. and now she doesnt know if she wants to even keep the baby. she said things change idk. i know you all probably think i was bugging her alot but today i didnt do anything i woke up and she texted me telling me this stuff and that tmrw she wants her things back and its done.

Hey john8424, guess what man? LOL, you know I find it surprising that i'm actually in a good mood but today I made contact with my girl or officially now my "ex" and man, she is the #1 ROYAL BITCH in The United States.

Just last week me and my girl were two love birds and then just suddenly flat out one 1, she tells me that is over and she needs to be alone because she is very stressed.

Well, I did just that, waited 3 days and went to go see her, man what was that for, she was worse than ever. So LIVE I bring you right now her response on myspace...her first response was,

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Body: Leave me alone
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Ok
point taken, lol. That was an old message tho, then she responded to the next one.

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Jul 3, 2009 6:11 PM
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Body: Understand that i want u and everybody to leave me alone im sorry but i dont love u sorry but just move on with ur life like ima do with mine ok
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Sure
thing miss grumpy woman. Thanks for braking my heart and telling me you don't love me anymore. This isnt the first time she does this folks, see the hormones at work. Now, for the next one, oh you guys will love this one.

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3, 2009 6:19 PM
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Body: Look im sorry for you hurting but i dont want nothing ima give u a dna test so everybody knows but for now my decision is to put my last name on the baby ok im not going to give u a pic cuz there mine and i want them ok sorry tell my mom to send it to u or something i dont want to be cold but its just how i feel that person warning i dont kno who it is but i bet they care for me alot alot so for u and me leave me alone
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about being rude and then saying your sorry! Here she tells me its over and she doesn't want nothing else to do with me. Then she says shes going to give me a DNA test so that everyone knows its my kid, why would you do this when I know its mine. And the rest is just being rude, not wanting to give me a pic of the sonogram, her decision to put the baby her last name...which sort of states that she will continue to feel like this until the baby is born, etc.

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During a text message conversation previous to these myspace messages, I called her "baby" and she responded with the following.

"don't call me baby i dont want to be urs or no ones baby and stop going to my moms house"

Let me tell you, I have never seen anyone so rude in my life but she can't fool me. I know her too well, she is acting this way to push me further away by making me feel hopeless.

She is due November 17th of this year, so she has about 5 more moths to go before she gives birth. The hormonal roller coaster is kicking into action now i've noticed one thing that is very interesting and you guys will be amazed.

The first time she broke up with me and got like this was back in early April, the last month of her first Trimester, during that month she began the shift of a dark cold personality just a couple of days before.

Here is the shocking part! She began that same trend again, acting the same way, dark and cold and guess what? Yes you guessed it, its the last month of her second trimester! Isn't that a coincidence?

On June she revealed to me that she was acting the way she did because of the hormones and the pregnancy. And that she feels horrible about everything she did and she always loved me and that she did all that to push me away because she could not control how she was feeling. We spent the entire month of June together "in love" with each other. So my best guess is to leave this girl alone and sit around and wait for the month of September, that is aprox. 60 days from now! Shit, thats 2 long months that I will spend alone again but for the sake of the relationship, I will leave this girl alone for 60 days, no contact, no messaing, nothing.

I have concluded that every trimester has a different hormonal shift. Since she is almost beginning her last trimester the third, I think the hormone levels will be at their highest and this can fuck up the emotional state of a woman so bad that she will want no one around her. Remember, they have no control over this, you just shift into this new mode and you transform and became this other person yet again.

To be honest, not seeing me for 60 days is not going to make her miss me...why not? Its the no contact rule...yeah sure but remember, these are HORMONES, you can't win a battle with hormones, she will be perfectly happy and will not miss anyone during this transitional state, not until hormone levels settle down again and then will she realize what she has done.

It will be interesting to see how my "ex" does further along down September, I think I should contact her again or simply wait for her to contact me at some point. And what ever I must do, I shall not show any signs of weakness on my part!

Well until next time folks, feel free to leave your comments, they help a lot!

well yours makes sense lol mine well idk what to say. she doesnt even know if she wants to keep the baby... going from loving you alot to nothing to do with me its over. i remeber texting her recently and her saying its over john. i also rmbr asking about the baby and she said idk if i am even going to keep it! :( any help here?

she said she wasnt really happy anymore. she didnt have space and she didnt like any lies. but even thought we worked all that out at one point or at least i thought we did.. she said why be with someone when i wasnt happy. :(

hey mrfaosfx, sorry for your luck man, my baby is due nov 21, so im right there with ya. best i can tell you is this, at least she is communicating with you....it may not be what u want to hear but it sounds like shes just having her hormonal doubts and rather be left alone. i know a girl who is pregnant now who is quite happy, but doesnt want to be fawned over by her friends so she asked for space....
my ex decides to play the childish route and doesnt even tell me how she feels at all. i havent spoken to her for about 4 days and it sorta feels better. ill send her a message in a couple days just to let her know im still thinking about the baby. just focus on one thing pal, you have 4 months of freedom left before there will be one little person who will want all of your time, its kind of like a free pass to get ready, but by yourself.....good luck man
John, i forgot how far along she is, but shes going through the earlier stages where she isnt sure. just know that she only has a certain amount of time, then she has to go to term...i cant promise you two will get back together, and your best bet is to try to go a few days w/o talking to her...try 3 days and lemme know how it goes

Those are just the hormones man, look at what mine has done now. You know what it feels like for the person you love to tell you that they don't love you and to move on with your life? That is messed up man, real messed up. I'm just going to take it easy myself and forget about her for now.

Thanks for answering kaylees. Wow, so our girls are pretty close. Communication? well kay that is right now down the line, today is the day it went bad, if I attempt any form of communication with her, its only going to drive her further away.

I'll understand that she wants space and that is precisely what she is communicating to me. She stated several times in many conversations recently that she wants to be alone and talk to nobody. She knows I don't give up so to push me away, she hurts me but I know that because she can't control her emotions, she says things she probably doesn't want to say.

looks like we are all in this together lol as much as it truly sucks. who would have known that pregancy could turn into this. it wasnt something planned but we both were happy about it. or at least seemed that way. idk how the rest of you planned or unplanned it. but i guess even when we try to be there and make them happy in the end we just got tossed out and pushed aside. how sad that someone can turn on you that fast. mine was in a matter of 3 hours going from loving to hating me. it truly is sad how that can happen. she got treated well by me all my family seen it and hers. they have nothing to comment on her leaving me which i wish just for a second i can ask them there thoughts on it.

man i just dont know what to do but i am going to give her space i am done trying all i can to show her i love her and i want her back. nothing i do or say can change her mind i even asked for a chance to show her that i am changed and i love her and that things can be great again but according to her its over and to stop. :( who knows whats in store for my future i do rmbr that when she gave me my stuff back i asked if i will hear from her agian and she did say yes you will hear from me. idk what that means but i dontknow anything anymore.

we all should meet up and get a damn beer or something after all of this crap. we are the victims of some bs.

yea john, we'll all bring our kids to the park, ill bring a cooler and we'll talk about how much this $h!t sucked...

f*ck, you guys count me in on that! Hey atleast we should all be proud about becoming dads. Not every man gets a baby as a gift, first we must know the right moves to find that pretty girl and then we have to take her to bed lol! Not all guys can do that! So we should all be laughing at our pregnant girls, they are making us feel bad because we don't have to deal with all that hormonal and emotional crap they go through. Ha! Think again and oh I just got a pic of my baby, i'm going to post a link on here for you guys to see, man this is my first little one, he is so cute, I got a boy! I GOT A BOY!

was gonna add a pic or two of my little angel, Kaylee Michelle but this site wont let me. and congrats on your boy!!!

Hey guys here is the link to the pic of my baby...my sister sent this to me...then she got a big lecture from the pregnant lady saying she should of asked for permission, I mean what the f*uck, i'm the father, what difference does it make, this women is all drama and hormonomania!

crap guys sorry, URLs are not allowed...

Oh this is just great, now my "ex" wants me to take the pic of our baby off myspace. She said, take it off or else? Like what the f*ck is she going to do, blow my car tires? get someone to beat me up? call the cops on me, bring it! bring it!

I was having a conversation with my "ex" a couple of hours ago and I think I figured out were her hormonal shift kicked in and this actually makes complete sense.

1. she wants to be alone
2. doesn't want to talk to anybody
3. doesn't want me near here (and i'm the father!)
4. keeps insisting the baby is only hers!
5. this is my baby! OK ITS YOUR DARN BABY!
6. she thinks people might hurt her baby.
7. she doesn't want me near the baby? wtf?! lOL!

Well after that blasted conversation, I managed to pull the truth out of her with out her finding out. Talking to a bunch of hormones can be very difficult and strategic. I kept her hooked on the conversation by keeping it heated and working against her own words.

My conclusion is that she now feels very PROTECTIVE of her baby. She fears that people might try to hurt her baby or take it away from her, even tho the baby is not born yet! I am happy for her because that means she really wants this baby! It gets worse because she doesn't even want me close to her. She wants the baby all for herself, what a selfish mother! LOL I feared that her recent words were only to push me away, this is another hormonal roller coaster shes going to. Now shes got a people phobia and in this state, if I mess around too much, she might even call the cops on me! So I better stay back.

Some unlucky folks have had their girls in this condition and couldn't take the hint! The worst that can happen is having a cop knocking on your door or attending court to sign an order of restraint, now that is f*cked up and I don't want to push it to those areas.

She kept harrasing me and my sister all night long. Kept telling my sister she had no permission, kept telling me to take the pic off myspace. I told her "get a life, you are acting ridiculous and I'm tired of your shit. You want me to leave you alone, then you leave me alone now. Don't ever talk to me again, you have been very rude with me."

Its been about 3 hours and she has not responded and i'm glad as hell she hasn't, cuz...I don't ever want to hear from her again. Those f*cking hormones are making her a drama queen and she makes up an argument over ANYTHING and I mean ANYTHING. I am done with her, i'll see her again in October, baby shower is in October, she doesn't know, i'll just drop my gift off and not even bother staying to see her that day.