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if he says its okay then you should take his word for it . He might not be okay but sounds as though he has compassion too . I like how you phrased the question 'Just suck it up' lol if that makes you happy or feel better about being tired then go for it .

Thank you for your response! I think I might just do what I don't feel like doing. I want this pregnancy to be enjoyable for both him and I. I also want him to feel included and still loved and not forgetten or something. Geez, I shouldn't have said "suck it up" that sounds so bad! Thank you again!

you have to put you're baby's health first. He might like it if you bought him some porn or toys he could use on himself until everything is ok. Well, that's what I would like my wife to do for me.

Yes, the babys health is both of our number one concerns, but the doctor did say that abstaining from sex probably wouldn't do anything. She said if it's going to happen it will either way. But my husband is not into porn or toys. I'm thinking we are just going to have to work together so both of us are good.

Your husband's probably okay with it, like he says. I'm sure he wouldn't want to hurt the baby, or you. He might even be scared to have sex because of the spotting. I had some spotting in the second trimester during my last pregnancy, only after sex, and after the second time my husband said he didn't want sex until after the baby. So we found other ways to enjoy each other, until after the baby was born. Also, it's common for you to have less desire in the first trimester, between the hormone changes, morning sickness and fatigue. You may be more interested in sex in the second trimester.

I had a very troubled beginning to this pregnancy and ended up on bedrest at 14 weeks to 18 weeks because of bleeding. Sex was absolutely prohibited - bleeding is a reason to avoid sex and many doctors including my own advised me if I wanted this child then abstain. And we have, for 36 weeks now. Hubby was frustrated, as was I (at times) but our daughter will be here in a few weeks and every thing is worth that - soon we will be back to our old sexual selves with the added benefit of our brand new baby. dont risk the baby for an evening of fun, it's just not worth it. I wish you luck.

I'm not talking about intercourse, since last time I bled so bad, I'm talking about other things like oral. Neither I nor my husband don't feel like putting our baby in danger.

Hey it's Tati I know how you feel. I was 4 months when I started to bleed pretty bad, especially after sex. My doc said no sex until next ultrasound that was two months. We did it once because we both really wanted but very slow and gentle I bled just a bit. After ultrasound the plasenta went up so it was ok then another problem infection. So we didnt do it for another month because it hurted and burned very badly after. Now I am on my 34th week and I am no longer in a mood but my husband said thats ok just let him know when I am. So we end up doing it once a week or a week and a half. But he is very supportive and he understand. Sometimes I say just do it fast because I am not in the mood he wont he just kisses me good night and falls a sleep. You have a long way to go. But the good thing is it will get bit better when you are 4-6 months because that is the time you dont feel big yet and you dont have the morning sickness and moods. Good luck I hope you found a way to make each other feel wanted. What we used to do was hug and kiss and roll in bed for sometime before going to bed it worked.

I would recommend getting some KY warming lube for him, and using it on him...I am not pregnant, but when I am not really in the mood for anything, or tired, I will give him a "hand job" with lube...he always enjoys it and it doesnt take alot of work