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Jason... has your wife had morning sickness? morning sickness took 7 weeks out of my life and turned me into a puking, emaciated, sweating, cursing, depressed miserable beyond any man could ever imagine, witch. It took so much out of me on a daily basis that towards the end I couldn't even gather the strength to be a witch. I would lay for hours and just cry. 7 weeks Jason... I lost 15 lbs off of an already slim figure and I developed GERD which meant that when I wasn't puking, my esophogus was opening up and letting all kinds of things run into my throat and mouth. At some points I wondered "Is this what someone who's dieng feels like?" Along with about a million other things such as severe back aches, migraine headaches, dhiarrea, and extreme fatigue. On Christmas Day I threw up 6 times. I'm finally on some medicine for my morning sickness, but during the 7 weeks where I was out of commission, my husband did everything for me. It showed me just how sweet and nice of a man he is and I am so thankful for him. I don't know if your wife's been sick, but if she has been it might give you some insight into why she's been unbarable to live with. If my husband had been anytihng but the sweetest guy alive for those 7 weeks, I would have told him I wanted a divorce and get out of my house. I hope this helps some, but if she's not sick, then it could just be those raging hormones. My advice for you is to store your dominant attitude in a box in the closet. Try to remember that she's growing another human being inside of her. It is sucking all of her energy out of her and she's tired and impatient and grouchy and bitchy. She's bound to resent you becaues you have it good. You're not peeing every 20 minutes or having hot flashes, or gaining weight, or looking forward to hemmrhoids and stretch marks and just generally being a suitcase that hauls around a baby. I hope you understand now to some extent what your wife could be going through. Just try to be nice and easy going for the next few months. Like today I snapped at my husband because he always pushes his food around on his plate for 10 minutes before he takes a bite. Well this time it just pised me off and I yelled at him. He just looked at me with puppy dog eyes and said "sorry honey..." I felt so bad immediately, but had he been a jerk to me I would have gotten all up in his face and it would have turned into a fight. Just learn to be easy going for the time being and see how it works. Anytihng is worth a try...

awww i feel sorry for u blokes bu it really is not easy being sick sore back boobs i am not as bad as some of ur wives i just tend to cry for no reason:s its embaressing my partner is soo suportive and says its alright and he understands i think u do really just gotta put up with us .

get pregnant the best thing u can do!!

I found that the proper mindset to have until my wife gives birth and is eventually happy with the way she looks again would be - its your fault. Anything that angers or saddens her is my fault, you just deal with it. Trying to argue or put up anytype of fight is useless, we are not dealing with rational people here. My wife wakes up screaming with a leg cramp at 3am, no questions - i massage it. She wakes me at 4am because the baby is lying down in a strange position and she wants me to feel her belly, I feel her belly. In these demented women's mind's there is a simple equation that unfortunately gets influenced by hormones every now and then, "I am like this because of him." Gentleman, can we deny this? No, so suck up and deal with, I'm 30 now, so I figure I'll be able to play golf again in ten yrs, but that's life and i honestly can't wait until my daughter is here.

I can relate to a lot of what is being said and I try to be as compassionate as I can. Unfortunately, compassion doesn't always work and sometimes makes things worse. My biggest concern is the depression and the times she gets so mad she does something stupid like mix a drink and knock it back, leave with a bottle of pills, or lift extremely heavy materials for spite. I am to a point where I can't trust her to take care of herself and the baby. I am seeking counseling and plan to approach our OB. While there is definitely hormonal issues with pregnancy, it's not suppose to be so bad that it destroys relationships. There is professional help available.

I don't know where to begin. My g/f is almost nine weeks pregnant, and she seems to simply not like me anymore. There are no more "I love you's", no more kisses, no more affection period. I don't understand it, and to be honest, it breaks my heart. She doesn't seem to want me around at all, and I have done all that I can to make her realize that I really do love her, and want nothing but her and her happiness. It's really hard to be around, and I feel as if the best thing I can do is just leave her alone. I simply can't deal with it anymore. She wants to blame everything on the hormonses, yet I think the problem lies within the heart. Now I feel as if she really doesn't, nor has ever, really loved me. This is the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with in my entire life!!!

To "losing it". Were there problems before in your relationship? If so then hormones may just be making the situation worse, but if you haven't had problems before and she has only just started acting up, you really need to try and not let it get to you. Hormones do crazy crazy things to you and it is hard to control your emotions sometimes. She may be scared and worried about being pregnant and all that pregnancy involves, and could be taking it out on you as anger. They say you hurt the ones you love the most, so maybe that is true in your case.

I keep hearing there's light at the end of this tunnel, but is one supposed to simply overlook all that's been said. This is supposed to be a time of enjoyment, and planning, and love. Sure, hormones may cause a mood swing here and again, but the love should still be there. I'm not sad that I'm having a baby - not one bit! But I am sad that it had to be with a women who doesn't love me. It's a bad feeling, but I guess there are much worse things than being a single dad. Life will go on - I guess.

Losing it... No one can really help you on here if you don't tell us more. All you are telling us is your feelings and that's not enough. We have no idea what is going on with her. Does she have morning sickness, does she have fatigue, since she is still early in the pregnancy she may be scared of miscarrying, does she work a lot and is exhausted, do you ask her how she's feeling, are you busy and gone a lot, is she worried about money? There are so many reasons that she could be feeling downright depressed and add hormones to the mix and it can be a MESS. I sat there roaring with laughter when you said that this is supposed to be a time of enjoyment and planning and love. I'm not telling you this to make you feel bad, but just to give you a look at reality. Every time I look at my Pregnancy magazine and it says "Pregnancy... The time of you life!" I want to rip it into shreds. Now don't get me wrong, my husband and I wanted and tried for this baby for a while, but pregnancy is not all it's cracked up to be. I'm 19 weeks and 2 days which means in 5 days I will be halfway through the pregnancy. I HATE being pregnant. The only joy I get is when I feel the baby moving inside of me. I am still sick all day, everyday (lost 15 lbs) I get migraines and constant acid reflux and horrible indigestion, my hip/back gives out on me a lot when I'm just trying to walk, I have constipation and sore boobs. Along with that I feel like the people I love are falling apart around me, my mom has to have test done in 1 week to see if she has cervical cancer and lung cancer and my Step dad was admitted to the hospitalon Monday because of what they believe may be Colon cancer. I try so hard to be strong but I'm a wreck. I even resented the baby inside of me and could not get excited about the pregnancy until I felt it kick two and a half weeks ago. My husband has had to overlook a lot of things that I have said out of pain and frustrations and exhaustion. There were times when he felt like I didn't love him. I did, with all of my heart, but I was too exhausted to so anything but snap at him to bring me my puke bucket. I don't know if she is sick or stressed or anything, but my point it you can not play pregnancy up to be this wonderful time in your mind. I know I did and I'm paying for it. Sure the baby is the best thing ever, but it is the hardest and most trying time in my life and probably my husbands, him kissing me makes me physically sick and him putting his arm around me makes me feel uncomfortable and crowded. It's so hard on everyone. Ask her if she loves you and if she says yes then you know your answer. She just may not be able to show it right now. I wish you the best, just try to remember that this is a hard time for her too, even if she isn't sick, she may be very stressed out. Good luck :o)

Ok, there is a great Queen size bed in my bedroom where my husband sleeps every night. Where do I sleep??? 4 months pregnant and on the sofa. Why? Because I have lost my mind and everything he does and says (even in his sleep) bothers me to the point of wanting to pull my hair out. I also get this way when someone wants to have a convo on the phone or being in stores. I must admit since pregnancy, I am very hard to live with. and then out of no where a calm hits and I am crying because he doesn't spend all his time with me.. what? two minutes ago I was regreting the marriage because he left a napkin on the counter. When will it end???????

yeah there nuts

I feel so sorry for my fiancee and all of those men out there struggling with us pregnant ladies, seriously. I'm in the "fiery anger, blatant regret" stage, and it could not be worse. My husband has become a monster to me, (i imagine it's vice versa for him) he took up smoking again and it's been driving me nuts. To support his habit and myself, he's been buying the worst possible food. My doctor put me on bed rest and told me "no salt", and I try so hard to stress this and other healthy habits with my s.o. but I think he doesn't listen and he doesn't care. Our sex life disappeared a long time ago and I am now actually repulsed by the thought of being intimate with him. I constantly berate him in and out of public, and I get disgusted when he starts crying. I've been with him for five years and I've never been like this. I've never woken up and thought to myself, "dear god i'm with the ugliest, dumbest man alive for the rest of my life, and to think what I could have had if I wasn't so desperate". It's like what Chris Rock said about why your woman hates you, they hate you because you're not their first choice. It's shameful and unusual behavior for me, and I hope that it dissipates soon.

wow.. you poor men really sound like you have it rough.. LOL.. I am 19 and 6 weeks pregnant and I'm already so angry I'm scaring myself.. But just a message to the men who think they have it bad.. Seriously, all you have to put up with is a little crazyness that will go away.. youre body stays normal, and you feel fine.. We have something the size of a watermelon growing, making us sick and feel hideous... I wish men could understand what we go thru.. Pregnancy is not fun.. So really.. all you men have it easier than u think. . I would much rather have to take a little madness than feel like an ugly fat cow... just my opinion though!

my girlfriend was sweet as pie loved my company loved making love spending time with me we were so perfect together weve been together for 8 months and shes 10 weeks pregnant its so stressful shes cranky and insecure sometimes i dont no how to deal with it anyone got any advice? since shes become pregnent we argue its not us im scared.

Yes. Yes I am. I am dealing with one right now. Oh dear god.

Lately I've just been leaving the room because I'm a little bit on the edge myself lately. And of course the LAST THING you want to do is suggest her mood is anything less than justified, or suggest she's angry because of hormones. That way madness lies.

This is our second child and the first time she cried more, toward the end. This time I'm just trying to make myself scarce.

Same experience as the other gentlemen posting here. My wife's 17 weeks right now and is understandably anxious about her first pregnancy. We exchange sharp words from time to time but usually get on together very well. Last night, she was fine, as she has been for months barring the expected worries, but was particularly upset by a show she watched on TV in which one of the characters lost a baby after a disagreement with the boyfriend. Shortly after that finished, there was a mild squabble about what to watch next, and next thing I know she's telling me the stress of "constantly" arguing will make her lose our own baby, and threw me out - telling me she doesn't want to see me again until the baby's born. I thought it best to giver her some space and went to stay with my folks. What next I wonder.