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Same experience as the other gentlemen posting here. My wife's 17 weeks right now and is understandably anxious about her first pregnancy. We exchange sharp words from time to time but usually get on together very well. Last night, she was fine, as she has been for months barring the expected worries, but was particularly upset by a show she watched on TV in which one of the characters lost a baby after a disagreement with the boyfriend. Shortly after that finished, there was a mild squabble about what to watch next, and next thing I know she's telling me the stress of "constantly" arguing will make her lose our own baby, and threw me out - telling me she doesn't want to see me again until the baby's born. I thought it best to giver her some space and went to stay with my folks. What next I wonder.

My wife and I have just separated. I moved into my parents house and she stayed in our 2 bedroom house. She is 6 months pregnant and has been sleeping in a different bed since last November. She explained that she sleeps there because that is the only way she can get a good sleep. We have not had sexual relations very much at all throughout the pregnancy (3times in 6 months). Even than it felt like a chore. I love my wife very much but I feel like I'm living with a roommate. The major problem has been my trust in her. A few months into our relationship she stepped out and had an affair with someone else. Needless to say I forgave her but I didn't forget. This has led me to have serious trust issues, which has in turn led to our separation. I have questioned her twice since we have been pregnant once when she was down the street for a long time that i was skeptical about and another was at easter when her friend came over and there was a shirt that my wife wore home from a sleep over at her friends house before we were pregnant. When I gave the shirt back to her friend she said she had never seen the shirt before. This sent me into a tail spin that made me question if the baby was even mine. My trust issues have held me back from believing her when she says the baby is mine. This whole mess came to a head when two weeks ago I asked if I had another instance of doubt in something and I came to her, could she be understanding with me instead of getting super defensive and angry. She said she couldn't live like this and basically over the next two weeks through fighting has lead me to now be living with my folks. The main instance that caused me to move out was that we were supposed to move into a larger place to accommodate for the baby. When we went over there the second time she was saying that the rooms were smaller than she remembered ect. I basically said to her I didn't know if I wanted to move in if there was so many things she didn't like. This lead to another fight which she gave me an altimatum that stated the only way that she was going to move in was if she had her own room. After hearing this I was very sceptical that she still loved me and was only using me to provide for the birth through my insurence and provide for her because she is no longer working. I said I didn't agree with her terms and told her the only way I was moving into the new place was into one bed with a wife not a roommate. After she said no I moved out and made the room I was sleeping in to the babies room. I haven't heard anything from her and I believe that she is done. We are still married however and I still love her deeply. I need advice and help. i know if I contact her she is not going to answer so I haven't called. What do I do?

In response to the original question, albeit three years ago (!!!!), (hm, I wonder how they made out?).

heck yes! I did the old google search for 'wife prgant crazy' and arrived here. I read and they said in classes that your wife might be crazy when pg, but DANG! Baby is 36w0d tomorrow, and for I don't know how long, my wife will be supremely crabby one minute and then 15 minutes later totally opposite, and of course it is always my fault when she's mad about something. If I am not in motion, she will give/"order" me something to do, and it always has to be NOW. I gave up on logic or reason, there is none. ONly thing to do is agree and do everything she wants. I swear, I dread coming home at night. It's like living with a psycho who switches moods all the time between angry and calm/happy. I want to start to spend more time in the yard or exercising or at work just to stay away.

I dont know what to do i feel like i am gonna lose it she has been so mean latley. we are going on are 8th week. and i feel like nothing i do is good enough for her i make her lunch and bring it to her every day. I tell her she is beautiful and i kiss her and rub her back and her belly. I tell her how much i love her every day and how much she means to me and thank her for giving me this wonderful miracle were going to have together. I just wish she would tell me how much i mean to her and make me feel like i am with her during this whole thing. All i ever do is try to make her happy maybe one day she will see how wonderful i am to her. I love her so much

I know EXACTLY how you guys feel! my pregnant fiance in deffinitely NOT the same girl i asked to marry! she is about to go into her second trimester and i have hell to pay everyday. Nothing i do is good enough, everything i say is insensitive, just being in the proximity annoys her to the point that i cant talk to her with out getting yelled at. i know its the "hormones" but wow! thesae pregnant girls need to give us a break! we bust our humps trying to give you the world and make you happy during the nine monthes,.....and 18 years afterward! haha... anyway, here is what i posted on another forum, i thought i may share with you all......
"I love my Fiance more than anything and we would do anything for eachother. being recently engaged (3 weeks now) i would have imagined feeling more love from her than ever befor. But with her being neer the end of her first trimester i feel so emotionally neglected and unappreciated. i do so much for her and try to make this pregnancey as comfortable for her as i can. I cook, clean, do the dishes, go shopping so she doesnt have to. basically, ANYTHING she wants she gets, and all she has to do is ring her little silver bell. So, im all new to this and this will be our first child. I am totally stoked to be a dad. and more suprised at myself that im doing such a good job..........weeeellllllll, apparently not so much in her eyes. nothing i do is right, i annoy her just being in proximity, i dont get the "i love you" from her much any more, and when i do hear her tell me that, it almost seems forced. her sence of humor is gone, sex drive is null, and even if i bring up the subject of sex i feel horrible for even thinking about it. basically, my question is this; What about the mans needs in a pregnancy? i feel walked on and unappreciated for the mountains i have moved for her and our unborn child. granted, there are so many changes going on in her body and those awefull things called hormones. she is deffinitely not going through this alone. i feel the full force of her emotions when she shuts me out, neglects me, and expects me to wait on her hand and foot. dont get me wrong, i love to do anything for my family even if it means sacrificing my own happines. but please dont turn off the sex! it seems like as soon as i slid that three ct. platnum ring on her finger flipped a switch and shut off her sex drive! im going insane! i thought for sure id be getting it a lot more often. im simple, all i want to do is make love. then im happy. ill do anything for your comfort. but do NOT hod sex above our heads like a treat for a dog that just did a trick for his owner! that is how i feel."
......anyway, i just wanna feel the love and appreciation again.

oh yea, one last thing, i got a piece of advice from a good friend that had already raised her own children..."just know that whatever you do, its not going to be good enough, but its ok because she knows you are amazing and love you more than ever after everything".................well, im sticking to my guns and convinced that pregnant girls are absolutely crazy!

Rider...you think you are so great...doing all these things for your fiance. What about before she got pregnant? She probably did all these things for you and more! I doubt you showed even a little bit of appreciation for her hard work. You seem completely insensitive, and if you were sensitive you would not have to whine and complain about what you're not getting. Get over yourself and grow up. Life is not only about what you can get. I hope your unborn child is nothing like you..the world needs fewer of your type. And by the way...her 3 ct. platinum ring?? Yeah right....

HappyWife of course it was a 3ct platinum ring, - only he forgot to mention it was a 3ct glass platinum coated ring, which he probably picked up from some hock shop for $5. Hahahahahaha NO BLOODY WONDER SHE'S PISSED WITH HIM! :)

I'll tell ya, this might be the best web site I ever found! My wife is a psycho since becoming pregnant and I have gone through the whole gammet of emotions from love me today all the way to she hates me and wouldn't care if I was gone tomorrow. Thank God I am not alone and can relate to these stories. I was really begining to think that she really did hate me. It makes it much easier saying yes honey 24/7 when you know that your not alone!!

Lol this is my first post and exactly what i was going to ask, my fiancee is 13 weeks now, and for the last 6 weeks has done nothing but rip into me about everything, also admitted now hating me , this from a stable relationship, i actually moved out for a month i couldnt take it anymore.i am glad i found your post that its normal

Dont worry about it, baby number 4 on its way and if my wife's anything to go by its the NORM. She screams at other drivers, little kids, the builders finishin the estate where we live, the list goes on and on! Oh and other shoppers. If it helps i think my better half needs an electric collar in public. Dont despair just hang in there.

Mine is a total bitch. She broke up with me and then we got back together again. She broke up yet again with me because she was too stressed to be with someone. Ever since shes been acting like a bitch and I just recently found out she is going out with another guy. Since we aren't together, I chose to ignore what is happening. I swear to god that if she catches a disease, I will call social services on her....she is an irresponsible mother with already a 1 year old from her other "ex". Her other ex hated her so much through out the pregnancy that after the baby was born, he went and put himself on child support, so he wouldn't have to hear from her ever again. Well i'm fed up just like he was. I will request a paternity test and if the child is mine, I will put myself on child support and request visitation rights...she wants a battle, she gonna get it.

omg i didnt realize what you were saying until right now. i have been so mean to my boyfriend i love him with all of my heart but i just feel so out of control sometimes like i am out of my own body and unfortunately he gets to deal with the aftermath. all i can tell you is to hang in there and if shes a good woman she will realize how awesome you are for tolerating this horrible cruelty she truly is lucky, as am i I LOVE YOU JOSH

I don't know what to say, More are less I cry. I cry because I worry about are future and how my child will grow up. My fiance jill is being horrible to me. She is being distant,mean, and not including me in her life. Before she got pregnant are life was wonderful we were so in love and ready to get married. now she says she doesnt want to get married any time soon. I cry because I know thaat this woman is my all. I love her very much but just dont see a very good future ahead. Could this just be that she is pregnant??? I cry

I FEEL YOU BRO!! MY BABBYMOMMA LOOKS LIKE A DEMON WHEN SHE MAD BUT I LOVE HER AND I BEEN TRYIN TO SHOW HER THAT I LOVE HER AND I DO CARE A LOT ABOUT HER AND ITS HAS BEEN DOING GREAT.YOU SHOULD TRY IT BRO!!