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She Left Me...Please Read This Cant Be Her Hormones Anymore!
2 posts on this thread and the last post was on December 21st, 2008 3:39 AM
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 | Tbaum39 - December 8th, 2008 2:39 AM |
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Crystal and I were together for 7 months before she got pregnant. When she found out, she ran off to her sisters for a week. When she came back home she was fine for a bit but her hormones of course were going crazy, she was not as nice as usual and she would not kiss me or anything. Well she started telling me she does not love me anymore. We got over that point then we moved into her sister when she was about 2months. I lived there for 3 days then woke up one morning and she was just being really awful to me. She kicked me out and Now I have not been able to talk to her but maybe 3 times. Each time she just keeps saying no no we will never be together again. Were over and stuff like that. She just hangs up on me each time. So she is about 4 months pregnant now and I never get a call or anything. She goes and hangs out with her friends and such all the time but yet no time for the babies daddy. We had a very happy relationship beforehand. Now I am just pushed out of the picture. If anyone can help me please tell me whats going to happen with us. Were both 18 years old. Her sister does not like me at all which I am sure is not helping.
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I have been in this situation before only on her side of the story. It's hard to definitively tell if it's just hormones or her true feelings. Was she this way before the pregnancy? Did you two fight often? I think it's important to thoroughly analyze the relationship before the pregnancy to see if you may have missed something...trust me it's entirely possible to overlook the tiny details when you are generally happy. I hope that if you truly want to be a father to this child that she allows you to (only way to get court ordered visitation is to pay child support), but if not just make it very clear that you want to be involved with anyone you can....dutifuly pay child support....that's the best advice I can give you
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| anebir - December 21st, 2008 3:39 AM |
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I'm in a similar situation in that my ex is due to give birth in a couple of weeks time
first thing to say is that women's hormones are all over the place when they get pregnant, and things would probably be tough between you even if you were still together as it is a massive life-changing responsibility for both parents
my ex's behaviour changed in exactly the same way and it's hard to deal with, but as previous reply suggests you need to ask yourself was the relationship perfect before as the stresses of pregnancy can expose cracks that were previously covered up.
Don't get too down - her feelings may change with time as she comes to term with what the future will bring
If you don't get back together then focus on the positive of you becoming a father rather than the negatives
Try and separate your feelings between those towards the mother and those about the baby - if you don't get back together then separate your feelings about that from those about the baby, and then ask yourself how much involvement you are going to want with your child - if the answer is as much as possible there are loads of websites containing advice about the legal and money issues plus forums where you can chat with and get support from other absent parents
above all - try and focus on the positive!
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