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When Will Father Accept Pregnancy

3 posts on this thread and the last post was on August 9th, 2005 12:27 AM
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Molly - August 4th, 2005 7:39 AM
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Hi There, can anyone give me advice- I am 20 wks with 1st baby- unplanned but very welcome! When we found out my partner was devastated- wanted me to have abortion- he felt he was too young- he is 24 I am 29. However there was no question of this and I thought he was coming to terms with things, he has been to scans etc. However when we went shopping in Mothercare last week, he was very unhappy and I confronted him- after begging him to tell me how he feels he tells me that he still does not want the baby- but loves me to bits and will go along with it! He is a wonderful man, who I thought would make a lovely dad, we have a great home together and I love him dearly- part of me thinks he will come around to the idea especially when the baby is born, but the other half of me thinks we will end up seperating- I can not bear to think of this, as it breaks my heart. Does anyone else have any similar experiences. Everything else in the relationship is fantastic- Am I being too sensitive and wanting to much?

Porter - August 4th, 2005 2:54 PM

Dont worry molly, he wont leave you over it, i think right now hes just worried. Its a big responsibility all the way around and i think hes just really nervous give him some time to come around, when the baby comes he will change his mind about the whole thing, but for some reason if he doesnt, dont sweat it, i dont think he's going to leave you. good luck.

Michelle - August 4th, 2005 7:00 PM

I also think he is just nervous.It took my whole pregnancy for my husband accepted our 8month old.I think that when i had that ultrasound at 8 months pregnant is when he changed his mind.He was wanting me to give her to him the second i got her in my arms after birth lol.

Rachel - August 9th, 2005 12:27 AM

Molly, to me it sounds like he is just scared. My bf seemed abit iffy when i told him about my pregnancy, but has since been to an ultrasound and that totally changed him, I think maybe when it really hits him, that this is his child, his creation, he might change his tune about things, Just dont stress too much.