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Im married and am 4 months pregnant.My husband cheated on me before and he probably still is cheating.After work he gos out doesnt come home late and its stressing me because im pregnant and woried its my first child and hes not there for me.I dont even think he cares that im having his child.Its so sad because you think you know a person but ur living with a stranger that is just pretending.Not only that ,he also beats me and can be out of control when his angry.He lies alot even about the most little stupid things and its killing me because i dont understand people like him,i also dont know how am i supposed to leave him right now that am pregnant and i know my parants would worry.Im stuck in this position and really dont know what to do...all i do is try but nothing seems right his just getting worse.I really miss our good times and the person he used to be and i once knew.Its sad how people can change.And its sad how married men are acting like 15 year old little boys.

I don't think it's fair to men to generalize, my husband doesn't cheat and he reminds me all the time how sexy I am and how much he loves me etc...Okay so maybe I'm lucky in comparison to some women on this site, but there are also many posts asking which man they slept with is most likely the father of their child! Bottom line, men and women alike can be cruel and thoughtless and irresponsible. To all the women whose husbands are cheating, I feel very bad for you but how can I come up with something supportive to say? It's unacceptable, pregnant or not! And Stacy, by making a pact to stay with your husband until your children are 18, doesn't that give him the green light to do whatever he pleases and still know you will stick by him? I have step-parents and siblings and we all deal with our family situation maturely and lovingly, and believe me kids are much more solid than we all think. In any case, that's my opinion, good luck and I really hope your husband changes, but come on women, please don't say that you have no alternatives.

What a joke "why dont u give him what he wants so he doesnt have to get it from somwhere else?" marriage isnt a contract that says "i will have sex the second u want it" and life isnt all about wat one person wants. u must be single bill to have an outlook like that, or ur one of the guys that cheats. sex isnt everything. hope everything works out for u stacy!

That is just totally messed up. For you to cheat on your wife is bad enough, but to do it when she is pregnant with your child is just down right WRONG. Learn some control. Pregancy is tough for women. I have a good idea for the guys, Take a good handful of tobacco and swallow it. Get your stomach nice and upset, have the cold sweats, the vomiting,,,, do you feel like having sex now? Welcome to our world of pregnancy.

This is pointless. No one is saying cheating on your wife is OK. The only point I've wanted to make is that just because your pregnant doesn't stop a man from wanting and needing his wife. Pregnancy does affect the libido. Some women can't get enough some could careless. I would scream at the men who don't give it to their women when they want it too. I just think that it's unfair for someone to hijack someone else sexuality. I personally believe sex to be a good and needed thing in a relationship. A relationship lacking in physical intimacy is a problem. This isn’t about orgasms people.

Bill- No this isn't about orgasms but it IS about how selfish and insensitive you are! Every woman does not react to pregnancy the same. And until you have another HUMAN BEING growing inside of you and YOU have to deal with all the changes and aches that you grow through as a woman I suggest you STOP judging your wife. She is carrying your child and the LEAST you could do is be caring and supportive to her because you have NO idea what it's like!!! Maybe if you tried to be more loving she would come around, you act like this sex drought will last forever, she is going thru right now so stop being a jerk and love and support her until she feels up to sex again!!!!!!!!!!!!

Bill- AND if your relationship is based on sex you don't have a relationship anyway. So don't blame the lack of sex eventually YOU would've found something else wrong with her and would try and justify your selfish feelings!!!!!!!!!

My wife was pregnant and I did not cheat. I think any decent man will not cheat. If he cheated it was not because you are pregnant. It is because you have a naughty husband. Take it from me, your husband cheated on you for reasons other than your pregnancy and I think you need to address these... good luck and I truly am sorry to hear of this.

stacy,Iam in the same spot you are in I"M due this nov.my husband and I have a great relationship we are bestfriends but this is the 3rd women that I have found out he had sex with, we have great sex and 3 kids back to back we have no money prombles and all our friends get along I want to leave but I to do not what my kids to have stepparents and I want to be the one to raise my kids not half the time or part time but full time so I will try to make this work for as long as I can he said he loves me and we have a great marriage just the whole sex thing, it is hard but how do I know that the next man I will be with will not cheat on me??? so for me I will do what is the best for my kids after all I brought them into this world and my own step dad was bad and I cant take that chance with my own kids. I wish you the best

Missy - So sorry to hear what you ex did to you. I almost cried when you said you were alone in the hospital. I'm so glad to hear everything worked out for you.
Barbara - I hope everything works out for the best for you and you can keep your family together. Thank you for your nice reply.

I found this thread trying to figure out the same thing Stacy. Except with me it's more suspicion than anything. But regardless, men have NO CLUE what we go through when we are pregnant. Sometimes I wish they knew what it was like to be in our shoes for one day. They wouldn't lastI am 3 months pregnant and this feels like the worse ever. My husband went to Conn. this weekend and went from calling me to giving me 1 measly phone call. Except my reaction to that when he finally did call was loud mean and nasty, not to mention what I did to his clothes. The point is, holding it in and excepting it is not good. I did that during my last pregnancy and lost my child when I was 8 1/2 months pregnant. Tell him how you feel about it. It may help you in the long run...

Ok, now that I am pg, my dh won't even TOUCH me. He's had an affair before Years ago, so is he doing it now, or does he find me repulsive? I feel fat and ugly and he doesn't tell me other wise. I dont' even get kisses anymore. and I am only 3months along. what am I gong to do for th enext 6?

to the ones who say we stick it in and don't care what happens...wrong.. Men cant get pregnant... If we could, we would make damn sure it was with the right person before it happened...not after... as for cheating...men like to have sex...sperm are cheap and eggs are expensive... in other words...we cast our seed to the wind in hopes they find a bloom to re-produce... its nature... we have 100 times more reproductive power in a pin sized drop of semen than a woman has eggs in her whole life..go figure...what to do with all these soldiers...enjoy life

What a huge bunch of crap. No ladies, most men DO NOT cheat on their wives simply because they are pregnant. I NEVER did, thru 7 pregnancies. Of all my male friends, who are quite honest, none have cheated- except one, who DID NOT want to become a father and was tricked into it. Yes, that does happen. He has no hope for the relationship nor does he want one with her. Can't even say as I blame him. For those of you who have cheating husbands... I am sorry you got stuck with a loser like that. Oh, and one more point....most (near all) men I know DO NOT find their preg. wives unatractive. You really underestimate a lot of men.

CONGRAT's to the primitive men on this site who never learned self control!! I've never heard more B.S. in my life than from those of you saying you cant control yourselves while your wife is going through more discomfort and pregnancy related stress than you will ever understand. And for the man who wrote the comment about the pharomones.....I believe humans have evolved enough this day in time to take more responsiblity for their actions. You may be right about the pharamone thing, but I believe that was something that ensured the continuation of the human species at the time of the homo sapians (who were too primitive to know how to handle a relationship with another human being). I really hope that you and your body has kept up with this evolution.

i just have to say if your husband is cheating on you while your pregnant not only is he hurting you but putting your unborn child and also you in danger with all the crap that is around these days and I am sorry but a woman that would sleep with a man she knew was married and had a baby on the way is a "ho" and if she is a "ho" then she prolly has all kinds of nasty things growing down there....My ex cheated on me now he is my ex I gave him no second chance I took my self to the doc and got checked out to make sure that jerk did not give me anything!! Now I am happily re-married and I know my hubby would not cheat on me not while I am pregnant and not ever he is just a good guy and when I am not feeling like it he has a nice magazine collection he can turn to ha ha lol that is his "other woman" and you know I can live with that!! good luck but I would say get rid of that bum...before he gives you what ever the skeevy slut he is sleeping with has!!