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momo2* Really they dont shave anymore? i had my dd 9 months ago at one of the top hospitals in my country and i definitly was advised before hand that it needed to be done before the O R.

Really eh Babygirl15? I guess all places are different. In that case, I would definately agree with you that I would rather do that job myself!!

Wow. This is the most paranoid thread I've read in a loooong time. Don't use christianity as a cover up for your insecurity. It is not the "christian thing to do" to be a paranoid, obsessive, insecure prude. 1) You need counseling, because your feelings are way over the top and 2) your wife is feeding your insecurities by telling you stories about male doctors. You both need help.

yes, they still shave pubic hair, and right after insert a folly cathedor.(by the way, how is it possible to do that without handling the clitorius?(immpossible!)) fortunatly it was a female nurse the whole way through for us. we made it through without any males involved. i suppose when i think about some of the early incidents(the other pregnancy and the other doctor) i still get a little emotional about it. and i do check this post from time to time. as far as getting an exam, myt wife was examined almost everytime she went. and one particular vulgar procedure the doctor places a finger in both the vagina and rectum at the same time. i am sorry folks, we have to draw the line somewhere. why would anyone agree to such a perverted procedure? to me, using a male doctor or nurse for this stuff is like taking a candy bar off the shelf, taking a bite off, sealing the wrapper, putting it back on the shelf, and expect no one to be offended, and act as though it were still brand new. would you want to purchase and eat that candy bar? and also, its not about insecurity. i know my wife would not cheat on me, i just think it is plain wrong.

You really come across as a paranoid individual. You strike me as the type of husband that is opposed to your wife breast feeding the baby because you perceive her breasts as being yours and the baby nursing violates the sense of possession that you feel towards your wife's body. You need some serious counseling!!

I can't believe this thread is still current. A little neurotic to be obsessing over this for this long, please get help.

Mr Panic.... GET HELP NOW! Also... the clitoris is not "handled" to insert a foley cath. You scare me.

What is so wrong with you guys? I mean it isn't pleasant for us either. We don't dream about this. It's a DOCTORS VISIT!!!! I really think theropy would be good for the guys who get sooo upset about another dog near your toys. I mean come on. How about being supportive instead of insecure?

mr panic-you were worried about the men getting aroused by looking at your wife and examining her, but did you ever wonder whether that nurse that inserted that cathader and as you say had to touch the clitoris got aroused? how many of the women who are in there get aroused by looking at a woman?if men arent in the profession to deliver babies and are only there for the women and money, then why are the women in that profession? as far as the exam where they place a finger in the vagina and the rectum what was that exam for because my sister had 2 kids and never mentioned this at all?

how can you insert a cath without topuching iit then?

this is over a year old and you are still fuming about it? you have a child spend time with it instead of rehashing this over and over. we all understand that you were upset, but over a year later and you are still worked up over it. i think that it may be time for you to see a counselor or seek some type of professional help. i am sorry if that comes off as rude not meaning it that way, but you have a baby that needs your full attention spend time with you family and let this go. it is over and done with and you resolved the problem by having females in the operating room, didnt you? all this hostility that you still have cant be good for you or your family. take care

Mrpanicatm...I have followed this thread since it began, and I wanted to ask you this: If your wife were dying in child birth at the side of the road, and the only help to come along was a male doctor, and he had to do an internal exam... which would end up saving both lives, wouldn't you be glad he came along? And... if you and your wife were soooo offended by "one particularly vulgar exam" which involved the doctor putting a finger in the vagina and the rectum at the same time -- why would you consent to it? I've been to the doctor's office and REFUSED various tests / exams due to being uncomfortable. For me... I find that I do best when I ask ahead of time what specifically will be done. And... i ask you...exactly WHAT exam required a finger to be insterted into the anus?? Thats a load of shit. Name me the exam that required a finger in the anus and the vagina at the same time during pregnancy... I'm calling your bluff. There ISN"T ONE -- I JUST asked my OB that question, and she said -- and I quote "bullshit". The only test involving the anus at ALL in pregnancy is the Group B Strep Test... and that involves a q-tip touching the outer rim of the anus in a circular motion. Nothing inserted at all. Sooo... if the doctor DID do that... you need to find out why, and get his medical notes, and then sue him.

AMEN-WRIGHTOFWAY- I am glad that I am not the only one who thought that was bullshit. I think that his wife is telling him this stuff just to get him stirred up and he is buying it. If the doc really did do that then they need to file a complaint against him because they shouldnt have. Like you said if they didnt want the exam because it was too intimate or personal or for religious beliefs then they should have refused it. Maybe one of them has gotten fixed so that they will no longer have to worry about having male doctors during childbirth.

Im surprised that this is still an one going thread. i read this while i was 6 months pg and like my son is 3 1/2 minths lol change the subject

MrPanicman... I am guessing that you have NO idea where the clitoris is....b/c the only thing that has to be done to insert a foley cath is to open the vagina using a gloved hand... two fingers... one on each of the labia...usually w/ the palm of the elbow of the nurse facing towards the patients head. The Clitoris is above the uretha (where the cath is inserted)... the nurses hand is placed BELOW the clitoris. EVEN if they did accidently touch it.... it takes great effort and CLOSE attention to insert a staight or foley cath.... they have no time to "think" about anything else other than getting the cath in....

oops.. not palm of elbow.. haha... who knows what I was thinking. I meant the elbow facing the patients head