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Can't you take it to court, and maybe go for custody of your unborn child? Or get visitation rights, etc? I feel for you, I really do and I wish you the best!

hey bud going through the same thing. this might sound deep but check if this happened to your father was he married when you or other children where concieved. things like this get past down in genrations. you need to break it now so it does not happen to your kids. im told stick in there things might change its hormones

Hi, first of all, can I just say she sounds terrified and like all her defences have gone up in an attempt to be strong enough to get herself and her child through this. She's taking on alot, you were only together a short while and she found out she was pregnant, so you were still very much in the honeymoon period. Its a rare relationship that makes it through something like this after such little foundation. Also, can I just say the shutting you out thing may change some when the baby actually comes. Being a single mother with sleepless nights and bf and everything is a tough prospect and in terms of her wanting you involved and helping then that MAY change. I would be really careful at that stage of either one of you making snap decisions, because you are driven by emotions that do not last, fear, joy and idealism. As for the relationship, I would just give that a miss. You can't make someone want you and why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want you like that. Its no longer about the two of you anyway its about your little girls. I'd say try and invest in the friendship and secure your position with her legally in terms of access and child support. You are primarily the father to your children in these relationships and you seem to be doing a good job with your older daughter in maintaining a healthy relationship and there is no reason you can't do that with your second daughter. I realise its not ideal but very little is in this life. I think you need to remember the stuff between you and your father is between you both and your relationship with your girls does not have to be affected by it. Its a new world and the only accepted important thing is that children know they are loved by both their parents. You can do that without living with your girls by being a good example of a decent man and by making sure they are always your priority and that they know that they are always your priority. I wish you luck and congratulations on becoming a father for a second time. Who knows, in time after the babys settled in and you have both adjusted to your new lives, maybe you will rediscover the spark you initially had, but then I am a romantic at heart.

is it definately your child hey-joe? a month doesnt seem like a very long time to be with someone and suddenly be pregnant! perhaps she is pushing you away because of her guilt?